Mothra

joined 2 years ago
MODERATOR OF
[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 3 points 10 months ago

That's really cool

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 1 points 10 months ago

Is this a sweater tailored to magically be uncomfortable for everyone or is this just a regular scratchy sweater? I actually like a lot of fabrics most people complain about for being scratchy, and I tolerate heat a lot - cold is usually my problem.

So, I don't know. If it's something I can tolerate then something like 30k a year would make a great difference in my quality of life atm.

If it's something I can't stand though, I think your 200k a year seems more reasonable.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Yeah I've had a look at the other replies and I'm sorry you don't have this knowledge. I gather she is possibly young and you are her first guy, so take it easy.

So I'll tell you a few things that work for me but bear in mind if she really isn't sensitive this is going to be a waste of time.

One thing to keep in mind is that touching yourself doesn't feel the same as being touched. Try to tickle your own armpits. You're going to have to put some effort into it to feel the tickles, and you probably won't flinch. Now compare that to someone else tickling you. Different sensation and reaction, right?

Something similar happens with other parts as well. I usually prefer massaging right next to the clitoris, and my own fingers in that area are just fine. Someone else's though, are not. Things feel either a bit painful or numb and it's just annoying.

To get around this, some indirect stimulation is good. One thing that works is covering the clit with the labia majora. Once it's protected and buried there, the other person can massage vigorously or gnaw and it's pleasant, for me at least. Now flesh is different in everyone so this may not be an option for some people.

You can also try a vibrator and keep a good distance from the clitoris (this may change depending on the toy used) but don't think you need to use it closely. I'd suggest applying pressure with it against her body and keep it at least 10 cm away from the clitoris, then gauge if it needs to be moved.

Finally, lordosis! Some positions may be more pleasant than others. For me it's always doggy since I find the more I arch my back and lift my butt up, the better it feels around the general area of the clitoris. I've found women who agree with me in this, those who strongly disagree and those that shrug so again, YMMV.

I hope some of this helps, good luck there.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 9 points 10 months ago (1 children)

This image leaves me with more questions than I'd like to admit. Any context to it?

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Fellow synaesthete here but color grapheme, not the type of the article. May I ask what's your approx age now? I've also noticed a mild decline in my own, but it's still there. I'm in my mid 30s.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 13 points 10 months ago (3 children)

Hello. I might be of a similar build as your partner. And here is the key question: Is she able to pleasure HERSELF via clitoris YES or NO?

Personally my answer for this is yes, but so far I've never met anyone who could do this for me without some heavy guidance. I would absolutely NOT enjoy my clit rubbed roughly or gently, with fingers or tongue, with or without lube. Thinking about it alone makes me wince. The clit you see is always like the tip of the iceberg, there is a very sensitive part poking but there is a much larger nerve network underneath. Most people seem to find pleasurable working with the tip of the iceberg alone, and that's what you seem to have described. But some prefer working with what's surrounding it, and it is still technically clitoral stimulation so that's what my question is about.

If she tells you the only way she's ever going to orgasm is by penetration, then leave it at that.

If instead she says yes she can but that it is too difficult to explain/guide someone else to do it, then I can give you a few pointers to start exploring. Everyone is different so I can't guarantee what works for me also works in your case though, but it's worth a shot. It took me a while to figure out how my own body worked and I can understand someone just opting to skip the hassle of having to teach another person how to do this especially when getting it wrong can get painful/ kill the mood/ lower their or your confidence/ end in an argument etc.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 14 points 10 months ago

Jurassic Park 1

Blade runner 1

2001: a Space Odyssey

The Matrix 1

They all hold up so well and in particular their vfx. In the Matrix it's probably more the plot than the vfx, even though it had merit coining that frozen up bullet time shot aesthetic. But in general every time I watch these I can't help but marvel at how well put together they are and then I remember when they were released and then I compare them to the mediocre releases decades after that and yeah. I'm in awe.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 13 points 10 months ago (1 children)

No, I think OP really hit the nail with something most people can relate to

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Lol. Thanks for typing this. As a woman, I always had a similar appreciation of most menswear but couldn't really articulate what was about it that made it feel so off.

There are a few places where there is nice mens clothing but it's usually ridiculously expensive.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 44 points 10 months ago

Hopefully until the platform dies

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 4 points 10 months ago

Ohhh didn't know about libredirect

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 1 points 10 months ago

I appreciate your choice of dessert

view more: ‹ prev next ›