You are probably correct.
Your comment speaks to the nonsense of hating a whole group while never getting to know people in that group as individuals. And just like you, once you get to know individual people you realize how dumb it is to hate a whole group.
The conversations were mostly about the treatments for pancreatic cancer. Again since we were both in the medical field we understood them. He did do one treatment that would supposedly extend your life, but it was the usual of some remission but a month later the cancer continued to progress. During the treatment your quality of life is worse. So he ended all of them. The pain was horrible and eventually he went off into a morphine haze to death.
Other than the medical stuff we did have some discussion of a YouTube interview that I had sent him. There was a study done showing that those very close to death, while awake and conscious would see "visions" of previously deceased family or friends reassuring them that there was nothing to fear. We discussed this several times in his last month, but he never saw any visions.
I had a good friend who I met as a co worker. We were both in the healthcare field and eventually both of us left the original company and moved onto different companies. We were both history buffs. We had lots of discussions over the years about history, politics, and of course the gossip in our industry. He was always an ideolog about politics. I only cared about policies. Did they work or not. I never cared about a specific candidate or party. He was such a nice person that I would kid him about being so serious about political stuff.
Neither of us were religious and due to the field we were in, we both agreed that consciousness, what makes you - you - is in your brain. You die, your brain dies, and that is the end of you.
Our discussions averaged once a week and always via email. Then there came a time when I hadn't heard from him for a few weeks. Several of my emails went unanswered. He eventually got back to me and retold what had happened over the previous weeks. He had stomach issues. He didn't think it was serious but regardless of the drugs he was prescribed he didn't get any better. Went to several doctors and eventually was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.
Since we were both in the healthcare industry we knew this was a death sentence. Many who are faced with this diagnosis grasp at treatments or even religion to save them or at least extend their lives beyond the usual 6 months to a year death sentence.
My friend died 10 months after he received his diagnosis. We continued to communicate during those 10 months, but there was no more discussion about politics or world events. He had reached the point where all of that stuff was now irrelevant. We are all going to die yet we get so caught up in bullshit that in the end means nothing.
Since his death I think of him often. Out driving someone cuts me off, I am faced with a new policy at work, or I wanted to go to the beach and it rains all day. The things that would anger me or frustrate me are now put in a better perspective. None of it means much in the big picture. I am going to die and how about just enjoying myself without getting pissed off at normal nonsense that we all deal with that we have no control over.
Not a headline about you. Just the top story in the news on the day that you die
I'm thinking everything at that point will be 3D holograms.
great picture. I'll bet that TV didn't even have one of the old style remotes to change channels
Yes it was. The next jump after traditional records was cassettes. I find it hilarious that people are going back to records vs. digital
or jury nullification
If she saws it off the tree it will get limp and be useless to her
She looks pretty good for someone who's dead. Wonder what her cause of death was
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I won't equate the death of humans with pets, BUT pets live WITH us. You see them everyday. They make you happy. They live in the moment with zero anxiety about later today, tomorrow, or next week. Over the years I have had 2 dogs. And when they died I was more crushed than the death of any human including my parents. When you live with a pet or a human (spouse) and they die you are reminded everyday that they are no longer there and will never return.