MechanizedPossum

🦐 is missing from this picture

otherwise it is highly accurate

I have skulls on my helmet, how do you not get this?

That's the most queerphobic thing i've read all month and that's after having gotten into two online arguments with people who thought nonbinary transfems can't be lesbians in the last week alone.

As others have pointed out, your experience is actually highly typical of the community at large. As in, you hit all the marks of actually common trans biographies. The thing is, if you feel that you're speedrunning your transition and that you aren't ready for bottom surgery yet, it's ok and valid to postpone and make another appointment at a later date, or to call it off entirely. You can progress through this at your own pace, it's your decision which steps to take and it doesn't make you less trans or less of a woman when you're unoperated, the only question should be what kind of body you want to live in and that just varies a lot from person to person. I know several people who went off testosterone HRT and still identify as nonbinary and are still gender as fuck and active parts of local queer communities. I just met another one yesterday at my local dyke bar, bowl cut, miniskirt and complete bear mode body hair, pronouns any / all, but statistically they count as a detransitioner when the reality is simply that they've gotten all they want out of T and are fine with that. The idea that we need to follow a pre-determined checklist of necessary transition steps and must not deviate from it, the threat that backing down, reversing, stopping or just pausing aren't acceptable options, that's such a pile of horseshit. This isn't how our lives play out irl, people are messy and complicated and we're allowed to have messy and complicated relationships to our gender and to our transition.

soap opera where they visit moral dilemma planet, but yeah

washable

Nah, that's hospitalized by transgender

Also fuck yourself doubly for being a cis shit that tries to have an opinion about trans issues AND COMPLETELY IGNORES ANYTHING TRANS REALTED ABOUT THEM, i'll file another report of your shitty post. We never should have federated with your shitty instance full of wehrmacht apologists, fuck you.

Oh come the fuck on. Just shupt up, dude. "Not all men" is just a generally shitty response that shifts conversations about toxic masculinity, SA etc. away from those affected. It centers men in a conversation about issues that disproportionately harm women and nonbinary people. It is the telltale sign of men refusing to take responsibility for their own participation in coercive patriarchal structures, a horribly dumb behavior as patriarchy is provably harmful to men. Yet you folks can't stop defending it and downplaying your complicity in it.

Notably, this is a thread about transmasculinity and the difficulties of having masculinity as a transition goal in a culture that has deeply contaminated masculinity to create oppressive structures and you dipshit barge in here to NOT ALL MEN this. You walk into a trans space and turn it into a platform for liberal antifeminism. Fuck you, you disgusting debate pervert, crawl back to reddit you stupid shit.

cronch

I've supressed being trans for decades and let me tell you, it doesn't get better. Anything besides being fully out, living as your actual gender(s) fulltime and taking all the physical transition steps you need to feel comfortable in your own skin will only hurt yourself more and more and if it turns out that your environment is not accepting and that you need a completely new social circle, breaking off all contact and starting all over again within the trans community is both possible and worth it. If moving to another state or to another country even is the only option, that's how it is. If you're trans, you'll never do more than surviving in absolute misery if you keep up the lie of being your AGAB.

After i finally cracked, i needed almost a year to sort myself out and start actually experimenting, and that's a process in itself, but i'm begging you people to do yourself a favor and stop being closeted. You're missing out on so much. I get that the first steps are scary, but once you realize that you can just go out and present as your actual gender in public and nobody's stopping you, life becomes so much better.