Problem with corporal punishment is that the adults who would put it in the job description and accept it will tend to be into it. Same for domination.
I prefer a job where the methodology at least trends towards the supposedly intended results, not that I'm at all opposed to fetish/kink fulfilment. Just don't tell me the purpose is to help you write an unrelated book, or that my performance is evaluated by your progress in such at all.
Could be. The obliviousness is far more disappointing though. She might have liked OP better than her boyfriend in the end. At a minimum "I (knowing/unknowingly)turned down a threesome" is lot less pathetic than what we got.