Honestly, its a trope and a pretty common issue, as well as something I struggled with when I was young.
If you look at incels, its the reverse: a whole bunch of people convinced they lack something specific which others are singled out for to attract a lover, regardless of personality or character. They convince themselves they have nothing to offer but their "entitlement to sex", to the point they eventually become right about the nothing to offer part.
That's what makes his anti-Tate stance exceedingly cute, on so many levels. Not only does he lack the power or will or conviction of his words, but no-one one either side gives two shits what DeSantis has to say on this topic, or any other.