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Très intéressant, merci. Ce serait tellement mieux ça en natif, mais à défaut je pourrais poster deux liens, au lieu d'un seul comme ça chacune ferait comme ça lui chante. Je vais y réfléchir.

Comme les autres, c'est quoi le lien avec les wokes?

Mon seul conseil n'en sera pas un, ce sera juste un partage d'expérience: ma moitié et moi choisissons soigneusement les personnes avec qui nous passons du temps, surtout le temps dit libre mais pas que. En bonus à ce non-conseil: aussi impopulaire que ça puisse sonner aux chastes oreilles de notre époque baignée d'amour et de tendre fraternité, nous n'hésitons pas rafraîchir ce tri aussi souvent que cela nous semble utile.

Sinon, pour info, lorsque nous avons pris conscience de la merde qui se profilait, ma moitié et moi avons cessé de prendre l'avion vers la fin des années 90s (et on a plus jamais mis les pieds dans un avion), on n'a pas de voiture non plus, on a choisi de vivre dans un tout petit appartement, on consomme le moins qu'on peut , on fait durer au max tout (y compris les fringues), on ne part plus en vacances dans des endroits exotiques (local-only, et pas très souvent) et, cerise sur ce gâteau des horreurs écolo-militantes, on essaye même de réparer un max de choses (par exemple en apprenant la couture, moi à 40 ans, et l'électronique et la soudure, à 50 piges passées ou en passant à l'open source pour l'informatique et jeter moins de matos parce que Apple a décrété qu'il était temps d'acheter un nouvel ordi ou qu'elle a décidé que pouvoir le réparer c'est trop has been).

Bref, Il y aurait donc un risque réel que si nous passions une soirée ensemble tu nous considères comme faisant partie de ce groupe de casses-bonbons... Sauf que, en réalité, non car nos choix personnels ce n'est pas un de nos sujets de conversation, ni pour les (rares) gens que nous fréquentons. Mais là on revient à mon tout premier non-conseil: (oser ?) choisir avec qui passer son temps.
Car, comme aurait pu dire Brassens,

Le temps (et qu'ils soient woke ou pas) ne fait rien à l'affaire,
Quand on est con, on est con.

;)

Merci!

Je vais lire ça dès que possible.

If more of us were doing that, the world would most certainly be a much, much less shittier place than it is!

Je n'ai pas trouvé comment poster ma question plus clairement, désolé d'avance pour le risque de migraine ;)

Sur Lemmy, est-il possible de poster un lien vers un commentaire qui soit indépendant de mon instance? Un lien qui renvoie la personne qui clique directement vers la version qui correspondait à son instance à elle, pas à la mienne?

Genre pas un lien comme ça 'https://jlai.lu/comment/11268959' (et ça a vraiment tout changé pour moi ce que je dis là, au fait) Mais un lien 'Un-truc-machin-universel-qui-s'adapte-selon-l'instance-de-qui-clique-le-lien/comment/11268959'

Edit: un peu comme on a ce raccourci pour linker une communauté: !artporn@lemm.ee

Walking. Long daily walks.

It changed (& helped save) my life.

Edit (to give some context):
When I started to walk, I was barely able to walk at all. Like, really, a few steps to get to the mailbox would kill me and have me lay on bed for hours. I was in a really bad, bad shape (in the head too). Nowadays, I will walk 8-10km every single day and, added to that, I will go everywhere walking if at all possible. I'm still not an athlete but at the least my body is not a dead weight anymore (I feel better in the head too). And it all changed the day I decided I would simply walk a little more. A few steps at first, and then more, and then more. I was impressed by the huge impact of a seemingly little change. I celebrated each 'win' (the first time I walked the block, the first kilometer, and so on) and I never blamed myself for the (many) fails. Instead, I tried to analyze the reasons why I failed so I could do better next time.

A lot less than 1% of mine is Star Trek related. I'm not even even sure I've seen enough Star Trek content for it to register as a meaningful fraction of a %.

So, yeah I would think that:

is it just a side effect of the particular communities I’m in

Like discussed in another very recent topic related to porn, it's great to be able to easily filter-out whatever one does not wish to see.

Thx!

I edited the links. To non-expert me the way links work is still... unfamiliar ;)

This. I would not use a social network of any form I could not easily filter-out everything I'm not interested in. Be it porn, politics, endless drama, or whatever.

So, watching subscribed-only, the only porn I'm 'happily forced' to look at comes from
!artporn@lemm.ee and
!traditional_art@lemmy.world

As well as from a few other real nasty communities I'm into:

!calvinandhobbes@lemmy.world
!thefarside@sh.itjust.works
!raygungothic@lemm.ee,
!vintageads@sh.itjust.works,
!astrophotography@lemmy.world
!bats@lemmy.world
!birding@lemmy.world
!birding@slrpnk.net
!cassettefuturism@lemm.ee
!imaginary@reddthat.com
!mushrooms@lemmy.world

It's always a good idea to promote 'porn', right? ;)

Standard Notes is nice I have not yet tried their paid plans, I'm waiting to see what Proton will offer to their Proton users (I'm one) as they recently have purchased Standard Notes. I'm hoping for them to integrate it with their other apps/services.

Before that I journaled on a txt my computer, but sometimes it was a bit tedious.

Yeah, the strength of txt is that it's 100% compatible with any machine, and almost unbreakable, which is great but then you're on your own and you may not have all the more advanced or fancy features you may wish, or not natively.

I also have some journal notebooks that I use when it’s more to drop some ideas on paper, so that I can visualize them better

Visualization is so important. That's one of the reason I still prefer to use my analog 'zettelkasten' (an index card system to store ideas/notes) instead of using a digital one and a dedicated app like Obsidian or whatever. Despite all the hype around the digital zettelkasten it just don't click with me. One of the reasons why is that I can easily spread my old-fashioned index cards on one or more tables, and freely move and reorganize them. Something I simply cannot do with text files on a screen, no matter how feature-packed the app is.

This are really small notebooks so it’s usually very brief.

That could be worth discussing too: how the format of a notebook/sheet of paper. The next post I was preparing for the community is about picking up the 'best' writing tool (and why there is not a single one), I may add some remarks regarding notebooks too :)

First off: nice seeing action in this sub! And a really nice post - I like the random sketch and aquarell in there.

Thx!

You make a lot of interesting points/questions. By all means, do not hesitate to use them to open new discussions if you ever feel like it. Hopefully, it will encourage others around here to share their own experience and questions.

this is already started, might as well write something down“ mindset probably is a good start.

What I can say is that it has worked fine for me, so far ;)

I‘ve got that weird problem hanging around that I do not know what format I prefer… digital for easy access and archival? Blank notebook for the freedom? Calendar for the structure?

And then I do not start, because I am not decided on a medium. But I cannot decide on a medium because I haven’t started.

It’s not that weird and without taking too much risks, I think can say most of us can relate. It has bothered me for years, no, for decades.

What’s great is that you’re not completely stuck. I mean, you can decide to test one medium for a short period of time to see how well it works (while doing so, it’s best to completely ignore the alternatives, imho). Then uoi will know what could be improved and how, or if it just sucks. That’s how I generally try new things.

And the work you may have put in during that test will not be lost:

• Analog? You can scan your entries and make a PDF out of them, using nothing but a phone.
• Digital? Most apps should allow to print the entries or with any luck to export them into some usable format that you can then use to make nicer pages before printing them.

What can’t be done is scan or print a non-written journal, no matter it’s format ;)

(BTW, that’s how I left DayOne: I exported my entries into one huge PDF file. I had been using DO since it was first introduced, years before it become a subscription-based app, so there were a lot of entries. The page layout of their exported PDF is rather meh, I have hoped for years they would give us more export options, or at least various layouts to choose from, but they never did. It’s still readable though.

Just flipping through it and from some words or lines of text suddenly vividly remembering a day or event from your past is awesome.

This, 100%. And that’s the main reason I wanted to try ‘revitalize’ this community. Keeping and then re-opening a journal can be such a unique experience—not always an easy or a comfortable experience, but an enriching one. Even more so when done on the (very) long run... Even when switching between various media ;)

Currently I‘m keeping the „remembering“ and „reflection“ separate

That’s a neat idea. Something I should try as I always find my pages messy with too many different types of texts. Not sure I could keep a clear separation, though.

Thx for commenting!

Honestly my wife & I are uncomfortable, and we can’t help but side eye the dude.

To me that sounds much more like a (both of) you issue, more than an issue for either your son or his new friend. Why do you worry so much?

Nothing should prevent two persons appreciating one another to feel free to do so, be it as friends or more if affinity. Mandatory disclaimer since we now live full time in a very bad remake of Idiocracy: Im talking about two persons of legal age.

My suggestion to both your spouse and to you would be one that has already been made: try to know the guy better, maybe?

To which I would add this (sorry if this sounds harsh, I can write it much more delicately in French, if you prefer):

Your son is now an adult and he is beginning his new live. If you want to stay a relevant part of his life remember that he most likely will not choose his friends, nor his sex partner(s), nor his spouse in order to please or to reassure you. He has started building his own life, not an extension of yours.

That said, you should also feel free to tell him your worries and any doubt you may have, obviously. Just, remember that he is not 'your son' anymore, I mean he is, but he is also an adult person 100% free to make his own choices, like you are. And remember that it's one thing to share your questions and doubts with him, it's another thing to demand explanations or to tell him what he should (not) do, and with whom.

Life is all about making choice and accepting as a fact that will we make mistakes. At all age. And it is so for all of us—not just for your son.