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Those are good ideas, thx.

I don't know how cross posting works (really not an expert in any way, here), I will have to do some reading :p

There are lots of ways to go about things, the hard part is finding and keeping the motivation!

Indeed, and I must say that it never was my intention to create/moderate a community. I just wanted to revive it by regularly posting stuff in it. But I would also not want to help it get some activities going on without anyone able to keep trolls at large.

I have just posted the question in the Journaling community, will see how it goes... if it goes anywhere ;)

Thx a lot for the insight! I had not thought about any of those points. My only idea was, a bit naively I am afraid, to not create a new community since there was one existing already. But everything you said is very true.

As a downside, creating a new community would imply even less members participating, a lot less, at least to begin with but it may still be preferable if it means being able to shunt any troll.

Here is what I will do: I will ask the question on the existing community, ask members what they think would be best. If I get no answer, well, I'll fell less... wasteful by creating a new community from scratch. I will also ask the admins on my instance if that would be OK to host it as we're mostly speaking French, but I think they should be OK to host an English speaking community, at least I can ask.

Whatever I decide to do, I will also ping !newcommunities@lemmy.world.

Thx a lot, again :)

But does/can my idea hold any water? Is it credible? Or am I trying to put too much weight on a twig?

There is no such thing as 'too much weight on a twig'. At least, in theory. And it's even worse as far as 'credibility' goes. It's fiction and it's prose. Anything is 100% credible if it works. Anything becomes a(n abject) failure the moment it doesn't work.

I mean, it depends on your story (the characters, but also its scope and pacing, the way you focus or chose not to focus your reader's attention on other details, and so on), your style and mastery. It also heavily depends the type of reader you (want to) write for.

Sometimes neat ideas will work wonders, more often than not they won't work that well. You need to write it down to see if it works, or not. That's one of the reasons why, imvho, the process of working on a story should be much more accurately described as editing a story or even better re-writing that damn thing for the umpteenth time! ;)

The same things I do when there is power:

chat with my spouse, read, write, sketch, paint, play chess. I will also try to do some chores I have been avoiding for awhile ;)

Edit: we have a few portable reading lamps that will hold for many hours between charges, so we can read during the evening too. We also have flashlights and... candles, just in case we need them (so far, we never were cut off power long enough)

Not sure if that counts but I decided to spend some time posting and encouraging people to participate in the very inactive Lemmy Journaling community.

I have not posted much so far (started yesterday, with two posts) and, if you're wondering, I am not the creator of the community, not even an admin.

It's just that I have been journaling for many decades myself and I know people could gain a lot by journaling themselves. So, it makes me feel somewhat sad to see no activity going on in our community, with not that many subscribers either, while at the same time there are almost 2 millions subscribers to our reddit cousin r/journaling and, quite obviously, a lot more things going on there ;)

Frankly, I have no idea where this will go or if it will go anywhere at all. I just want to try to do something and so, for the time being, I will do my best to regularly post new content, hopefully encouraging other members to participate as well, and then encouraging new members to join and share whatever questions/doubts/ideas they may have too.

I am not a marketing pro, but feel free to come visit the Journaling community, and, by all means, to post stuff on your own if you're also a journaler (digital or analog, it should not matter). The more of us, the more various content we start sharing, the more likely we are to welcome new members.

Also, if you know of any other like-minded community feel free to share a link.

keep posting please.

Will do my best ;)

i used to journal a lot, but not so much now.

I have had quite a few years long break in the process. As I see journaling, that's part of the deal: it's not my job and if it's too hard or too... not interesting to do it at certain moments, well, I don't do it. The thing is that I always came back to it.

if nothing else, it’s a way to put chaotic monkey mind into some kind of order

Yep.

i used to use moleskine books, but switched to a brand called minimalism art, which are just as good quality, but not nearly as expensive

I have never myself been a huge fan of Moleskine simply because their paper doesn't play nice with fountain pens. It's fine with ballpoints, though.

I will try to see if I can find this 'minimalism art' but I don't think I have ever seen one around here.

BTW, if you or anyone else is looking for some cheap (at least, here in France and The Netherlands) very good quality notebooks, with good fountain pen friendly paper, you may want to have a look at the 'Art Creation' line.

In reality, they're sketchbooks and not notebooks, from Royal Talens, a brand that makes art stuff, paints and stuff like that. Their sketchbooks (from A6 to A4 in size) all have 160 pages of 120gsm buttery smooth plain paper (cream colored, as you can see in my photo). It's good enough to withstand some light washes if you're into watercolors. So, they've zero issue dealing with fountain pens. I really like them.

Je retiens deux chose en plus du point central de l'article:

• ça concerne un groupe social assez spécifique, qui a découvert le télétravail depuis la pandémie (pour info, je bosse en télétravail depuis 2000, ma moitié ayant commencé à faire de même quelques années avant la pandémie), qui peut se payer deux logements (bien des familles ont un seul foyer et n'ont aucun moyen d'en envisager un second edit: et pas mal n'ont aussi pas les moyens d'être proprio de leur foyer).
• Les couples concernés semblent avoir divorcé et avoir eut des enfants du mariage précédent.

Ce que je pense de la démarche/du choix de vie? Pourquoi pas, comme déjà indiqué, chacun est libre de vivre comme il l'entend. Du moins pour l'instant, ça fait encore partie de nos libertés. Je pense aussi que c'est toujours intéressant de chercher à réduire les conflits 'non-nécessaires'... J'espère seulement que ça ne se fait pas au détriment de la capacité à 'gérer' (et à vivre avec) tout conflit, un composant inhérent à tout couple et à toute famille.

Pour contextualiser mon avis:

• Ma moitié et moi sommes ensemble depuis 25 ans. Ni divorcé, ni enfants.
• Nous avons parfois vécu à des endroits différents, selon des contraintes pros et personnelles ponctuelles, mais globalement nous partageons le même espace de vie (et donc aussi de travail). Un petit espace en plus de ça... un autre choix de vie qui serait surement sujet à de nombreuses discussions et/ou critiques ;)

Do you trust your daughter judgment? If so, trust her even when you may disagree.

If she is happy with the guy (reading your other comments, that seems to be the case) and since this mariage will give her the means to do all she wants and not worry too much. Imho, wishing them both the best seems the best thing to do :)

May I ask for some context to that question?

I mean, the answer should be obvious to anyone with an ounce of (self)respect: stay shut if you know... you don't know. But maybe you were thinking about some very specific situation?

If you can afford it, yes. If you use it, yes.

Maybe not each year. I mean, I donate a couple hundreds every few years because back in those days I certainly was not paying for a brand new printed encyclopedia every single year either ;)

+1 they're doing a good job, as well as for @fraksken@infosec.pub suggestion (even though Gutenberg don't focus as much on ebook layout ;)

If anyone is interested reading in French:
En français pour quiconque serait intéressé:

• https://www.ebooksgratuits.com/
• https://classiques.uqam.ca/

If all of those links (also the two French ones I just mentioned) are 100% legit, unlike brick and mortar public libraries they offer little in guise of advice. If you have never tried talking with a librarian to get tailored reading suggestions, give it a shot. You may be surprised how useful they are. Also, they very rarely bite... only after they have been transformed into a vampire, or a werewolf.

(nope, I am no librarian but, yep, I may bite... in certain situations I won't publicly disclose :p)

edit: removed a quote from another post.

Like others have said: go see therapist, do not try following random advice online. That is coming from someone having to deal with A few lifelong health issues of their own.

Also, start small and slow. This was huge, for me. And allowed me to do so much I never imagined I would be able to, on the long run.