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I'm so sorry.
I lost my dog decades ago. I was holding and petting her while she passed, I cried all the time. That was some 40 years ago but I still have her picture and I'm glad I was there with her.

I think it's what I said

My spouse and I have been together for almost 30 years and I see no sign of us parting ways anytime soon. We're both persuaded we've lasted that long because we were both ok with the fact that the other is not perfect or faultless.

I will let anyone decide for themselves what limits should be made in a couple, and I will keep ours to ourselves, but even crossing those limits it should always be ok to try to fix it provided both parties are doing it with the right mindset and a willingness to be/to act better.

That's what we both think and that's how we managed to get through quite a few... difficult times, but that doesn't make it an indisputable truth either. It's just our 2 cents ;)

and being forced to simply copy everything on the board

Like I said, it's exactly what note taking is not supposed to be. Copying is moronic and one should blame the teachers (and their own teachers before them) for ruining a technique that has proven its efficiency.

But whatever. I'm old enough to not worry too much about myself and I also know things won't get any better before they get a lot worse. So be it.

People discussing their opinion is just that: people discussion their opinion. There is no rule, end of the story. No matter how well formalized said opinion may be.

Ulysse 31.

Say "Hi, nice to meet you" to the next Terminator and see how well it works for you?

Replace "Women in the workplace" with "Both parts of the couple" and I will agree: it's a shit deal we got served.

First thing first: it's absolutely normal to feel anxious.

Maybe you could see him as you would see a stranger or, say, some remote uncle, come stay at home for a while? Don't have expectations because you don't know him? Like you said, you have little memories so take that as a starting point: your memories will be the ones you may start building together once he gets back home.

Let him come home and see how things unfold. Also, be ok with him being and feeling awkward too. And with having some... adjustments issues. It's a huge change for him, too. Plus he may have more memories when he arrives, that coudl also hinder your first attempts at being together. I can't imagine being in prison for so long won't have left some deep marks on him, too so be ok with him screwing up a little.

If I may ask, haven't your parents discussed him coming back with you already? If not, maybe it is something you may want to discuss with them openly?

Not knowing you or your parents and your brother, it's hard to be more specific I'm afraid.

I think education should be demanding, so much so that we should all be fine with kids failing at it instead of blaming the school for it. I think grades should only and honestly reflect the level of understanding of each student on whatever they are supposed to be learning, not make them feel good about themselves.

The school should not be there to make the student feel 'good' or 'understood' (that's the family's job). School main purpose should be to make them smarter, which is something that demands practice and efforts, like anything.

Making them smarter means making them better equipped to deal with the real world, that is not a fairy tale kingdom filled with nice people and magical animals that will make them feel welcome and where they lived happily ever after.

Instead of lying to those kids, the school should help them prepare to become an adult person able to face a not-perfect world with a not perfect population, and teach them how to use their effing brains to solve any of the many problems they will face in their life (personal as well as professional)—and for that making them study their lessons, aka memorize stuff (even stupid shit one will never use again) and having to do their stupid homework, and get a failing grade when they don't, is still the best and the simplest way to develop.

Kids that are being told they're amazing perfect little creatures (they're not), and that they should never have to break a sweat in school (they should) are being lied to. Even more sadly for them, compared to those other kids that are still encouraged to face that they're aren't perfect angels and that they should put in the work, every single day, all year long, they're the ones being screwed up. Big.

Feel free to downvote as much as you want.

Forcing students to take notes is counterproductive: I was most successful in those classes in which I wasn’t forced to takes notes. Taking notes only distracted me from listening to the teacher.

I noticed more and more younger people thinking along that line. As an old fart myself, I will say I find this as worrisome as realizing the same younger generations are reading less and less books, even going to college.

I will also say it's because most of those younger people were never taught the proper technique of reading and note-taking (grossly summarized, note-taking is not about trying to write what's being said by the teacher/speaker, it's about synthesizing the ideas/infos in one's own words, so in reality there is very little writing to be done when listening to lesson or a lecture (good lectures are built around a lot of repetitions of the same information, over and over again, so the speaker can be pretty sure most students did get it).

Not being able to take-notes (and to read books) is a huge loss, for those kids. They should demand their teachers or their parents, or anyone that has learned it already, to teach them the technique but why would they even bother asking since they get no opportunity to realize how much they're missing out by not learning it? I'm sad for them, because they're the one being screwed up (compared to kids their age that do read and know how to take notes).

Also, for foreign language classes actually being forced to speak the language in class is so valuable. I had one teacher who focused on big cultural projects with very little language instruction and her students (including me) all did pretty poorly.

100% this. The only thing that should matter is to speak the language with as much excitement/fun/interest as possible. Even grammar, which is essential, comes second to that.

edit: typos.

I use Mint, I have no idea if it is running Wayland or not ;)

I liked Arch a lot (it was the second distro I ever used) up until I realized I needed not constant updates and the most recent versions of my apps. So, I tried Debian and then Mint and never looked back.