LadyLikesSpiders

joined 2 years ago
[–] LadyLikesSpiders@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago

Right? He looks like he's 16 at the absolute oldest

And yeah, photos were actually colorized fairly often back in the day and there were a bunch of different techniques

[–] LadyLikesSpiders@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago

Art, beauty, and pleasure, and the desire to see more of that in earnest in a world that seeks to convert anything and everything into profit; The beauty and humbling significance of nature in its indifferent power, and the grand scope of the endless nothingness that stretches beyond what our eyes will ever hope to see; People, real and true, speaking against cruelty and injustice, seeking to better spread love instead of otherness, to show a less conditional love than that of any state or religion

[–] LadyLikesSpiders@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago

Have you seen the world? Shit's irrational as fuck. I'll argue here that rationality has an aspect of subjectiveness to it; It is based on your ability to understand and perceive things. There is a very very small number of things you don't know, and a practically infinite ocean of things you will never even know to not know. Even things that behave rationally may behave irrationally under some variables you will never even fathom, and so, to you, that would just be irrational

You wanna see something rational? Read fiction. Truth is always stranger than fiction. It was Mark Twain who added that "fiction has to make sense."

[–] LadyLikesSpiders@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago

I'm pretty sure the US IS considered meritocratic. There are just countless other factors that also impact your ability to succeed

[–] LadyLikesSpiders@lemmy.ml 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That's too vague a definition. Like, if person A is an accomplished athlete, the best basketball player ever, I do not think his position of power or success should be, say, president. I think this is actually a very dangerous mindset derived from the capitalistic notion that success determines your--I'll call it value. If you're successful, you must be smart; If you're smart, you can be anything, even the president. Success is equal to wealth in these talking circles, and it sort of ends up as a backwards meritocracy. You gain merit measured by your success (wealth) instead of the other way around

But if you define it as a place in which positions of authority are given to people who have proven themselves knowledgeable and capable in the field in which the position of authority is being granted, I do believe in it in principle. I say that because principle and practice are rarely the same in politics and sociology. There are countless other factors that will impact your "success" that are not actually based on your expertise in the field. Better people have designed public transport, electric cars, social media, and spaceships than Elon Musk, yet the man sits in a position of tremendous influence. In a just meritocracy, we would never have heard his name

Which brings about the point that we have certain ideas as a culture (or maybe system) that awards some merits disproportionately more than others. Some will say his merit is in being a ruthless business man. He's good at that, I guess, so he should be the leader of the company. His "merit" of being a bad human being is being disproportionately rewarded compared to the merit of the scientists that actually design his spaceships, and the engineers that make them work. Meritocracy only really works in a closed system. The most capable archaeologist will be the head of the expedition. If you let the ideas go beyond that, and start comparing apples to oranges, you start seeing instead a system's idea of what's important, and by extension that of the society built in that system

[–] LadyLikesSpiders@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

there also tends to be an expectation that men (even those of us that are submissive) be dominant to some degree

This is an important point to make, for sure. Things like this will be greatly impacted by things such as cultural norms and expectations, so any statement that says "There are more D men than D women" needs to come with the caveat that there are likely biases in these observations, and that culture and upbringing have an impact, either deciding the ratio, or skewing it

I do tend to default thinking of men as Dominant, and that is in no small part due to culture, but I'll add that this assumption is specifically outside of the kink community. In BDSM spaces specifically, I expect most men to be subs, but my own experiences could also be because I attract the guys who are looking for their "goth mommy dommy" 😅

[–] LadyLikesSpiders@lemmy.ml 20 points 2 years ago (6 children)

I like submissive men, and generally am downright turned-off by dominant men. Am I the norm? Probably not. I think there are more subs than Doms just in general, but especially among women

But I'm just answering your question as presented. Another has already commented some decent love advice if you're asking about this stuff as pertaining to you

I will add, though, that while strictly in a D/s dynamic, women are subs more often than Dommes, in any dynamic that strays from BDSM, the submissive tendencies are just sort of a spice when they come up, and that, if you're using the word submissive to describe a man who isn't conventionally masculine (Or maybe toxic masculine), you're probably better off. We wanna feel safe with who we're with, and outside of BDSM, you'll probably have better luck as a gentle, emotionally intelligent, confident person. Some people might describe that as submissive

[–] LadyLikesSpiders@lemmy.ml 14 points 2 years ago (1 children)

How do I cope? Poorly

[–] LadyLikesSpiders@lemmy.ml 16 points 2 years ago

I legitimately know someone who speaks about Nintendo religiously. Like, he says "Miyamoto almighty" and I reeeeaaaaally wanna believe he's doing it ironically, but I don't know if even he recognizes it as ironic now. He is defensive of every of nintendo's actions, all of them, justifying everything they've done while condemning other companies for doing the same. It looks like nationalism applied to a specific corporation

Like, I'm a big nintendo fan, but I cannot fathom the zealotry that I have personally witnessed coming from this person

[–] LadyLikesSpiders@lemmy.ml 19 points 2 years ago (2 children)

"Snitches will find themselves in a situation in which stitches would be desirable"

[–] LadyLikesSpiders@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 years ago

People like this HAVE to believe in some inherent, unearned superiority they have, because otherwise, they're exactly what they look like they are

And for those who want to know his name, I did the legwork. This is Rain Epler

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