Kit

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[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 weeks ago

I'm sorry, I'm having trouble understanding the situation.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I don't see the problem - Ashley's mother and sisters would have the same last name, right?

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 weeks ago (13 children)

Can you explain?

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 weeks ago

Yes! Thank you

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 3 weeks ago (18 children)

I'm not a lawyer but I can't imagine this would be problematic from a legal standpoint. For example, I've known several people who go by nicknames or their middle name and their birthday cards always get delivered without issue.

The tricky part is that some mailmen (mailpeople? I'm having a brainfart on the gender inclusive term.) won't deliver mail unless it matches the name on the mailbox. This usually pops up in apartment complexes. In that case, just keep your last name on your mailbox and ensure your mail has a matching last name. Your first name shouldn't matter.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 3 weeks ago

This makes me feel sad.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 weeks ago

Losing color sensitivity =/= going blind. Most people have until around age 30 before these changes are noticeable, but it can hit earlier if you have a lot of UV exposure or health issues.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I've noticed the same thing, whereby colors appear dull when I'm depressed and vibrant when treatment is working. But also note that colors naturally appear less vibrant as we age due to changes in our eyes and brains. For example, the lens of the eye yellows, and photoreceptor cells degrade.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

You didn't read my 2nd link huh

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 4 weeks ago

There's two completely separate situations happening here.

  1. Your relationship with your boyfriend is unfulfilling. You can choose to either try to fix it or end it.

  2. You caught feelings for a stranger. Continuing to give time to this person while in a relationship would be inappropriate and wrong by most standards, regardless of how bad or unfulfilling the relationship is.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 weeks ago

Fuck her then. I've been no-contact with my family for nearly 20 years and have zero regrets.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 29 points 4 weeks ago

Your girlfriend wants to do something with her life, and she wants a partner with the same drive. You're comfortable where you're at. This sounds like an incompatible arrangement to me, but no assholes here.

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I'm a transman who has been on T since 2011. I've recently begun experiencing bleeding despite good T levels. My doctor suggested hysterectomy, but that is not in line with my transition goals. Have any of you gotten an endometrial ablation instead? I've read studies out of medical colleges reporting good results for transmen. It seems like an easy outpatient procedure on paper.

Edit: Spoke with my doctor and she doubled my T. If bleeding doesn't stop within 3 months she's recommending me for the surgery.

Edit 3 months later: Increasing T gel worked

 

Can anyone hop into Duos with me and help me Craft an Expired Ally Banner? It should only take a few minutes.

 

I'm a transguy who transitioned in the 2000s and have had top surgery. I toured a gym that has a beautiful sauna, steam room, and hot tub that I'd like to join, but clothes are not permitted in any of the above. I'm worried about running into trouble if I go naked.

The gym is like a Jewish YMCA and is adamantly LGBTQ+ friendly and even has reminders in the locker room that the space welcomes everyone. I asked the girl giving the tour about my concerns and she said to just wear a towel if I'm not comfortable, but I'm still a bit uncertain.

Do any of you guys go to nude men-only areas? Any tips?

I'm sure I won't get assaulted because I'm a tough looking guy that most folks wouldn't fuck with, but I don't want to invite trouble.

 

A month ago I found out that my (30's ftm) live-in boyfriend of 3 years (30's m) was sexting with various guys and making plans to meet up. We fought, made up, and got into therapy. Things are slowly healing.

Today I found out that an old friend of his that he used to sext with before our relationship still sends him nudes regularly on snapchat. I found out because my bf had saved a bunch of them. My bf says that he never responds to them and so he didn't think it was an issue. I disagree - If anyone I knew irl ever sent me nudes I would immediately delete it, ask them not to send more, and tell my bf about it.

My question is, was his lack of action yet another instance of cheating?

 

TW: Chest and surgery

Tl;Dr Has anyone had their nipples pierced after top surgery and can offer insight on issues?

I had top surgery 10 years ago. During the surgery my nipples were completely removed and relocated. My nipples are not very pronounced with only a little bump.

I tried to get nipple piercings at a very reputable piercing shop this week but the piercer advised that the piercing would basically be a surface piercing, and would slowly migrate out over years resulting eventually in my nipples tearing and leaving "gnarly scars".

Have any of you had nipple piercings for multiple years after top surgery? Any issues like he worried about? I'm also debating if it would be worthwhile to get them pierced but set a time limit to remove them after a few years.

Thanks ahead of time.

 

I own a condo and have one dog and one cat. They get along and play all the time, but I feel like the cat is often lonely and missing a cuddling companion. He's a rescue who was a street cat for years before I adopted him. I've been considering fostering or adopting another cat to give him company. Thoughts?

 

My boyfriend asked for a computer build for podcasting and light gaming for Christmas. He specifically wants a custom build desktop and I wasn't able to talk him out of going this route. We're starting from zero so I'd need to get a tower, monitor, keyboard, mouse, mic, webcam, etc. Trying to keep it under $1300ish for the package.

What kind of specs should I target to future proof the system for podcasting in case this becomes a serious hobby for him? I've built hundreds of PCs in my lifetime but never had to consider audio/video production. Also curious if anyone has advice for the podcasting equipment.

Thanks ahead of time.

 

I've been running a full tower Windows server with a dozen drives for a decade and decided to downsize. This ministack does everything I need at a fraction of the power, noise, and heat.

I use it primarily for Plex but also host a few games servers for buddies. It fits perfectly in my entertainment center.

Spent around $200 on the Mac Mini plus $600 on the drives and enclosures. I'm using SoftRAID for RAID1.

 

I’ve started at a medium-sized org (~1500 users) that has over a dozen global admins in 365, plus another 80 users with various 365 admin access. Does anyone have any tips for how to identify what access the users actually need?

I tried punching up a questionnaire with all of the available options, but my test group reported that it was too convoluted. I’m not sure how I can better identify their needs without interviewing them one-on-one, or just ripping away access and seeing who screams.

 

I use Google Assistant for most of my home automation. Does anyone have any particular models they recommend for deadbolts? I'd like to be able to automatically lock my front door when I go to sleep.

 

I've recently rekindled my love for Katamari Damacy and it made me wonder if there's any other amazing cult classics out there that aren't talked about these days. What are your recommendations?

 

Many businesses are returning to the office, which is resulting in workers who prefer fully remote or hybrid work to resign from their positions. If they had asked their job to include specifics about the remote/hybrid policies in their work contract, they would be locked into those policies and could not be forced back into the office.

Never take for granted that the terms of your employment will stay the same unless there is a signed contract ensuring it.

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