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I was perplexed by the question. What's the difference? They explained: "Should I tiptoe and watch my manners around you or be blunt? Flirtatious or chill? Brag about my sexual conquests or talk about our feelings? When you're sad, do I hug you and buy you ice cream or do we go grab some beers? Should I wonder if we'll ever hook up?"

I'm not sure if I'm more appalled or confused by this mindset. I thought everyone treated their friends the same regardless of their gender identity. Is this just a fringe case of toxic masculinity, or is this really how the average cis person sees the world?

I was with a man for four years and thought we were going to get married. He was a widower and I fell in love for the first time. When I found out he was cheating, it killed me. I felt my whole self die.

I miss myself. I wake up every day and go through the motions, even try to date here and there, but at the end of the day I am a soulless husk of a person. I've tried focusing on myself - losing weight, exercising, rejuvenating old hobbies, lots and lots of therapy and meds. Nothing helps. At this point I'm only living because I have three pets who rely on me.

I still don't understand why I deserved that. I guess this is just as good as life gets for someone like me.

My neighborhood has a free food pantry that is used heavily, but vandals smashed it to pieces overnight. I'm funding a replacement but having trouble figuring out the best option for something pre-built. Ideally it will be at least 5ft tall and no more than 2ft deep with several shelves. I want something sturdy that will withstand the elements, deter raccoons, and will be difficult to smash. Any price, no budget. Any recs for specific outdoor cabinets or an Earth-friendly vendor? Or should I just reach out to a local carpenter to build one?

Located in PA, USA

Edit: I spoke with my local Habitat for Humanity and they are donating a pantry for us!

I transitioned ages ago and I'm recently out of a long term relationship. I've been trying to get back into dating, but even when I specify "masc for masc" all of the gay guys I meet are too feminine for my taste. I've been feeling a bit doomed, even sometimes questioning if I should have transitioned in the first place because it would be so easy to find an ideal partner if I hadn't, but the idea of being anyone but my true self is preposterous. Can any other guys relate to this? Any dating tips or specific dating app recommendations?

USA if it helps.

Lowes hooked up a new washer/dryer combo, but when I ran it the water backed up. I went to clean it up and got electrocuted somehow.

My hand is fucked but my heart is OK, so I got out lucky. Spent the whole day in the hospital and I'm dreading the bill (thanks USA). So much for my plans of gaming over the holiday - can't do much with one hand.

The breaker to that room is off and I'm keeping the pets out until an electrician can come.

I have a Plex server running on Mac OSX. Whenever I want to add media, I remotely connect into the Mac, login to my private tracker, download the torrent, wait for it to finish, then update my Plex library.

I'm hopeful that there's an easier way. I'm imagining a way I can remotely tell the Plex server what I want to watch and it takes it from there. Does such a thing exist?

I matched with a guy on a dating site this week and really hit it off with him, but he looked extremely familiar and I couldn't put my finger on it. It didn't take long for us to figure out that we grew up in the same small hometown. I asked my childhood bestie about it, and she immediately recognized him - He grew up four houses down from me and we played together as kids!

He's a super wholesome guy - A kindergarten teacher, recently moved back to our hometown to take care of his grandma with dementia, rescued an aging dog. Extremely romantic and kind person.

The kicker? He doesn't recognize me because I changed my name when I transitioned, so he has no idea that we were childhood friends.

We have a date tomorrow and I'm crossing my fingers that it goes well!

I'm gushing over how cute this whole situation is. Figured y'all could use some positivity this week. ❤️

I'm one person and won't have a fridge for a few weeks as mine died. I can't stomach any more canned soup. Any ideas for small meals I can make with shelf stable ingredients?

I was shocked in the presidential debate that Harris gave staunch support for fracking. I was under the impression that democrats are against fracking, and remember people being critical of Fetterman for supporting it.

I also grew up in an area that was heavily impacted by the pollution from fracking. People who worked in the field were seen as failures of moral character who chose profits over the health of their children. How is it that both major parties are now in support of it? I feel like I must be missing a piece of the puzzle.

A small apothecary opened in my neighborhood that makes beauty products. They've been very accommodating with selling me shampoo and body wash in my own reused containers. It's all locally sourced ingredients. I'm new in my Zero Waste journey but it feels great to eliminate plastic from part of my daily routine.

I've recently met a man whose dating profile said that he's Graysexual. I tried Googling the term, but it's a bit confusing and I'm hoping to get a straightforward breakdown from the kind folks in this community.

From what I gather, it's a branch of asexuality that sometimes feels sexual attraction. That's a bit ambiguous, though.

I will ask the person directly once we've spoken more, but it will help to have a foundation of understanding beforehand. Thanks ahead of time!

My bestie broke both of his arms and wrists two days ago. He's in his 20s, a gamer, has a pregnant wife and a young kid. Any ideas for gifts I can get to cheer him up? He'll have no use of his arms for 3 months.

Already got a bidet for him and hooked it up. Looking into accessible gaming controllers, but he said that the pain is so bad rn that even alternative controllers are probably a no go.