Kit

joined 2 years ago
[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago

You might find it easier to totally avoid the bar and drinking people for the first few months. Right now your brain is still in the mode of "Gotta find my next drink" and it takes a while to get out of that.

Controversial, but I used non-alcoholic versions of my favorite beverage for the first few weeks to trick my brain into thinking it was getting what it craved. Remember that you're fighting a cunning, baffling, powerful demon in your mind and it will find ways to trip you up, so sometimes fighting dirty is the best defense.

You don't have to worry about not drinking for all of summer. You just gotta wake up and commit to one day at a time. I promise that soon you'll find something in life that you love even more than alcohol.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Pretty good. Work is a bit much but I started dating again and met a really nice guy.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I was not orphaned but was homeless at 18 due to escaping an abusive environment. I've gone through my adult life with no safety blanket and it has profoundly impacted my anxiety and need for control. I've managed to build a great life and I'm very successful on paper, but people don't see the backup plans upon backup plans that I have in-place to have some sort of feeling of safety.

I've also found it very hard to relate to people my age because they usually have some sort of relationship with their family and often times move back in with parents when shit hits the fan.

I also still feel very unloveable by everyone around me and I'm suspicious whenever someone shows affection, because it feels like a trick - or even if it does feel legitimate, I know that they'll hurt me eventually. That's been a big topic in therapy recently.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Absolutely brutal day at work today. Stopping to grab a slice of cake as a treat instead of a 6 pack of beer. Four months sober as of last Friday!

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 4 days ago (1 children)

In 2026, Xbox users who wish to use voice or text communication with those outside of their friends list to verify their age.

The silver lining is that we'll no longer have to hear little kids screaming into their mics in online games.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 5 days ago

Risk is free but you only get one game per day. It's only around $5 if you want to purchase unlimited games, and I found that to be more than fair

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Oh damn. Is there a theme of sexualization in the series or is it pretty much just that episode? Debating if I want to watch the show and just skip that one episode.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 week ago

I would certainly hope so.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Any love out there for ReBoot? Absolutely revolutionary show and it ended on a cliffhanger.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Personally I find pirated games to be a bit of a pain to install on the Deck. I'd go with Windows for that use case.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago

For the immediate symptoms, moving your body changes your mood. Take a 30 minute walk twice a day around sunrise and sunset to avoid the heat. If you have a dog, bring them along! Or just turn on some good music and dance it out until you're out of breath. The point is, find a way to move without it feeling like the chore of a workout.

Also drink water. Lots of water.

To tackle the larger issue, figure out what your ideal life looks like day-to-day. Do you want to travel or be a homebody? Interact with many different people, or a close-knit team, or no one at all? Move your body a lot or sit at your desk? Own a penthouse or would renting your own apartment suffice?

Once you know what your goals are, it will be easy to find a career that fits all the pieces. Then simply work backwards to determine what steps you need to take to get there. For example, maybe you want to be a homebody who works mostly alone and sits at a desk and owns a penthouse. You can then research what remote jobs pay a high salary and find the qualifications needed to land those jobs. Maybe it's a certain college degree and 10 years of experience in certain job titles. Congrats, you now have a road map to follow. Go do it.

 

Hopefully this doesnt double-post, I accidentally uploaded the wrong picture before.

 

I need to use-or-lose 30 days of vacation by the end of the year and have no idea what to do. I've never taken a vacation before but want to get out of the city. Can anyone recommend dog-friendly activities or locations within a few hour's drive of Pittsburgh, preferably leaning towards cheap?

We both hate crowds, and I'm scared of hiking trails because irresponsible dog owners tend to leave their dogs off leash. I don't drink alcohol so breweries/wineries are out.

So far the only thing I've come up with is taking a weekend fishing trip to Ohio.

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/stopdrinking@lemmy.world
 

This really surprised me. I had been experiencing major gastrointestinal issues for years while I was drinking, and my doctor said it was lactose intolerance. I cut out dairy entirely and it helped a little, but I had diharrea every day regardless and nothing helped. I'm happy to report that after getting sober I can now drink milk, eat cheese, and enjoy a milkshake without any side effects whatsoever. I suspect it's something to do with my gut microbiome or whatever it's called.

Figured this might be a tiny sliver of hope for some folks, so I wanted to share. IWNDWYT!

 

I snagged a 2025 Ioniq 5 to replace my 2021 Chevy Bolt yesterday and already put 150 miles on it. I'm kind of blown away and wanted to share some things that stood out.

  1. The car is wide. Much wider than the Bolt. Gonna take some getting used to.
  2. Not sure how I lived without a power lift gate until now. It was great when loading laundry and groceries into the trunk.
  3. The driver seat can lay completely flat - flatter than the zero gravity mode that you may have seen. Perfect for napping while waiting at the laundromat, and I'm looking forward to trying it while car camping.
  4. You can pull the car forward and backwards with the keyfob while standing outside of it. Already used it twice - once to pull out of a tight parking spot, once to center myself after street parking a bit crooked.
  5. The surround view is incredible. It made parallel parking an absolute breeze.
  6. Autopilot is scary but works. I was only brave enough to use it on the highway with no other cars around.
  7. Auto-parking doesn't seem to work very well, but I'll have to play around with it.

Overall I'm super happy with the car and keep looking for excuses to go somewhere. Happy to answer any questions.

 

I have a 70lb ebike that I love, but it's been difficult and dangerous to get it up and down the stairs to my apartment's basement bike storage room. The HOA refuses to install (or allow me to install) a bike ramp to make it easier. Any tricks or anything I can buy to accomplish this?

 

I haven't been able to see upvote counts since the latest update, and I saw a few other people mention the same issue. Is this on the radar to be fixed?

 

I've never taken a vacation, and I'm determined to take on this year in Spring. I'm in Pittsburgh area and would like to bring my dog along (he is too anxious for boarding or a dog sitter), and don't want to put him on an airplane. Any ideas?

The best I've been able to come up with is renting a small island with a cottage on the Great Lakes. My pup could run totally free on the island for a week and live his best life chasing squirrels and swimming. I'm not much of a nature fan, though, so it might be a bit boring.

 

I'm an older transguy and "pass" very well but I'm considering detransition due to the dangers of the world. I'm in the US and it's no secret that trans people are being targeted. I've been considering if it would be worthwhile to stop testosterone, don a wig, and play dress-up as a woman until this trans witch hunt is over.

I'm solid in my identity, not depressed or panicked. I've been in many dangerous situations in my life and know how it feels to make decisions strictly for survival. I know I can withstand detransitioning temporarily or permanently if needed. Not being on T and dressing a certain way won't make my identity any less true or valid.

I'm at the age where I really don't care what my outer appearance is or how people perceive me as long as I'm safe.

I could use some feedback from the kind folks here, especially any older transguys.

Disclaimer: no part of this is meant to imply that there is a right or better path for my other trans bros, sisters, and siblings. There is no right way to be your true self beyond what you deem it.

 

Good feels rant post.

I had pretty much given up on romance as dating is nearly impossible as an older transguy. I managed to meet a nice geeky guy on a dating site and we chatted for a while. On our first date last night, he handed me a wrapped gift. "I saw this book and thought you'd like it." and it was a book in my favorite genre. "And I got a toy for your dog. I put it in my laundry for a day so he can get used to my scent before I meet him." Bros and sisters, my heart melted.

We ended up having a ridiculous fun time then making out in the snow, and it was super cheesy and cute and romantic.

Don't give up on love! Good folks are still out there. ❤️ Figured I'd share some positivity since the Earth is literally burning.

 

Is this considered spawn camping?

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submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/food@beehaw.org
 

My neighborhood has a little free food pantry that I fill weekly. Problem is, I've been finding it difficult to provide a well-rounded variety of foods. Fresh fruit and veg are not allowed.

Any ideas for items I can stock? I try to keep each item under $2 to get the most bang for my buck.

My go-tos are:
*Rice.
*Oats.
*Beans, dried and canned (these usually go slowly)
*Baking mixes, flour, sugar, yeast.
*Canned veggies.
*Condensed soup.
*Oil.
*Evaporated milk.
*Condiments.
*Canned chicken, tuna, and salmon.
*Applesauce.
*Spices.

Thanks ahead of time for any ideas. Can't seem to get the formatting working on mobile but you get the gist.

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