I highly recommend the book CPTSD from surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker. It was really important in my healing. Also, I liked the book "the drama of the gifted child" by Alice Miller if you were abused by a parent.
The first book is a practical how to guide on how to recognize and treat symptoms, while the second describes how children react to being abused to protect them selves when they need safety and cannot get it.
Both should be on Anna's archive for free or on amazon/at the library.
I highly recommend the book CPTSD from surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker. It was really important in my healing. Also, I liked the book "the drama of the gifted child" by Alice Miller if you were abused by a parent.
The first book is a practical how to guide, while the second describes how children react to being abused to protect them selves when they need safety and cannot get it.
Both should be on Anna's archive for free or on amazon/at the library.
Edit: Btw I forgot to mention, though Alice Miller is very influential and her book was great for me, there is some debunked science in there about repressed memories. Other than that, it was very enlightening.
If a current day analyst or therapist starts talking about repressed memories, you should be very skeptical.
Yeah it always feels bad to me because I feel like I'm imposing my own thoughts onto the situation. Maybe I'll get used to it someday.
I feel like looking up one term is doable for a project.
I did it for you this time, but you can google "simple English wikipedia" and then type in whatever you're looking up. https://simple.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lagrange_point
You don't disclose that it happened at work, apparently.
Described an accessibility problem my [disabled relative] is having in the gym I take them to. The front desk guy who is apparently a director of membership or whatever just stonewalled me, twice. I got so fucking mad, but obviously yelling at him isn't gonna change his mind so I walked away. 
He was like "well no one ever has told us that's a problem so..." yeah motherfucker because disabled people always have an effective advocate or can communicate their needs well. (NOT) AND ITS AFFECTING ONE MEMBER AND THATS ENOUGH REASON TO ADDRESS IT FHQKIFIAKSBWKPQ9 R 73UBFJ 
BTW, the correct response was "I'm sorry the solution I offered isn't satisfactory for you. I'll pass it on to X who is in charge of accessibility."
Incurious, non empathetic, asshole. Deserves to get cussed out but my priority is getting the issue solved. I will go full 
on these bitches.
You're right couples therapy sounds like a bad idea, look into individual therapy then and I can't emphasize enough how helpful it is to have somebody that is NOT fully impartial and is on your side, be that a therapist or friend who knows all the details (NOT a shared friend!!).
Yes it was an edit, I was initially more emphatic in my suggestion that leaving is (in my not fully informed opinion) the right course. And I added the "you can just walk away" part.
For breakups related to abuse, you have to do what is best for you and damn what is best for the other person because they, intentionally or not, are an abuser. This will just get worse over time without an intervention of some kind, and even that won't guarantee a happy ending.
I get pissed off about how my dad was a people pleasing brown noser in public and sometimes a fucking terror to me when we were alone. Let yourself get mad on your own behalf, then leave or set boundaries.
Individual therapy can help you work through any guilt and shame you have (which by the way, you don't deserve to feel guilt or shame but it always comes with being abused).
Edit: Last tidbit, if you decide to leave her, get some accountability and support from an irl friend or family member that you know will be firmly in your camp (not one of her friends).
That fight is the stupidest God damn thing I've ever heard of from her end. She should be united with you on this, seeing as YOU are the victim of the asshole guy in this situation. What she did was the least she could do. But instead of giving you support, she has this nebulous, impossible demand of "stop being a baby" or "stop sulking" that is meaningless and impossible to fulfill.
Because of how abusive she's being in this situation, I am questioning your positive assessment of her during the "good" times. I suspect there may be more abuse going on that you can't recognize.
No matter how "sweet" and "supportive" she is 90 or 95% of the time, it's not worth getting cry-bullied in your own home simply for having a valid emotional reaction to a very stressful and triggering situation. I say get the hell out of there.
If you want to try to salvage it, you will need couples therapy or something because she is desperately in need of a reality check from an outside party. She is putting you down, and you need to know that her temper tantrums are not your fault.
And one last piece of advice. You don't have to sit there and take it when she is emotionally abusing you. It took me a long time to learn this, but when an abuser is taking irrelevant shit out on you, the best response is to walk out the door ASAP and stay gone for a couple hours. They can get their shit together while you let them cool off. Your line is "I can't be around you when you're like this" and if they're a decent person, they will realize how shitty they're being.
Also, most abusers are chicken shit and want to keep up appearances, so they won't abuse you outside, especially if someone else is there to witness it.
Now who's using human shields?
Went to the bar for the first time in a while and I got a lot more attention than I was expecting. And I was offered cocaine (I didn't take it).
Had a fight with my dad. He wanted to give medical advice and I didn't want to hear it.
After we got home he was projecting just rancid vibes (triggering) so I went to a friend's house.
Everything before and after the bullshit fight was great that day, and I don't feel rattled. In fact, I felt amazing this morning.
Concern from him can randomly be triggering because he abused me as a child out of "concern" so the well is completely poisoned.