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I mean, the two big communities for me are !linux@lemmy.ml and !mechanicalkeyboards@lemmy.ml, though the latter of which isn't really active anyway so I wouldn't be sad to see it go. There isn't a suitable replacement for the Linux community elsewhere, and that's honestly what I'm most active on, but if we defeferate, I'd probably just cut my losses. Yes, it is easy for people to create new accounts, but the hassle is that you cannot transfer your comments or posts to a new account, so you lose that history (as I've had to deal with). But overall, I think most people on ml would just stop seeing posts from our instance and never think about it. It would be a small minority that would even notice, but the majority would be getting less content from diverse voices in the queer community overall. Again, it would just take a lot of consideration.

Personally, I have a very poor opinion of nutomic. And yes, he has always been/felt transphobic. He has a history of making massive oversteps to attack people that have differing opinions to his, and overall I believe him to be a threat to the trans community. As for whether we should defederate? I really have no clue. It certainly isn't a bastion for blatant transphobia, and hosts many of the top Lemmy communities, and a very large amount of the active Lemmy userbase. I think the effects of defederation would be immense, and take a lot of time and consideration to understand if it's overall beneficial to the community. That being said, I'm sure I could be swayed to support either side. I'd be very curious what Ada has to say about this, as I believe I'll support her opinion on the matter.

EDIT: I think it's valuable to point out that any individual user can block an instance in their settings. So regardless of any defederation decision (which Ada seems opposed to), anyone can choose to block the instance themselves.

I wouldn't recommend doing this if you have been prescribed oral estradiol (that is, taking the pill you are prescribed daily in a single sublingual dose). The significantly higher bioavailability of sublingual administration can cause incredibly high spikes, and the significantly shorter half life over oral necessitates taking the estradiol 3-4x daily to maintain (only semi) stable levels. This requires a dosage and schedule adjustment; it is not sufficient to simply take the same dose of oral prescription and start taking it sublingually once daily.

Additionally, the stomach does not destroy estradiol. The reason behind the low bioavailability of oral estradiol (and by extension, also oral progesterone) is that it passes through the liver before entering the bloodstream. The liver processes the estradiol before it enters the bloodstream, resulting in significantly less E2 available in the blood. This also presents an additional long term problem that has been well documented at this point: liver flooding. The high concentration of estradiol entering the liver in a short amount of time puts an incredible amount of strain on the liver, and can cause long term liver damage. This is alleviated through sublingual administration.

The sublingual route has its own pros and cons (mainly the incredibly spiky and unstable hormone levels and requirement of frequent 3-4x doses per day), and it is not advisable to recommend someone take the medication their doctor prescribed them in a manner that is not consistent with their prescription. OP's prescription was written with the intention of it being taken orally, thus the dosage has been planned for that, not for sublingual.

I took mine sublingually for awhile, but I am now switching to injections, as I am not happy with the dosage frequency. I've missed doses because I also struggle with ADHD, and it's resulted in me feeling really off when my levels get too low. I would never do oral, as it isn't an effective way of taking estradiol. It's incredibly inefficient and presents its own health issues. Injections are the most convenient and most stable option (although I haven't looked too deeply into the implants, those may potentially be more stable, but estradiol cypionate allows me weekly injections that peak at ~175ng/dL and trough at ~135ng/dL, which is very stable inside my target range), as well as being quite cheap and well studied.

TL;DR: Either talk to your doctor about adjusting dosage and scheduling for sublingual administration, or do the due diligence of reading about it. I recommend the meta-analyses from Transfeminine Science. The dosage and scheduling need to be adjusted if switching to sublingual.

Well, you could use the wrong finger. After 3 attempts, my GrapheneOS install brings up the password field, but you can go back to the lock screen and try 2 more times until it locks out of fingerprint unlock (so 5 times total). You could always hold the power button down while it's in your pocket or bag, pretending you are searching for the phone or something, and then lock it down as soon as you lift the screen up.

Finished How We Fight For Our Lives yesterday. It's a very powerful memoir from a black gay man that grew up in the Southern US. Very well written, very bug topics, lots of insight into his world, and the struggles he dealt with. Obviously it will deal with racism and homophobia; the book goes through his experiences understanding who he was. It was a good book! I'd recommend a read if that experience is interesting to you.

I'm gonna depart from the last 2 books for now (Stone Butch Blues got canceled bc of stock, so I've gotta buy it from somewhere else), as I bought a bunch of lesbian romances (I couldn't help myself). No clue if you would be interested in any of that, but let me know if you might be and I can review those, too!

Yes, it is possible, as per your linked resource, however it would be up to the server maintainers if they feel it is reasonable to do. Note that federation is not supported over Tor, so federation would go over the clearnet via the original instance. This is not an issue, because the only thing that would be useful for Tor is hiding the client connection IP address, which would be handled under this configuration.

I read Suicide Notes. It's an extremely heavy book with about every trigger possible buried in it, just as a warning. I'm not going to say what exactly it covers from the LGBTQ+ spectrum, but it really let me see into a different world. Someone else's world. It's a fiction, but it's not a fantasy; it feels like living someone's real life. It's incredibly moving, but it is very depressing (the name is a good indicator), so keep that in mind before deciding to read it. I learned a lot from it, including things about myself. I'd highly recommend it if you're willing to get really sad about it; I feel it was very cathartic for me, and it's a great portal into the queer experience.

Also, there is a sequel called Every Star That Falls. I'll be reading that at some point, but likely not especially soon.

Just finished Kiss Her Once for Me. I absolutely loved it and would highly recommend it, but only if you're willing to read a lesbian romance. It's very queer in general, it has nonbinary characters, trans characters, bis, lesbians, polygamy and monogomy, and demisexuality. It's a fiction, and it is certainly a romance novel, but if that might be interesting to you, it's a wonderful queer book! It also deals with some of the issues many of us queer folk have with family and acceptance, but those aren't the central points of the story; it's part of being queer, and I think that those aspects add a lot to the story by being only small parts (kind of like acknowledging our problems in a healthy way without focusing on them too much that it becomes depressing). I'll update you with more as I get to them!

If you're looking specifically for trans activism, The Transexual Menace came back and already organized a protest at Stonewall last week or so, and they have plans to organize a lot more across the US. They're US based, so I suppose it may not be helpful if you aren't in the US

I also just got back into reading, and was curious about the same thing!

I HIGHLY recommend Gender Queer by Maia Kobabe. That's the book that sparked my trans realization, and it's incredibly well illustrated with a wonderful story of eir life (it's a memoir); I've read it 3 times. I actually just bought 5 other queer books, but I have yet to read them:

• Kiss Her Once for Me by Alison Cochrun
• How We Fight For Our Lives by Saeed Jones
• Suicide Notes by Michael Thomas Ford
• Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg
• The Stonewall Reader by New York Public Library

I can update this comment when I finish reading a book to give my thoughts on them if you'd like!

Yeah, I personally went the DIY route. I started my transition in August of last year, and started HRT January of this year. I had predicted things were going to get bad pretty fast, so I have avoided being 'official' for the time being until I can figure out what to do. I, personally, would like procedures in the future, and the unfortunate reality of that is the fact that my insurance requires a letter from someone actively prescribing and monitoring the progress of HRT for 12 or more months consecutively to cover any of those services, so if I'm gonna have to make a choice in the future of if I'm going to set myself back for years to avoid the potential consequences of being 'official', or go to a provider for a prescription so that I can get the necessary letters. Right now, I'm just biding my time while I see how things go (though that won't stop me from activism).

If you're in the US, here's a big list of resources that could help you figure out where you want to go! There are multiple provider finders for gender-affirming care, therapy, financial assistance, and all sorts of stuff. I do recommend seeing a therapist (like a LICSW)! Not only is therapy wonderfully helpful in finding out who you are, but if you're looking for some types of care further down the line, insurance may require a letter from a qualified professional (sometimes even 2 different ones depending on what you want; I have a therapist and a psychiatrist so I go to them). Getting things documented and tracked would be to your benefit if you ever need a letter.

I wish you luck on your journey!

EDIT: Gender Justice League is based in Washington State, so there will be many resources specific to Washington, but there are also national resources listed that you can search through!