EmilyIsTrans

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[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've gotten all my friends hooked on OpenTTD multiple separate times

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Don't get into business with a narcissist. If you don't figure out they're a narcissist until after the business has started, bail or kick em out.

PS You're not alone in your family figuring everything out before you tell them. My parents had noticed breast growth and put two and two together years before I came out to them!

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I think I understand where you're coming from. Do you maybe feel overly observed (for lack of a better word)? Like, transitioning is fairly messy, complicated, and hard, and you feel a little like you've been put under a microscope without your knowledge? I'm sure you intellectually know that she was just waiting until you were comfortable discussing it with her, but I could see you reacting how you are regardless.

If that's not why you feel the way you do, is it possible you feel a little let down? Transitioning is one of the biggest things you can do as a person, and you built up to coming out, only for her to already know? I've heard that feeling expressed by a lot of queer people.

Never? I wouldn't tolerate it and wouldn't work at a place that did

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

My non-binary at the time friend, now partner (!!!) convinced me to let them apply makeup on me. I had already been seriously questioning my gender for a year now. Looking in the mirror afterwards, I thought it looked a little weird but it made my brain very happy. They also changed my name in their phone to Emily after I told them I had picked it out in high school "just in case". I decided to try transitioning and never stopped, and I'm happier than ever.

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 36 points 1 year ago (3 children)

"Colonists", "Invaders", "War Profiteers"

Before I transitioned? Eating disorders, disassociating, isolating. Since then, seeing the positive changes to my body, and the control I exercise over it has helped resolve it most days. There are still times I feel intensely dysphoric (whenever I voice train, when a stranger with the best of intentions misgenders me), but in those cases I usually let myself feel it (rather than bottling it up) and it'll pass.

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

She actually did it multiple times! The one you would have heard of was in Victoria, which is up there as one of the most progressive states in Australia. She also came to Canberra, the capital and where I live. I obviously attended the counter-protest and there were also Nazis there (one pictured here).

It would be interesting, but also it definitely makes intuitive sense to me. I had an unidentifiable lifelong depression, seemingly stemming from a hatred for my body, "not fitting in" in social situations, and "feeling broken" generally. Pretty obvious what the cause was in retrospect 😅. Transitioning has resolved all of those, and I think intonation creeping in is another effect of finally feeling comfortable socially for the first time in my life.

Gender euphoria comes from funny places, I get it from boob sweat haha.

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