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on the male loneliness epidemic in c/curatedtumblr@sh.itjust.works

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Your attitude is just proving my point further. The only benefit of the doubt I can give you is that you can't comprehend what I was saying. Also, as far as I know, isn't Grindr for LGBTQ+? If so, why would I go there? I am straight. Or do you think straight men should "stop whining" and date other men? How is this different from conservatives telling gay people to just not be gay?

At the very least, thank you for letting me know I shouldn't be spending time on Lemmy. Keep acting like this and then complain about people using non-Fediverse sites. I'm just done. Enjoy Lemmy, the home of double standards and hatred. I won't take part in it any longer.

on the male loneliness epidemic in c/curatedtumblr@sh.itjust.works

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

And once again, I am accused of lying because it doesn't fit your narrative. I'm not even gonna expand further on the fact that I do have friends who happen to be girls. The reason I won't expand further is because you'll just assume I am lying about it. Just as Vreyan31 did, and just as you did.

You are purposedly pretending not to understand that my issue is not sex, it's people assuming I am a piece of shit for not having sex. And to further your own view, you just prove my point, which is that people will disregard anything I say just cause I didn't have a relationship. Seems that the person obsessed with sex isn't me. I'm not the one making judgements of others based on whether they did it or not.

on the male loneliness epidemic in c/curatedtumblr@sh.itjust.works

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 16 points 2 days ago (29 children)

Because these posts lump all men without relationships together. Does the Tumblr user above make any mention of exceptions? Nope. The post boils down to men who didn't date didn't succeed because "skill issue". This would imply that regardless of any other possible causes, I am deserving of ridicule because I don't live life like you.

You yourself make assumptions about me. I was right to say "because of social anxiety, btw, not that you'd care", because immediately here's a reply that implies my social anxiety is not real, or it is but it's not relevant. You assume the worst of me because I dare not have a girlfriend. This is precisely the issue. I've long since moved on from pursuing dating. I don't care if I never have a girlfriend anymore. However, what I do care is if people assume I'm a horrible piece of shit because of it.

Long story short, your comment is case in point: It does not matter what I say. My reply to you is useless. I never had a girlfriend and therefore anything I say is discarded because I have to be an asshole in order for that to be the case.

on the male loneliness epidemic in c/curatedtumblr@sh.itjust.works

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 days ago

You know that's not what I mean by social anxiety. Even the fact that you put it in quotation marks makes it sound like you don't believe anxiety can be a genuine reason to have never dated. I have social anxiety. I am a man. I've never dated. Therefore, you will now assume I'm a fascist who hates women, stalks women, is violent towards women. You will also assume that my social anxiety (or "social anxiety", as you say) is a lie, a cover for the way you assume I act.

I'm not making excuses for actual fascists or actual men who do the things you mentioned above. I am, however, against this idea that men who struggle dating MUST do those things because there's, supposedly, no other explanation. Do the men you describe exist? Sure. Attacking any men not in a relationship is where I draw the line.

on the male loneliness epidemic in c/curatedtumblr@sh.itjust.works

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 29 points 2 days ago (87 children)

Genuinely, who keeps posting shit like this on here? I keep seeing posts such as this one and it's honestly pushing me away from Lemmy. Why spend time on a platform that hates me? If being a man who didn't date (because of social anxiety, btw, not that you'd care, since clearly men are by default fascists, according to some comments here) is a sin, let us know on the front page, so that me and others like myself can avoid this place.

A lot of comments are, thankfully, calling this shitty behaviour out. But then I look at the post itself, which has 696 upvotes and 166 downvotes, and I'm like... I'm not wanted here.

on the male loneliness epidemic in c/curatedtumblr@sh.itjust.works

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

Holy, this thread is a mess. If you think all men who struggle dating are fascists, this conversation ends here. If you accept the fact that not every man not in a relationship is a fascist, then we can talk. More specifically, we can talk about how the point isn't to "coddle fascists", but rather to not antagonize new men into the arms of Andrew Tate and others.

Is someone with social anxiety, therefore struggles dating, a fascist? You might know a far-right socially anxious guy, sure, but that doesn't prove anything beyond the fact that this one person is a fascist. I'm not sure how it's right wing propaganda to say that generalization is bad. But I'm also not sure whether you realize an issue (in this case, men struggle with relationships) can have more than one cause.

on the male loneliness epidemic in c/curatedtumblr@sh.itjust.works

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 days ago

You... do realize there are lonely men in other countries, right? Like, the US is not the only place on Earth? Ah yes, the infamous Trump voters from checks notes ... Norway, Egypt, Japan, etc.

And if you're gonna say "Well they're not voting for Trump but some other Trump-like politician", don't bother. You can't generalize every man, half the world population, just because you know men who voted Trump/Trump equivalents. Because if that'd be how it works, I could just as easily find you a woman that voted Trump and then point out how, supposedly, women suck cause they vote Trump based on this "evidence".

on the male loneliness epidemic in c/curatedtumblr@sh.itjust.works

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

So tell me this then: When people hear that a man hasn't dated, why is the first thing that comes to your mind the assumption that "you walk around with a maga hat and tell women your body my choice"? Is that the only explanation? Is there no nuance in the world? If a man has never dated, is he automatically MAGA and anti-abortion?

Trump: Russia has less than two weeks to end war in c/news@lemmy.world

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 2 points 4 days ago

Is "two weeks" the new "day 1"?

What is something you never understood the hype for? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 4 points 4 days ago

I don't get the uncanny valley from them, but I guess that can vary from person to person, so that's fair.

The thing about chats being filled with too many people for any one person to matter I agree with. But that's a big streamer thing, not exclusively a vtuber thing.

Is there a community where I could share my favorite Japanese music discoveries once a month? in c/lemmy411@lemmy.ca

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 weeks ago

It's not me, unfortunately. My username is a reference to something from Steins;Gate, I wouldn't be surprised if there are other "ElPsyKongroo"s around the internet xD

smart bed in c/microblogmemes@lemmy.world

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 26 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's... it's not satire?!

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What is your favorite Japanese song? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 month ago by ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works to c/japanesemusic@sh.itjust.works

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Let's kick things off with what is, well, probably a hard question, to get to know each other, since this is a new community. What is your favorite Japanese song?

I know a lot of people, myself included, would have a hard time deciding on a number 1, especially since it can and will change over time. So feel free to list several of your favorites if you can't choose. I'll post mine as well in a comment below.

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Is there a community where I could share my favorite Japanese music discoveries once a month? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works to c/lemmy411@lemmy.ca

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I don't know whether anyone would be interested since I'm just a random person haha, but I want to start doing this for myself even without posting it. But since I'd be doing it, I thought I might as well post it.

However, I couldn't find a suitable community. There's !japanesemusic@feddit.de, but they have some rules that would conflict with what I would post. "Title of music posts should contain "Artist - Title" in Romaji, optionally additional tags like [year] [genre]", which doesn't work if the post would contain multiple songs. Also "Do not submit more than one link by the same artist per day", since it's highly likely at least one artist will show up with more than 1 song in any given month.

I found some other Japanese Music related communities too, but they're genre-specific, like City Pop.

Thanks for any help, but if there's no such community, that's also fine!

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Kinda new reader here - How do you decide what books to buy? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 year ago by ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works to c/books@lemmy.world

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I wasn't sure how to name this post so it makes sense, but I'll explain more here.

I say I'm a kinda new reader because, technically, I have read, it's just that most were stuff I hated and was forced to in school. The books I've read for fun have mostly been as a kid, because afterwards I got turned away by the obligativity of reading what are considered classics in my country.

However, since late last year, I've slowly been getting back into reading. For fun this time. I might get criticized for this, but the few I read since then, I downloaded off of the internet. But now I'd like to actually buy them.

With that being said, however, how do you all decide what books to buy? Given that I'm new to (getting back into) reading, I don't exactly have favorite authors that I could make an educated guess that I'll enjoy. Buying a book is a gamble, cause the summary could sound interesting, but the story itself could still be bad. This hasn't been an issue so far, because there's no risk of not enjoying a book if I pirated it. All I would lose would be the time spent on reading however much before I drop it.

I feel like I will end up spending a lot of time pondering about whether I really want X book and reading or watching spoiler-free reviews. How do you decide what to buy? And how often do you end up not finishing a book you've bought?

(An extra question that's of less importance right now, so feel free to not answer to this next one, unless you want to, but paperback or hardcover? What I'm hearing is paperback being more portable, cheaper and comfortable, while hardcover looks way better. Most of the time I'd be reading at home anyway, so portability doesn't matter as much for me. But I would very much like it to be comfortable to hold and all and look great on shelves, so I'm undecided, heh).