Coskii

That makes a lot more sense. According to the original post in which I was responding:

"I’m talking about like, service workers and store employees who are miserable and take their anger out on completely innocent people."

It was from that framework that I made my post. In those settings as an customer/bystander (which would be completely innocent people) it would be very strange to get bullying comments from many of them. Most wouldn't/don't care enough about people they literally don't need to interact with to even bother putting the effort in to bully.

Office work/hierarchy bullying are super common and happen in almost any workplace I've ever seen. I wasn't aware that was the topic. As for how to avoid being bullied in those types of situations.. it's a lot of work. Some of the common ways people handle it are to ignore, confront, joke, or play dumb. I personally mix it up.

But the single best way to deal with bullying is/has/will always be: group up. Bullies generally 'punch down', going for people who appear in some way weaker than they are. It falls apart very quickly when there are others around who are willing and able to support you.

It's more of a bell curve situation. The goal is to look as unoffensive as possible. Anything that can set off the 'life is unfair' alarm in people who are already unhappy increases the chances of comments. That includes, looking nice, wearing expensive (or perceived expensive) anything, most well doe makeup usage, nonstandard nailwork (anything more than a simple color).

While this isn't true for everyone, it is definitely true for those who are willing to toss out comments in the first place..

And I wonder more than that how often you are getting comments. Unless you're on either extreme end of the bell curve, or in some other way sticking out way more than you should, it's strange to me that anyone would deal with being bullied.

The real question is how many times is it going to take before Canada and the rest of the world just move completely away from trade with the united states of america to avoid dealing with whatever on again off again bullshit.

I sure hope this means I get a new Extreme G out of it.

God help those haunted by the dubstep fanatics.

Rattling chains and haunting moans? Nah, nonstop basement wubs.

Well the anime corner results show me I'm not down with the popular anime. Most of the ones I'm currently enjoying are at under 2% of the vote.

I truly hope your circles don't run into this often.

I'm pretty sure my issue overall is that I didn't dislike smoking. I was never really a heavy smoker either, the worst I ever got was a half pack (about 10) in a day, and those days were fairly rare.

The smell while not exactly good reminds me of my (now passed) grandmother, which I'd say is generally tied for the worst part. The other main issue being the health issues, and yeah. I quit mostly because of those and my general dislike for being addicted to anything at all. I quit coffee after the first caffeine headache, and if I find myself crutching on anything else, I tend to cut it out too. Currently working on most sugars, and cutting back on carbs some.

For most middle and low income families 'filing taxes' is how they get the amount they overpaid returned. If they cannot then the government keeps the extra.

It'll be a perfect shitstorm. It'll also show the horizon of what's coming from the current administrations current changes.

I'm waiting for 2027 before I start being shocked at anything happening. That will be quite a year.

I would assume that there are different 'reasons' that cause the broader feel of asexuality. Mine is a complete apathy for the want or need of it. I can enjoy making others feel good, such as giving them a massage in a normal way. I can feel that my work towards helping them feel good is rewarding in and of itself.

I figured out my side of things when after being with my partner for many years I was getting increasingly frustrated that while they were able to enjoy the experience for what seemed perpetual, my side of things remained the same, regardless of whatever was done. To feel the same for oral or penetrative felt like something was wrong to me so I started looking around at other types of options. I did whatever appealed to me but in the end none of it changed anything for me.

For other people, they may have a different kind of situation where the act in any form is uncomfortable which can be a personality quirk or in some a complete lack of empathy. Something that is blocking them from experiencing what is in effect a 'really intense massage' that some people crave. I'm not going to try and list all the various societal/personal/learned behaviors people have about sex across the globe which may play a part in their enjoyment/need/desire for sex.

Edit: cleaned up a small section I wasn't happy with and I was hurrying at the end of my lunch break to try and get all the words out. And Also:

Anecdotally, I've been very lucky to have moved many places and seen many things, met many people on a close enough level that knowing how often they sought sexual activity. I know some people who are obsessed with getting some, some who are relatively indifferent, and others who equate it to a smooth drink at the end of a good night. All over the place in terms of how much they focus on it.

After realizing that I may very well be ace in my own right, other little puzzle pieces started to fit together. I was in a long distance relationship with my high-school sweetheart after high-school for about 5 years. I had no issues with lacking any kind of intimate touch, my partner needed it and despite all that cheating stigma, went ahead and found some anyways. It was important enough to them that waiting for someone to appear once every 6ish months wasn't an option for them. I didn't understand it then.. because again, I had no issues waiting that long or longer. I would talk to them almost everyday and that was more than enough for me.