Actually in the Netherlands there is a program is called “Drugs Information and Monitoring System” (DIMS). You can take your illegal drugs there without facing any type of punishment. They’ll test your drugs (usually) for free just to see if they contain what you’d expect. It’s a harm-reduction project.
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I get that it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but surely you’ll also understand those people who want to get certain questions (like kids) over with early. It’s also why a lot of people put some of those things on their dating profiles for others to see before even connecting.
For some things there is no point to proceed if the answer doesn’t match between the couple. Just means they aren’t compatible and that’s ok. Better to find out before you have a deep emotional connection in my opinion. Less heartbreak that way.
Same with politics. I can’t imagine having formed a connection with someone over other stuff and then finding out they are on the opposite side politically speaking. Nowadays politics and ethics are very deeply linked and I won’t be with someone with poor ethics. It’s just not something to compromise on.
For me the relief comes from finally being able to let go of the guilt I felt for not getting it done before. Maybe you don’t feel guilty so you don’t get the relief after the guilt?
Sure it’s private. I wouldn’t walk up to a random person and ask them if they have deep rooted trauma, a mental illness, a substance abuse problem, if they want kids, if they are emotionally available etc.
However, in a partner those things are often incredibly useful to know. Same for where they stand politically.
I looked it up. Seems this was the year he was formally diagnosed with HIV. And it was 4 years before it claimed him.
A lengend gone too soon, but it’s somewhat comforting to know he had fluffy companions.
My hyperactivity is mainly mental only. Brain going a million miles per hour without really being able to focus on any of it and never any downtime.
Hmm… I don’t drink coffee. Maybe I should start.
Currently in a waiting room because my knees stopped kneeing. And I’m younger than 35.
1, 4, 9 or 19 depending on the temperature in the bedroom.
My executive functioning fell off a cliff when a lot of externally enforced routines all stopped during Covid lockdowns. While watching YouTube it suddenly recommended a video describing what adhd can look like in adults. I looked into it more and am 99.99% sure. It explains so much about my whole life.
As I am not looking to get medicated and the waitlist for an official diagnosis is long I don’t see the point at the moment. Especially because I don’t feel like I need someone else to verify what I already know.
What are the chances that one of the first 50 or so people had some kind of STD and this is just a mass-spreader event? What are the chances that she now has permanently damaged her health?
I’m fine with sex between consenting adults as long as it happens safely. I just don’t see how this could possibly have been safe. And even if (and that’s a big “if”) all of the participants got tested beforehand, what are the chances that the next person “inspired by” her will also do this safely?