BonkTheAnnoyed

joined 4 weeks ago
[–] BonkTheAnnoyed@piefed.blahaj.zone 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Hey. It's really shitty that on top of fighting for your life, you gotta deal with dysphoria, too. It's not fair, and I'm so sorry.

I wore a lot of cute fem knit hats when I went through chemo, and that helped. I also leaned into clothes that emphasized my beautiful new-to-me fem figure, so if someone was going to misgender me it would have to be on purpose because they were an asshole and I didn't care what they thought.

Surprisingly, my loving spouse taking lots of pictures helped a lot, then, and later. I was surprised by how fem I looked even when all I could think about was my big lumpy dome and face elbow that other people called a nose (it's smaller than my dad's cis wife's, but try telling my brain that).

Hopefully this helps. You are beautiful.

Fuck cancer. Send cancer into the fucking sun. I believe in you.

Ps: there are LGBTQIA cancer support groups out ther, and they can really help. Here's one such org.
https://www.cancer-network.org/

See shit like this is why I sought out a non cis-male surgeon

[–] BonkTheAnnoyed@piefed.blahaj.zone 12 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I always thought it should be possible to model the FFT in physical media. I think it would make an amazing piece of art

[–] BonkTheAnnoyed@piefed.blahaj.zone 16 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Just, she replied to a question about children's trans healthcare with, "I will continue to protect women in sports..." so maybe more LGB ally