Bonehead

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[–] Bonehead@kbin.social 26 points 1 year ago (1 children)

...to justify giving $55B to Musk. Not even advertising their products or services. Just to satisfy Musk.

[–] Bonehead@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

Black people have been enslaved and then treated like shit by racists for centuries. That's why they are associated with criminal activity, not because they actually commit more crimes compared to everyone else. It's not the same as the vast difference of men committing violent sexual assaults on women as opposed to women committing violent sexual assaults on men. The fact that you're trying to equate them just shows you're a racist as well.

Besides, here you agree with black people it’s not just “people venting”, it is an attack.

a comparison of men to dangerous animals, irrespective of any nuance, which is a form of attack on a social group.

You said that, not me.

Again, no one is attacking men. A bunch of women were asked on camera by a man, without warning, and they gave an off the cuff honest answer. You can't get upset with all women just because some made a choice you don't agree with. Especially not when that choice has nothing do with you, because they don't even know you exist. Seriously, get over yourself. It's not about you...

[–] Bonehead@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

And I'll call it Rosey...

[–] Bonehead@kbin.social 12 points 1 year ago

This is essentially the problem with forums that grow faster than mods can keep up. Everything is fine until something like this comes along. When the brigades come out, trying to maintain order and read every comment for content becomes impossible. Unfortunately all we can do is hold each other accountable. Those that can take the abuse stand their ground for others that can't. And when the dust settles, hopefully someone will have learned something. Even if that something is just reinforcing their choice. It's all part of maturing, both for the site and for the people. Just don't let it get you down. This site is not representative of the general population. Neither is Reddit. There are more people in this world that empathize with you than there are on this site.

[–] Bonehead@kbin.social 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (6 children)

Why should I not compare?

Because there is no difference between a white man and black man. On average, they are physically similar. But there is a massive physical difference between men and women. And before you interject with "ackshually, women can rape men too." No one is disputing that. But how it is done and how often it happens is vastly different. Violent rape is a legitimate concern for every single woman, whether you want to accept it or not.

Purposefully putting myself to what group?

a comparison of men to dangerous animals, irrespective of any nuance, which is a form of attack on a social group.

I literally pointed out what group I was referring to.

You claim that you're willing to listen, but you insist that women listen to you and accept your solutions without question. You claim you're being attacked, when women are asked the question on camera without directing it at any specific person. You claim women are wrong to feel that way, without ever asking why they feel that way and what experiences lead to that decision. You claim you're standing up for yourself, against women that would choose to be alone with a bear rather than a random unknown man.

No one wants your solutions. No one asked for your solutions. No one is attacking you, because no one even knows who you are. No woman is wrong for feeling anything. And no woman should be forced to choose any man are not comfortable with, even if you're a "nice guy". It's not about you...

[–] Bonehead@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago (8 children)

would you rather be alone in a forest with a bear or a black person”

Stop comparing yourself to black men. This isn't about race.

And that’s what men in the feminist conversations normally do - listen and care and respect. I am no exception.

Yeah, except....

If women expect men to listen, could they please listen for once?

You don't want to listen. You're just waiting for your turn to talk.

a comparison of men to dangerous animals, irrespective of any nuance, which is a form of attack on a social group.

Again, you are purposely putting yourself in that group and getting offended by it. You are not being oppressed just because someone who doesn't even know you exist would rather not be alone with you.

And that’s where we have to interject.

Which is why women are choosing the bear. Unfortunately you don't seem to get that. You don't have to interject, because it's not about you.

[–] Bonehead@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Out of curiosity, what are dreams like for you? Is that also just a stream of sounds without images?

[–] Bonehead@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago (10 children)

You want someone to listen to you? You want "respect"? You have to give it first. That's how life works. You can either go around being respectful to other people, and if it's reciprocated then great but if not then you move on. Or you can go around being disrespectful to everyone until you get respect first, and people will rightfully treat you the same way.

Women are not venting to you. They are just venting. You are choosing to inject yourself into the conversation and demand that they listen to you first. You're demanding that they accept your solutions without question. And then you wonder why no one wants to listen to you. If you're unwilling to see that, that's your problem.

[–] Bonehead@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago (14 children)

You are not owed reciprocation. You are not owed appreciation. No one is asking you to listen to them. You've taken it upon yourself to respond to a woman making a general statement that's not directed at you. You made that choice.

It's not the responsibility of women to ensure that you do not become radicalized. You have to take ownership of your own life and the choices that you make. That includes the choice to become aggressive, or hostile, or to become a rapist. Women don't make you do those things. You decide to do those things, no matter how you try to justify it. The choice is yours alone.

[–] Bonehead@kbin.social -3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Especially the ones who dismiss things by saying “this isn’t about you” when it is about everyone who is impacted by it.

They definitely feel they have a right to express their desire, because as a man… I’m obviously trying to fuck everything in sight. (Sarcasm)

I feel uncomfortable around unknown women

Tell me again how you don't portray yourself as a victim.

I’d like to not be in this conversation with you.

The feeling is mutual. Have a nice day.

[–] Bonehead@kbin.social -3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

“Unknown men” includes me if they don’t know me.

You are specifically choosing to put yourself in that group and then get offended by it. That's no one else's problem but your own. Yes, I'm dismissing what you say, because you keep trying to portray yourself as a victim when it has nothing to do with you. You're not a victim just because a woman who doesn't know you would choose not to be alone with you.

[–] Bonehead@kbin.social -3 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Let's just make this clear.

IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU!

Seriously, you don't have to take it personally. Women aren't saying they'd rather be alone with a bear than you, specifically. Just as all women aren't the same as the women that have harrassed you, you are not the same as the men that have harrassed them. You, specifically, are not the man they'd choose a bear over. You are not the subject of their feelings. Stop taking it personally, and you won't feel bad.

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