BigBenis

I just drove through Wyoming and it's a prime spot for wind turbines. Too bad it's also prime for coal mining...

I switched to Tidal a couple years ago and I'm happy enough with it. It's cheaper than the comparable membership tier I was paying for with Spotify. The higher fidelity streaming is nice and supposedly it pays artists the most over any other steaming service. Their recommendation algorithm doesn't index so heavily on your favorite tracks like Spotify's does, so I'm discovering new music a lot more.

The UX isn't quite as smooth as Spotify's. I can't cast from the browser app and it doesn't remember what I'm listening to between devices. When I first switched there were a lot more bugs but I haven't noticed as many over the last year.

After Tidal inevitably succumbs to corporate rot, I'll be switching to owning my own collection and self-hosting. But until then, I'm happy with Tidal.

Seth Rogan

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My grandma was asking me if I had an evacuation plan. I told her if a tsunami was big enough to reach as far inland as Portland it would be the least of my worries.

"Stop genociding yourself"

Meh, I actually know how to code without the help of AI and my knowledge in computer science is minimal. A lot of people assume you need to be good at math and whatnot to be a software developer but in reality it's like the difference between being a construction worker and having an engineering degree.

Edit: I'm a senior software engineer for a big tech company. Y'all down voting me are either over-inflating what software engineers do on a day-to-day or undervaluing what construction workers do.

The left doesn't worship their politicians as the second coming of Jesus Christ son of God.

"compulsory monogamy", which is obviously nonsense

Compulsory heterosexuality has been the standard of our society for centuries up until very recently. It was common for closeted gay men to marry women in order to fit into society and then have secret affairs with other men on the side to satisfy their homosexuality. That's changed over the last few decades but even now it still happens. Would you have told a gay man from 50 years ago that compulsory heterosexuality is nonsense? That nobody is forcing them to fall in love with and marry a woman? Despite the fact that every social normality and structure was oriented towards heterosexuality and fiercely rejected homosexuality to the point where homosexual people closeted themselves out of fear for their own lives.

I'm not saying non-monogamous people have it as bad as homosexual people did in the previous era. But you can't deny that our society strongly encourages monogamy and strongly discourages non-monogamy through social norms and structures. Similar to homosexuality in the previous era, there are little to no widely available resources for non-monogamous people to help them understand that part of themselves and the vast majority of them don't consider it to be an option due to the stigmatization of non-monogamous relationships; in other words, compulsory.

no one is stopping you from being poly

While that's technically true, it's a lot more nuanced than that.

Our society instills monogamous values in its media and traditions. The sentiment around polyamory is that it's weird, naive, frivolous and immature at best. The very suggestion of polyamory outside of friendly circles is often met with negative vitriol, as evidenced by the amount of down votes I'm getting in this thread.

I recognize now that I have always leaned towards polyamory and that's been an awakening that's taken nearly a decade over the last third of my life. I never cheated but I went through deep emotional pain and have caused emotional pain to others trying to figure that out in a world that was telling me monogamy was what I needed to strive for if I wanted a meaningful relationship. Even now, I'm voluntarily in a monogamous relationship because I deeply value my partner, though I can't help but wish society hadn't scared me into rejecting that part of myself for the better part of my life.

The problem in this case is when he wants to see other people and his wife believes they're in a monogamous relationship.

I never argued against that. Cheating in any relationship is deceptive and immoral. My qualms are with the fact that our society is biased against non-monogamy and due to that many people don't realize it's an option and instead resort to ways of getting their needs met that cause emotional harm and turmoil.

That's frankly a poor take.

On one hand, you're arguing that the social and legal benefits of marriage should be exclusive to monogamous couples. Why should marriage require monogamy? It may imply monogamy by tradition but up until recently those same traditions excluded same-sex couples and we've moved on from that requirement by now.

Alternatively, there exist those who are married but practice some form of non-monogamy, e.g. swingers, porn stars, polyamorous couples, separated couples. Does practicing non-monogamy invalidate their marriage? You could argue that it traditionally would, but again, we've already moved on from traditional marriage. In reality, the only thing that invalidates a marriage is divorce or death. Monogamy is not a requirement.

On the other hand, you seem to be implying that committed romantic relationships outside of marriage aren't widely and by default of social expectation (i.e. compulsory) monogamous. I'm certain you would be hard pressed to find anybody who would tell you otherwise.

I think we as a society need to get over compulsory monogamy. It clearly doesn't work for everybody. Why must two consenting adults refrain from expressing mutual love for one another?

Don't get me wrong, cheating is unethical and monogamy is still valid for those who want it. But the idea that monogamy is the most pure form of love is a social construct that has no basis in reality.