Beebabe

Why is it always the ones who look like Mr. Potato head?

I have two trainees and when they come to me with complex questions they’ve clearly thought out and debated it makes me so happy.

Much like victim blaming. Except we’re the victims of capitalism.

I think it’s good to discuss our feelings. Men have socially reinforced the exact opposite amongst themselves and had it imposed on them by others. We’ve all heard “boys don’t cry, man up” etc. I worked with a young man who thought he was mad all the time. We broke through that, he was having so many emotions he didn’t know how to label because he simply wasn’t encouraged in that direction. That, I think, is incredibly lonely.

Stack on top of that growing up behind a computer screen, surrounded by manfluencers giving questionable advice, having your formative years recorded and picked apart…not being able to make those early awkward social interactions because of covid for a lot of young men as well…yeah.

Of course I think it does get conflated with a lack of intercourse or whatever. Young women are feeling abused by their lack of rights and they view what would traditionally be awkward young love/courtship as a threat. Incel ideology used to be fridge, but there are a disturbing number of young men embracing these ideas. All while women’s reproductive options are limited, making intimacy more difficult for everyone.

So there’s this historical precedent of not opening up, but boys started to learn not to do that anymore. Just in time to get shut down. It’s not girls fault, it’s not boys fault, it sucks. But I don’t see it improving until intimacy feels safe for everyone again.

It’s not absurd to say 20 year olds and 30 year olds are different in that way. From life experience to brain development, it’s a documented fact that older people predate these inexperienced individuals for a variety of reasons. Hence, if you look 20 and a 35 year old is interested in you, I advise you to be cautious. Now, some people will argue that once someone is legally an adult none of that matters. Sure, under the eyes of the law. But you’ve more than admitted here you’re looking for someone immature, that you are also immature. Be careful, older people giving you advice don’t do so to harm you or because they are ashamed they’ve aged. They have often been taken advantage of by older individuals.

Here it is implied girls dressed a certain way is a prompt.

And it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to extrapolate “bad things happen to them” from trouble.

I want to take the opportunity to leave this here: https://sbaproject.org/what-were-you-wearing/

I had no idea. Tyvm for the info.

It has nothing to do with being secure oand insecure. Predators target young, naive individuals. It’s a known fact. Silence enables predation. Your defensiveness is weird.

Makes sense, I didn’t know that. The power bar gels I eat at basically electrolytes and a little caffeine.

No, you aren’t. I only use it because my work makes me to be able to share with everyone in the district.

Used to be me. I grew up during heroine chic so it was intentional fasting. Gaining even a pound was unacceptable. That behavior stuck around even though nobody cares anymore. These days, I have rice cakes throughout the day, so I don’t get the shakes. And those little power bar gels.