AutomatedPossum

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[–] AutomatedPossum@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago (4 children)

This entire play of thoughts hinges on the idea of taking out the absolute worst part of living stealth, the fear of being found out. Be careful with that kind of impossible hypotheticals, they will end up harming you.

[–] AutomatedPossum@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago

It's basically like going back in the closet, the entire purpose of my transition is to be my authentic self and i can't be that if everybody thinks i'm a cis shit. I'm not judging anybody who lives stealth, there's legit security concerns in most parts of the world, but i seriously loathe having to hide my transness.

Also this scenario may include the absolute nightmare of me never meeting my trans friends and never getting to experience t4t dating.

[–] AutomatedPossum@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago

Also useful if you're dating somebody who's already been spoilered on what's in your pants, although i could see the effect of that wearing off after a while.

[–] AutomatedPossum@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Spend more time listening to transmasc people, learn about their struggles, their dysphoria triggers etc. This will help a lot to empathize, and it actually expands your own understanding of gender a lot to see how trans people of other genders go about their transitions.

[–] AutomatedPossum@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I talked to my dermatologist about IPL and according to her, IPL has lasting results when the follicles aren't too deep under the skin. The shins were her example for a place where it makes sense to try IPL, even a home device, whereas face and back were her examples for where you shouldn't bother and go for laser or electrolysis instead.

I've had 8 or 9 laser sessions on my face now and the reduction in growth is pretty drastic. Never could grow more beard than a heisenberg, but used to be that i had to shave twice a day on the chin and upper lip to make dysphoria bearable and now i'm at the point were i just don't have a real 5 o'clock shadow and only see a few isolated spots of stubble after two days without shaving. Like, i'm literally at a point were stubble is the last thing on my mind when i use concealer and foundation. I've dumped about 1k into this to get here, but it was absolutely worth it, i feel so much better, get clocked so much less etc.

[–] AutomatedPossum@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago

Absolutely! I've found out i'm more of a flower headband kind of girl, but these look really tempting.

[–] AutomatedPossum@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

These look very cute!

[–] AutomatedPossum@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You might be surprised what 1,5 years of HRT can do, but yes, absolutely get off reddit, the trans community there is awful and the subs for transition timelines in particular are really bad for dysphoria. I had a legitimate crisis because researching too much on r/trangender_surgeries and seeing all these before-after pics of FFS amplified my face dysphoria to unbearable levels. That gets better when you stop going there, it's honestly shocking how much harm that place can cause.

Media hygiene is a core trans survival strategy in this day and age. If you find that content has a bad influence on you, drop that shit.

As far as finding a trans community irl goes, that can be tricky, but it's absolutely worth it. Nothing helps more than being in a room full of nice trans people, i actually feel normal in such a context. Not hidden in plain sight like when i'm stealth, not in disguise like when i was boymoding, but completely normal just by being my authentic self. That's priceless. But it can take a while to find an org where you fit in. Many of the cool ones do not advertise that much and kinda piggyback on established queer orgs in the area. Check if they're using nonbinary-inclusive language or if they stick to outdated terms like "transsexual" instead, the latter is a pretty reliable giveaway they're truscum. With pride season coming up, you may have more opportunities to find orgs that recruit mostly through word of mouth or by other offline means.

[–] AutomatedPossum@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Are you getting the ones with the little bells on them?

[–] AutomatedPossum@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago

you can just make up a meaning for it, mine is Hitlerist Shit Take Servant, which in the case of 4tran may be more accurate than the original meaning.

[–] AutomatedPossum@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago

you can still be a catgirl, foxgirl, puppygirl etc., headpats are a trans right

[–] AutomatedPossum@hexbear.net 16 points 1 year ago

"catgirls" and "puppygirls"

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