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it's been on 4chan about as long as pepe, ofc it's super fucking racist

Being afraid of coming out is fairly normal, i don't get how that would have any impact on you being "actually trans"

Being proud of who you are and putting yourself out there without fear are not inherent to being trans, they are skills. You need to learn them. By "need", i mean that they are indispensable to lead a good life as a trans person, but also that these attitudes, ways of thinking and mannerisms need to be grown and developed by practice and exposure. The initial round of coming outs is part of the first, big steps in that direction, as are the first times presenting as your true self in public, and these moments are, at times, big, scary, leaps of faith. But they also take big weights off your shoulder, they free you off the burden of keeping the secret, and it gets easier after that, like, a lot.

Hat

Freedom for all political prisoners, even the innocent ones!

down with cis

"Everyone's (X) but me" is actually a very common thing among dysphoric trans women, i see that al the time. I mean, i get it to a degree, i have bottom dysphoria in spite of being completely fine with my partners not having bottom surgery. How we see our body isn't necessarily the same as how we see others. But there's some basic viewpoints that will come back to haunt trans people if we don't question them, and the whole "it's over" meme is absolutely one of them.

Speech therapy is actually one of the very few areas in German trans healthcare where accessibility and coverage aren't a problem. But don't get me started on laser hair removal.

nonbinary antifa cat & possum marxists

i don't know who made this, but i want to hug them already

catgirl café

it’s way too late to do anything about it now though, I'm well past puberty

Sorry for jumping down your throat in a second, but that shit needs to be dressed, and by that i mean i have to call it out. I get how common this is, but it's still wrong and that needs to be corrected.

What you have there is a toxic mindset that's actively harmful to all trans people who aren't lucky enough to have gone on puberty blockers before any physical changes happened. Which is practically all of us. You're telling literally every single trans person i know, me, my closest friends and everybody i dated or crushed on over the last years that you find something's fundamentally wrong about our bodies and that you reject us and see us as failures. That assumption is as wrong, flawed and reactionary as it is insulting. I can't even get into how insulting it is because that would get this post deleted for hostility and getting this out there is too important for that.

People forget how incredibly rare it is to avoid first puberty entirely, most trans folks don't even crack early enough to make it an option in theory and that's before all the hurdles like transphobic parents, medical gatekeeping or genocidal legislation. Most of the underage kids who are in gender affirming care in the first place only got there after they started going through most of or a significant part of their first puberty, taking blockers to prevent it from progressing further. Most people also can't afford FFS, either and we're still out there living our lives. I know a ton of trans girls who transitioned in their 30s or 40s who "pass" (fuck passing, btw) and look hot, myself included. The idea that you need to avoid your first puberty to "successfully" transition is incredibly transphobic and cissexist egg shit and you can't do yourself a greater favor than cutting that reddit bs out ASAP. I know that's easier said than done, i know that the first steps in a process that takes literal years are daunting, but it starts paying off early on already and a closet ain't a place to live. I can tell you that much, i've tried running away from these truths for a couple decades and i'm honestly surprised i am still alive after doing that to myself. Being an instantly clockable trans woman is still better than perfectly passing as something that makes you miserable.

As far as the dick stuff goes, you can train your body to get erections on E, it just means you need to keep at it and get hard every other day or so. That's ofc tricky for most of us, but viagra works fine, most of the transfem tops i know use it and these people have way better sex lifes than your average cissie loser. I'm not exaggerating here, i know so many transfems who seriously start living in a fucking porno once they're past the first few years of questioning and getting their shit together and accepting themselves for who they are (and yes, all of them are people who started out in the same place as you, because i do not know anybody who got on hormones before they were 20 at the earliest). Coming to terms with your own queerness is one of the biggest game changers when it comes to getting laid, i seriously don't know a single transfem who had a better dating life before she came out (caveat: i don't hang out with straight trans women, things might be more difficult for them). You can't function in relationships when you completely fake who you are.

A lot of places have a gay petite bourgeoisie at this point and that means there's queer people influential in the community and in funding and organizing local prides who benefit from the violent protection of property earned through exploitation that is the actual purpose of having a police force. It's in their class interest to be on good terms with the cops.

I took voice lessons in person (my health insurance covers most of that) and i've never struggled with the usual stuff like dysphoria from listening to the recordings, i view my voice as an instrument and not as something that's inherently part of me. But i had a breakdown at some point where i didn't know if i want to go on and another moment where i really questioned which voice goals to set. I just reached the point eventually were i seriously wondered how much effort i want to put into passing when it isn't needed for my own comfort - i don't get dysphoria when my voice is in an androgynous range, so if i would go further than i am now, i would only be doing it for cis people, to assimilate into their weird, butchphobic notion of womanhood, and that just destroys all of my motivation to keep actually working on my voice, even though i'm one of the few trans people who actually enjoys voice training.