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[–] 01189998819991197253 7 points 1 year ago

I wouldn't just say conservative women, since this is a really good explanation for anyone. My cousin and partner changed their last name to something altogether different when they got married. For them, it wasn't fair to the one for the other take the first's family name, so they just chose a new one. It was really hard for the rest of the family (there's a history with that family name that caused the hardship in its change, and the name holds a lot of weight to the entire extended family). Do you know what didn't happen, though? Absolutely no one, despite how hard it was for them, called the couple by their former name once they announced the name change. Not even our grandmother, whose family name it was and was carried over from her deceased husband. One of their former friends (not even family), however, refused to accept the name change, and kept calling them by their former name. I would consider that dead naming, too.

Name changes are hard for the people around you. Not always for malicious reasons. For me, for example, when a trans friend changed names, I kept calling them by the name that was ingrained in my head for a decade. I caught myself, and fixed it during the conversations. I apologized the first few times, and was assured that no apologies were needed, since it was clear I was trying. It took a bit, but the new name has now been associated with them, and I no longer stumble. Some people, I've noticed, find it offensive, for some stupid reason, when someone changes their own name, and will absolutely not call them by it. I will never understand that part. It's not your name--i's their name ffs--just flippin call them by their preferred name.

I went off on a tangent, but all this to say that you offered a good, generic, applies-to-all-generations explanation.

[–] 01189998819991197253 4 points 1 year ago

Since they're two for me and none for you, I'd say two, but masquerading as one.

[–] 01189998819991197253 1 points 1 year ago

Depending on which part of Earth you're from hahaha

[–] 01189998819991197253 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

At least their talking is spherical...

[–] 01189998819991197253 8 points 1 year ago

The sad truth:

[–] 01189998819991197253 3 points 1 year ago

I came here to drink milk and say truths. And I've just finished my milk.

[–] 01189998819991197253 1 points 1 year ago

If the db gets corrupted, you lose your notes? Or are the notes stored in md files?

[–] 01189998819991197253 13 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Which country have I reached?

[–] 01189998819991197253 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

If this is you not being perfect, then you need to keep this up. This is awesome!

[–] 01189998819991197253 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The birds, probably:

[–] 01189998819991197253 1 points 1 year ago

Completely agree hahahhaa

[–] 01189998819991197253 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

As good as google is now or as google was before it went mental?

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