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Oh, okay. I thought that de-federated instances couldn't interact at all, but I guess one-way interactions are still possible. Interesting. Thanks for the info.

I can't seem to interact with any communities from that instance, so I can't report anything to their admins.

The eviltoast.org instance doesn't seem to have much local content, and a recent post asks:

Why has Lemmy.ml and feddit.UK defederated from eviltoast

My instance seems to have de-federated from it already as well.

The lemmy.today instance has more local content and engagement, but I can't seem to interact with its communities from my Mbin account. So I can't contact their admins and report issues.

Maybe the mod from Blahaj that removed their content can report the problem to their instance?

not much of what you’re asking matters as you’re not affected.

I don't understand. This account of mine is only used to interact with LGBTQ+ communities, mostly on Blahaj. Browsing Blahaj communities on Mbin, I do not see anything from instances Blahaj has de-federated. Isn't that how de-federation works?

Hey, I don't think enough people are going to see the update without another comment to bump it up in the Active sorting. Maybe there should also be another post?

I'm really worried, but I'm too far away to help. I really hope someone can.

I'd like to respond to some of the things discussed in this thread, but I don't want to directly reply to anyone. I just want to share my perspective, not argue.

Transgender is currently accepted as an umbrella term and includes a variety of identities. What these identities have in common is that they are not cisgender. Disagreements about which identities fall under the trans umbrella are really about the specificity of the label itself. Some people seem to want the umbrella to be split into two distinctly different labels, with one being specifically for trans people who seek medical transition.

It all comes down to the definition of transgender as an umbrella term. Definitions of terms change, and it's not unreasonable to think that transgender may change meaning again in the near future. But right now, "not cisgender" is what defines transgender identities, and that includes non-binary people and trans people that don't seek medical transition.

As someone medically transitioning by HRT and seeking SRS, my identity is not diminished in any way by acknowledging the validity of other identities. My recent meme explicitly explains my desire for SRS, and there was no push-back. That's because I was explaining my own transition and not attempting to define other people.

Not all trans people seek medical transition, and that's valid. Not all trans people seeking medical transition want both HRT and SRS, and that's also valid. And what trans people want for themselves can change. It's important that non-cisgender people be accepted as transgender so they can accept themselves. Big questions about possible medical transition can be decided later.

Our enemies are the transphobes attacking our freedoms. Let's be kind to our fellow trans people.

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I'm over a year on HRT and still don't fully understand my own sexuality. Is it attraction to women or envy? Is it attraction to men or a need for gender affirmation? Idk. I just know that I have strong desires and ambitions. 🫠

Hey Keris, I'm too far away to help, but I've been following the situation. I understand your feelings of helplessness and dismay, and I can relate to the desire to admit defeat.

You must not give up.

When I was in a very dark place, there was one thing that gave me comfort and the strength to persist:

If I truly give up right now, then I literally have nothing to lose. So I may as well do whatever the fuck I want in this moment. And what I want is to live for myself and not give up!

I know it's a weird way of looking at it, but I'm weird. When I am at that lowest feeling, life looks like a video game where I am free to do what I must do to achieve my goals.

It can be difficult to stay in this mindset. I have found myself switching back and forth between calm resolve and uncontrollable full-body shaking. But I have so far always managed to persist, to keep going for myself.

Please believe in yourself.

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Is that good or bad?