When I see a gay men acting up like the stereotypical gay, I feel like they are acting it up in the same way when I see a very macho hetero man, or a very stereotypical feminine women. I don't feel like they are genuine, it almost feel scripted to me. Could it be that it feels more genuine to them ? I'm projecting my bias here obviously.
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To whatever degree stereotypically gay or macho affects are performative, they are so because they can help an individual feel safe within and a part of their communities and general surroundings. Acting in these ways can be but certainly is not always in conflict with their own individual notions of self.
Good insight, I never thought of this and it make sense.
Found through this article: https://www.thepinknews.com/2023/02/04/masculine-men-preferred-for-leadership-roles-study-finds/