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i saw someone on twitter saying to "leverage your network" i'd sooner leverage a shotgun into my mouth jesus fucking christ

plus all this is meant to be done at a time when you're likely at your lowest confidence, most insecure, and most desperate.

just the idea that it's my job to sell myself to these sorts of business goons who ENJOY seeing people desperate and on edge is so sick. i have nothing to sell, i am not a commodity, i am a human being. and everything's ran thru some shitty AI now i'm sure. like the applications weren't demeaning enough.

can't we all just be assigned jobs by the government? it'd build social cohesion. like the hunger games. maybe you can opt out but I'd rather take my chances than answer these fucking personality tests or get so hopeless i'm actually applying for something with hours I hate with a miserable commute with a terrible wage which ALSO won't hire me

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[–] i_stole_ur_taco@lemmy.ca 34 points 1 year ago

“Leverage your network” is just corporate word salad for an otherwise good idea.

Throughout your life, you’ve studied, been friends with, or worked with people who knew you and you had respect for their sensibilities. That might mean as little as texting or emailing a couple of people and saying you’re looking for work and asking if they have any suggestions for you.

I’ve been working for over 20 years and in my experience, the type of people who are doing the gross version of “working their network” by pretending on LinkedIn are NOT any of the people I would ever want to work with again. They’re either fakers, insane, selling something, or never learned how to properly interact with people. Once you can smell them from their online activities you can learn to avoid them.

I’d say most quality job opportunities come from people you know, and it happens quietly. Nobody’s posting public garbage on social media - they’re having direct conversations with people who are able to connect them with a single person who needs to hire somebody and also doesn’t want to sift through thousands of resumes submitted by bots.

All that doesn’t really address your frustration, though. The game is gross, and it sucks that we have to play it.

[–] circuitfarmer@lemmy.world 28 points 1 year ago

just the idea that it's my job to sell myself to these sorts of business goons who ENJOY seeing people desperate and on edge is so sick. i have nothing to sell, i am not a commodity, i am a human being.

This hit me hard. I'm in a similar boat. All I can say is do your damndest to stay positive friend. It's a fucked up game that only some are forced to play.

[–] Rentlar@lemmy.ca 23 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

As @Humana@Lemmy.world said, a lot of "career advice" is or can seem contradictory.

Being a recruiter itself sounds like hell as much as looking for a job. Having to be the one who communicates bad news to so many people all the time, having to go through reams of resumes and bullshit, your career being specifically tied to whether firms are hiring or not, which leads to being laid off followed by employers rushing to find people to hire with again...

Looking for jobs takes practice and a whole lot of luck. "Leverage your network" is just bullshit speak for talk to people you know who might know where a job for you is. Firms hire at random times during the year, some months no bites, others you'll get multiple.

Remember this variance is not your fault whatsoever and has nothing to do with your abilities.

The best time to look is while you have work but the second best time is now.

I know it is daunting, and the search feels endless. It might take you hundreds of rejections and 10 tries of getting very close but not making it but you only need 1 offer at minimum.

Like a "Continue?" screen at the arcade, you only lose if you give up.

[–] Gold_E_Lox@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago

i think I'll just give up

[–] morrowind@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Having to be the one who communicates bad news to so many people all the time

I mean, they're just automated emails. You click a button

[–] i_stole_ur_taco@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 year ago

The good ones click the button. The shitty ones don’t even do that much.

[–] Blackout@kbin.social 23 points 1 year ago

Have you tried lying on the floor, curling up into a ball, and giving up all hope? Always worked for me

[–] Dagwood222@lemm.ee 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Apply for any and all Civil Service jobs. It might take you a long time to get called, but you get a good union and a pension.

[–] YaksDC@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It took me 3 months of waiting for my federal job, that was 22 years ago.

[–] Dagwood222@lemm.ee 4 points 1 year ago

That's pretty fast. I know people who waited for years to get hired in the Fire Department.

[–] d00phy@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago

It’s important to remember you are not looking for a family to join, you’re literally marketing your skillset to employers looking to hire. It feels dehumanizing because it is. Before hiring you, companies don’t really care about your personality. If they decide to hire you, good companies consider how your personality will fit in with the current team. Also, who you know can be a big part of finding a job. Always has been, in fact. Marketing yourself is really nothing new. The particulars have changed, but the core process is basically the same.

[–] andyburke@fedia.io 3 points 1 year ago

The same advice works for job seeking that works for dating: you are looking for somewhere (vs. someone) that is compatible with you.

Many, many places (or people) are not going to be what you need, or you aren't what they need. So the quest to find the right one is always going to take a while.

The more desperate you become, thinking you are the problem, the more you become the problem. Just breathe and realize you are who you are and it just takes time.

If any interview ever makes you feel bad or too desperate, just get up and walk out. You can, you're a free person. There is some job somewhere that is right for you, it just takes time to find it.

[–] Noodle07@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

So funny to read, I'm just here looking for a beginner office job like receptionist over here lol

[–] Crystal_Shards64@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I'm sorry you're in this position. I hope things improve for you soon. I hope things improve for all of us soon because it feels like most people are getting shafted hard.

A coworker I really enjoyed working with is leaving in two weeks and it made me realize how I'm being severely underpaid. But the stress of job hunting has my stomach in knots.

[–] metaStatic@kbin.social -1 points 1 year ago

You don't need a job you need to acquire currency. A job is just the easiest way to do it.

[–] Nomecks@lemmy.ca -4 points 1 year ago

Go to networking events. Shake people's hands and talk to them. Fuck Linkedin and doing anything other than in-person communications.

[–] pixxelkick@lemmy.world -4 points 1 year ago

It mostly sounds like you are trying to justify inaction.

Posting on lemmy certainly isn't going to help.

There's countless jobs, it's not that bad. Typically if you aren't getting at least some emails back it means your resume has some serious issues and needs fixing.

Pretty much everytime this comes up, the persons resume is very poorly setup and it's obviously why they aren't getting callbacks. Wrong formatting, not parseable, not straight to the point, not scannable, meanders, skips over critical information...

That or the person admits they haven't been putting cover letters on the applications.