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Showerthoughts

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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.

Here are some examples to inspire your own showerthoughts:

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  1. All posts must be showerthoughts
  2. The entire showerthought must be in the title
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    • If your topic is in a grey area, please phrase it to emphasize the fascinating aspects, not the dramatic aspects. You can do this by avoiding overly politicized terms such as "capitalism" and "communism". If you must make comparisons, you can say something is different without saying something is better/worse.
    • A good place for politics is c/politicaldiscussion
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[–] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 32 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I think it's the opposite thing. They can't be alone, they crave attention and validation. A desperate need to have someone around.

[–] fubo@lemmy.world -3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I was thinking more in the sense of "doing something that will lead to breaking-up / divorce" and "acting as if you're already single when you're not".

[–] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Weeeell most cheaters don't intend to be caught or confess. But I get your point.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago

Exactly. This post is like saying men who hit their women are wannabe singles. It massively underestimates the stability of abusive relationships.

Just because one person is abusing the other doesn’t mean the relationship is ending. It would be far less horrifying if that’s what it meant, but that is not what it means.

[–] dudinax@programming.dev 26 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

I think this is way off base. It's easy to make yourself single.

Cheaters either think they will get away with it, or are lying to themselves about what they are doing.

"My partner won't mind so much."

"Nothing that feels so right could be wrong."

"I'm not the kind of person who cheats, so considering the circumstances, this doesn't really count."

[–] neptune@dmv.social 6 points 2 years ago

I think the joke is they want to MAKE themselves single, but also that they ACT like they are single. But yes I'd bet the average cheater is in denial about both sides of this shower thought.

[–] recapitated@lemmy.world 11 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] fubo@lemmy.world 12 points 2 years ago (3 children)

First step to polyamory is consent.

[–] recapitated@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago

Hence the wannabe qualifier

[–] DontTreadOnBigfoot@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

If I've learned anything from all those documentaries about cults, it's that the first step to polygamy is identifying a vulnerable population

[–] explodicle@local106.com 1 points 2 years ago

Polygamy is fucked up

Polyamory is cool

[–] idiomaddict@feddit.de 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That’s the difference between polygamy and polyamory

[–] meekah@lemmy.world -1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

You have to be a special kind of stupid to actually believe that

[–] idiomaddict@feddit.de 5 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I always knew I was special.

Polyamory tends to be very focused on consent and the ethics involved. Polygamy tends to be pushed by religion to ensure an unequal power distribution.

What do you have an issue with?

[–] Daxter101@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 years ago

Well, even then, the differences between a paradigm of romance, and a state-supported power-structure... Are not just 'consent', now, are they?

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 0 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Your implicit separation of religion from concepts like ethics and consent

[–] JustZ@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

Can any religious practice ever be done with consent?

Isn't it always under duress when an eternity of damnation and unending torment is at stake?

[–] idiomaddict@feddit.de 0 points 2 years ago

Sorry, holdover from catholic school. I should have specified: oppressive social movements couched in religion.

[–] Drusas@kbin.social 8 points 2 years ago

Cheaters tend to be controlling in their relationships. They crave that control, so they don't actually want to be single. They just want all of the power in the relationship.