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submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by TheCoolerMia@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/196@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

a 2x2 grid describing different types of homophobes:

Knows and Doesn't care: “[There is no record of this comment]”

Knows and Cares: “Gay people make me uncomfortable and I should work on that”

Doesn't know and Doesn't care: “HOW IS THAT HOMOPHOBIC?!”

Doesn't know and Cares: “That’s homophobic? I’m sorry, I’ll do better next time!”

Was talking about homophobia with someone yesterday and saw this chart in my mind and I thought u guys would like it :3 I know this applies to many things outside of sexuality/gender/etc and even outside of hate so maybe I should have made it more general :p But whatevs, feel free to edit and repost, it's just lines and text X3

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[–] Sekoia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 58 points 2 years ago (1 children)

The top left would just contain a slur tbh

[–] TheCoolerMia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 49 points 2 years ago

ye that's why there's no comment, our lovable mods would get rid of it :3

[–] miss_brainfarts@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Seeing removed comments is something that I've experienced a lot less, almost not at all, since being on Lemmy and especially Blahaj Lemmy.

You guys, gals and enby pals are the best <3

[–] TheCoolerMia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Ikr?! I love this place so much, definetly my favorite piece of the internet since I discovered it like 8-9 months ago :3 And if the mods arent fast enough to remove the comment before someone replies there's always someone calling them out and pointing out why they're in the wrong :3

[–] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 17 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Missing a category which will give us two more outcomes:

Isn't homophobic and doesn't care

Isn't homophobic and does care

[–] sneezycat@sopuli.xyz 12 points 2 years ago

"Doesn't know that isn't homophobic and doesn't care" Aw those two guys are such best friends, I love how they take care of each other and even live together.

"Doesn't know that isn't homophobic and does care" Wait you're saying guys can like other guys??? I've been missing out!

[–] TheCoolerMia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 years ago

Tru dat! I somehow didn't think of making it 3x2 X3

[–] athos@programming.dev 4 points 2 years ago

I think this would muddle op's assumption here, which seems to be that anyone who disagrees with him either has ill intent or is ignorant

[–] TwigletSparkle@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Try this for formatting, to help readability

Knows & Doesn't care: “[There is no record of this comment]”

Knows & Cares: “Gay people make me uncomfortable and I should work on that”

Doesn't know & Doesn't care: “HOW IS THAT HOMOPHOBIC?!”

Doesn't know & Cares: “That’s homophobic? I’m sorry, I’ll do better next time!”

[–] TheCoolerMia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Yeah that does look good! :3 but I want to add a short description before that, maybe "a 2x2 chart describing different types of homophobes" or something? but do u know if there's a better way to call it than 2x2 chart? cuz I have no idea how this is supposed to be called X3

[–] TwigletSparkle@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Your description was good, that's why I didn't post a suggestion. 2x2 chart is accurate and easy to understand

[–] TheCoolerMia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

ty! :3 I do like the new one tho, looks less "dense" to me I guess, cuz it's 4 separate lines instead of being all in one X3

[–] Scary_le_Poo@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"how is that homophobic?" Doesn't mean that someone doesn't care. Depending on inflection it could be an expression of incredulity because they just don't understand.

What would be better in the bottom left would be

scoffs That's not homophobic.

[–] TheCoolerMia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Ye that's why I put it in all caps as if they were screaming angrily and not really willing to listen to an answer, but yours does work better X3

[–] FakeGreekGirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Maybe something like "Everything is homophobic these days. Comedy is dead."

Oh yeah, I've heard that one a lot too X3

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have met very, very few people in the upper right and far too many people in both squares on the left.

[–] TheCoolerMia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

tru dat :< but I actually was friends with one of the upper-right type and he was such a great guy! :D He even dated a trans woman (before u ask, not me X3) and they broke up just cuz they were simply not campatible, he always refered to her as a woman and wasn't ashamed to say he had a relationship with a trans girl :3

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It sort of sounds like he was more like lower right, unless you weren't using 'gay people' as a general euphemism for people who are LGBT+, in which case, I guess your friend might fit.

yeye I said in the post's text that this aplies to many other things :p My friend's main problem was that men acting or dressing femininely made him super uncomfortable which includes some gay people but he also used to struggle trying to see a trans woman as a woman, so it's great that he improved on that aspect :3