Volunteering is always good. Meals on Wheels. Habitat for Humanity. See if the local library system has organized public events. Same for parks. You could take a continuing education class, too. Cooking, art, personal finance.
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I think this is the best advice. These kinds of social gatherings take the pressure off socializing, you’re there because of something else and socializing is a side-effect. That feels nice for all parties. Choose something that is close to a honby or interest of tours, that way you’ll be more likely to meet likeminded people. Good luck OP and remember, you’ve got years to do this, you dont build up a social life in one or two weeks.
Edited to add sports, they’re great in melting the ice. Board game nights if that’s your cup of tea. Fantasy sports leagues
(Language) courses are also great for this. If you make friends, that's a bonus. Whatever happens you'll have learnt a skill.
Any kind of hobby shop or event is a good starting place.
- tabletop and card game stores
- comic shops
- video game stores
- music and records stores
- art studios and galleries
- batting cages, public tennis courts, etc.
- gyms
- libraries (tend to have events)
- trivia nights, karaoke, etc. at bars
- comedy clubs
- pool and billiards halls
- check your city/town government's website and social media for events
- also check public parks' sites
Good luck and happy friending :)
This is a good recommendation.
When I was out of college for a while, I ended up meeting like-minded friends at a monthly retro-gaming tournament/event that was held at a local book/game store. We actually ended up working on some creative projects together as we all had schooling/degrees/experience in video production, writing, and comedy. That opened up the doors to meeting a much larger group of people in the local acting and stand-up comedy scene, as well as other creative fields. So now I have a nice group of friends that I've made as an adult, in a variety of friend circles all b/c I decided to check out some regular events at hobby shops.
Meetup.com can be a blessing but it depends on the area. Definitely going to events you find fun and doing thing you find fun, but with a group. Going out alone and chatting people up. Honestly, if you can find a single dads group in the area, you are golden. And if you can’t… build it and they will come.
You should check out Meetup.com. I started a meetup group for people in their 20's and 30's in my area who are looking to meet people and do fun things. We go hiking, do trivia, wine festivals, dinner&movie, board games, bowling, etc. It's how I have met many friends, some of whom I would consider best friends.
I found kids were a good catalyst for meeting people. Go to parks with then talk with parents. Do free kid activities at local libraries/art galleries/science centers and you are pretty much going to have to talk to other parents. If you go to things regularly then eventually you will see other regulars and the connection will grow. Our local rec center has kid activity times where a lot of other parents meet.
You're a new single dad
You've already indicated you don't have time that is pretty normal. Dual parent households usually take a couple years to get their social lives back on track unless they can afford a nanny
Join a disc golf league with your bambino strapped to you
What country are we talking? Where I’m from, the best way is to join some association, like sewing, woodworking or dancing.
After Covid I landed on a remote job too.
When I felt it was safer to socialize with people I started to rollerblade and got to know a group in my city that gathered in a park and they teached me a few tricks. Now I go there and teach new people too.
I'm not saying that rollerblade is the best thing you can do but there's a chance that you can share this experience with your kid and meet a few new people. Maybe try skating, biking, tennis... There's a ton of options out there that can make you physically and mentally healthier
You use the kid as bait. Haha. I mean, you can take the kid places and meet other parents. If you like them, you can suggest your kids get together to play… which means you guys hang out.
Find a gym with childcare. My local Y does, as do a few of the private gyms.
If you're religious, churches often are good places to meet people in similar situations to you. Even if you're not religious, or are politically progressive, there are congregations like Unitarians that may be a good thing to try.
Events at the library or park can be good.