Melbourne

I might be a bit behind the times, but is this the guy from the bar?

It’s not something you might want to hear, but you generally wouldn’t treat a good friend like that, let alone a girlfriend. Please don’t ever minimise yourself or your feelings, it just both enables him and subconsciously reinforces that you’ll tolerate this.

His excuse… not up to scratch. He knows how to use a mobile phone, right? If that’s the case I hope you can see how his excuse looks now?

Punt this oblivious bastard. He clearly does not care enough about you to pay any attention to your needs and wants, even when these are reasonable. Possibly including the season of the year. And you would have to be deaf, blind and demented not to notice that xmas was happening. He's taking you for granted. His needs are being met. Yours aren't and probably won't be. You deserve better.

If you want to give him a second chance to get it right, see if he remembers Valentine's Day. If he ignores this too - move out stat. He's not ready for any kind of relationship with another human being. Again, you deserve better.

Sometimes it's too late once the horse has bolted. I'd let this one go but the next important milestone I would be reminding him weeks in advance. Eg. "It's my birthday on [date]". A week before you then remind him again "I can't wait to see what you get me". You've now painted it in red across his forehead. If he shows no interest then I would reconsider my relationship.