Put the seat of your toiled down before you flush if you don't want to end up with shit microparticles on your toothbrush.
this post was submitted on 07 Jan 2024
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"Don't do today what you can put off until tomorrow."
I know it sounds like procrastination, but it helps in particular with high stress jobs where things just keep piling on and priorities keep changing. Don't burn yourself out trying to get everything done today.
"Everyone has to start somewhere." and "You're one step ahead of the people who decide to stay on the couch."
This helps with just getting started, like if you are a beginner at the gym and intimidated by those fit people who look like they know what they're doing, or just going solo to a dance class for the first time. Or going on a hike and needing to take a lot of breaks. You're one step better than where you were before you went. At least now you have a starting point and you can only improve.
Also helps when it's cold and/or miserable outside because you know there will be a lot of people who decided to not go out, and you end up with a gym to yourself!
Do stuff for other people and explain until they are like 20% there. Then let them do it themselves and gradually reduce your help.
Thats how my dad did it with a lot of stuff, and I learned so much. Saves you from "mansplaining", from doing free work, from being unempowering.
This makes people feel motivated and you can share your learning experience too, and maybe learn from theirs
A friend will tell you "ok you're about to date a serial murderer, I strongly suggest you reconsider but if you don't that's fine, it's your choice." A manipulator will tell you "NO YOU CANT SPEND TIME WITH THEM THEY LOOKED AT YOU FUNNY I FORBID YOU FROM BEING WITH THEM!!"
Your situation is going to be between those extremes: it's going to be more of one than the other, and you'll know which.
When you feel like it's an easy one for once, it might be so but you'll still flunk it if you think so.
In no particular order:
Advice is usually worth (at most) what you pay for it.
The harshest lessons are about trusting the wrong person.
No one will have more words for you, than a lazy person who wants you to do something for them.
Judge weak people by their natures, and strong ones by their goals.
If possible, don't be poor. If you are though, be wary of following advice on this topic from people who have never been poor for an extended period.