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I feel like I would make use of it more if I could do it again. Maybe that's weird, I don't know.

Edit; To ask more of a question. What would you do differently?

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[–] elscallr@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

Self reflection is good. Learning from your mistakes is good. Regret is useless. It's just agonizing over something unchangeable. It's important not to confuse them, lest you end up dwelling on the past and missing the lessons.

[–] Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Yes. I was wrongly diagnosed with a learning disability. Any failure meant the program was necessary. Any success meant the program was working. One time of many, I was actually told "you might be depressed if you fail in the regular classes." Well, staying in the remedial classes only made me depressed anyway. At least if I did fail they're, it would actually be my own failure I'm living with.

Now, I'm just trying to get through an online high school so I can bypass community college. I tried CC before, but the "Cs get degrees" attitude I got from the teacher reminded me too much of the remedial classes.

Going back, I would push harder for better classes and if they still refused, just go anyway or transfer. Nothing is worst then living up to their expectations.

[–] Buffalobuffalo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

It's hard but worthwhile swallowing one's pride to check the necessary boxes that allow opportunity. Equally important is not to be dissuaded by watching others get by 'the easy way', their impact on your life will be fleeting looking back.

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[–] clearleaf@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

No I had a phase of that but these days I think my curriculum fucking sucked.

[–] dutchkimble@lemy.lol 3 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I'd buy a sports almanac and happily repeat any prior years of my life

[–] Gimpydude@lemmynsfw.com 3 points 2 years ago

OK Biff lol

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[–] morphballganon@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago

I think about this a fair amount. My degree isn't really marketable, but on the other hand, what if my experience has given me perspective that is hard to measure?

I would at least not take the classes that I later deemed to be a waste of time. I spent multiple terms dabbling, trying to find what I enjoyed. If I just went straight for CS, I'd probably be making double what I make now.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 3 points 2 years ago

Depends on how you frame the question, also depends on how you define the schooling period.

Would one keep the knowledge? Would it be going back in time and having the same classmates, living the same experiences? I'd go back just to improve or strengthen my friendships, also I'd use the spare time to learn new things as opposed to those I used to be interested in.

I'd really really would backtrack my tertiary studies and get into my current field a lot earlier. So much wasted time...

[–] throws_lemy@lemmy.nz 3 points 2 years ago

I'd like to get isekai, with all my current knowledge. I might be OP at school and at work

[–] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago

Absolutely, I would save my lunch money to buy Apple and Nvidia stock.

[–] doggle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 2 years ago

If I get to keep my memories and personality from now... Maybe.

It would trivialize most of the coursework and I'd be a lot more confident in general... But

It would be difficult to be an adult trapped in a child's body. People would notice how much of a complete weirdo you are. I think at most I'd go back to my freshman year of college.

[–] psud@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Yes, to the point of choosing a university programme. I chose for stupid reasons and wound up not finding a job I really enjoy until twenty years in the industry in which I landed

Also I now know how to avoid getting fat

[–] Floshie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

How tho ? I'm curious about your findings eheheh

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[–] ohlaph@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago

I would really focus on math and study habits.

[–] psud@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago

Maybe back to small childhood (despite my other answer) to be able to help my mother be healthier so she would have a better chance of survival when she got an uncommon cancer. I'd do primary school again for that, or even to see her again

[–] qyron@sopuli.xyz 2 points 2 years ago

Yes. And no.

I went through some degree of what today is called bullying and never took to defend myself because of a castrating father and severe insecurity. This also impacted my overall school success.

But knowing what I know today, doing what needed to be done to defend myself, I would quickly be labelled as a menace.

[–] MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Yes. Absolutely. Starting again at any young age with the knowledge I have now would be amazing. Getting in on the Bitcoin bandwagon early, when you could mine multiple Bitcoin a day on little more than a core 2 duo CPU, and invest into stocks that I know will explode long before they do when they're at an all time low.

Financially, I'd be far better off.

Also, avoiding mistakes of taking courses and getting diplomas that don't matter and mostly just wasted time on my journey, or skipping the multiple years between highschool and college where I worked menial jobs.

I also met my SO through a video game so as long as I take an active role in that community in the same way, around the same timeframe I'll find them again.... And I can skip all the pointless and ultimately degrading and emotionally damaging relationships along the way.

I could experience the carefree fun of not having to worry about bills or payments and just live... Later, when Bitcoin explodes in value, cash in and buy a nice house....

Who wouldn't want that?

[–] Floshie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Plot twist: you get younger and stuff but the years don't change. You start it all over in 2024

[–] NotMyOldRedditName@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

Seems like you've invented immortality as you keep repeating it.

[–] ZombieTheZombieCat@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I would not go to grad school. Especially not in the city the program was in. Unless you're an MBA or in engineering or something ultimately pretty lucrative, I wouldn't recommend Academia Extended Stay to any sane person who values their own time, money, and dignity.

If I had to do it again, I would have gone for a more specific skill. Not the skilled trades. I know everyone's all about that now, but we weren't all born to be electricians. Just something more specific like a counselor, Auto CAD, etc etc

[–] Lemminary@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

I think I always paid attention in school and got good grades, so repeating that all over again sounds painful. I probably would've chosen a better career path for myself.

Nothing wrong with what I studied, and I'm even grateful that I did go through it, but it's not aligned with what I chose to do in the end so I took a huge financial hit.

[–] Arthur_Leywin@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Haven't finished my first save file yet.

[–] meliaesc@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago

There's no new game plus, so don't waste your opportunities like everyone inevitably does.

[–] solitaire 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

No, but as a hypothetical button I could just press sure. It'd allow me to take preemptive measures about my health.

I'd care even less about school and leave as young as possible. Then go for some vocational training and/or one of the alternate pathways if I want to go to university. Not once has how I did in high school ever been relevant to my life. My higher education has mattered, but dropping out doesn't stop you from going into it - though it can be more (or less) difficult depending on what you want to study.

The combination of puberty and not being able to date would suck though. At least I know what meds absolutely kill my libido and they'd be extremely easy to get prescribed. Problem is, even after I'm an adult it'd be a headfuck - I've always been into people older than me as is. I wonder if instead of chasing milfs and dilfs that I'd be adding a g infront with how long my lived experience would be at that point.

If it's time travel too all the usual bullshit to becoming filthy rich applies.

[–] viking 2 points 2 years ago

No thanks. Came out well enough, don't need a revival.

[–] AceFuzzLord@lemm.ee 2 points 2 years ago

As great as that sounds, I wouldn't wanna do it unless I know as a fact I won't remember a thing from my future. I have read plenty of age regression stories and last thing I want is to be trapped in a kid's body with an adult mind. If I tell people about it, they'd either think I'm crazy if it's classmates at school or I'd have my whole world shaken and torn apart by adults who find I'm smarter than my age would suggest and do test after test and not being able to fully enjoy a second childhood because of this. Either way, I wouldn't want to do either of those, nor would I want to go through major events like open heart surgery or the death of loved ones again.

[–] neptune@dmv.social 1 points 2 years ago

For all the topics you likely could apply yourself more in, there's probably ten that would (especially as a repeat) just be so fucking boring you would not want to relive.

I'd rather return to school as an adult than relive learning my colors, or writing book reports, or whatever else was too boring or too easy the first time around.

[–] Yokozuna@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago
[–] Unsaved5831@lemm.ee 1 points 2 years ago

There were subjects which I hated, either because I found them boring, the teachers were not inviting, or I just needed sleep. For instance, chemistry and national history are examples of them.

Many years later, I found myself in situations where I started to develop curiosity around those subjects, where I would wish to have properly learnt or attended those topics again.

[–] Daft_ish@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

No thnks. Could I instead keep all my credentials and start work at age 13? I'll keep the bald spot and beer belly too.

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[–] Gazumi@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Yup! The absolute best days of adventure and awe.

[–] psud@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

No awe the second time around

[–] vividspecter@lemm.ee 1 points 2 years ago

If I have my memories and knowledge it may help me make better decisions, but it would also be frustrating having to wait for societal changes. It was still a time where being called gay was an insult and racism was rife, and while that still happens, it's much more likely to be called out.

Additionally, watching the world do nothing to stop climate change would be even harder to take knowing what is coming. Maybe I'd try to change that, but it would be like shouting into the void (as climate scientists can attest to).

[–] n0m4n@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

I was never really a child. It was hardwired into me. Life is far better now.

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