Facebook keeps suggesting a former coworker's daughter to me. I remember when she was born! Creepy AF.
this post was submitted on 11 Nov 2023
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A pedophiles dream
I honestly didn’t realise this sort of thing was happening, and am incredibly disgusted now that I do know.
Facebook being like the Mission Impossible handler for child abusers. “Your next mission, should you choose to accept it,” type bullshit.
"this child will self-destruct..."
"I said no sugar before bed time!"
These social media companies will pander to ANYONE.
Anti vax, or maybe just a simple Christian extremist pushing disinformation? You had a home at Facebook. Hate minorities and think Jews control and are also destroying the world? Twitter got you.
They don’t fucking care about anything except engagement. Although Twitter cares more about the disinformation than the engagement clearly.
I don't condone any of that. However, platforms such as those are basically a public square for everyone. And with that comes the ability for the fringe to speak too. We don't have to listen, but they have the 'right' to speak. Of course, within the laws.
So you have no problem with rampant lies that foment violence or harm? B-b-but the public square!!!! Okay elon
These companies build algorithms to highlight and spread because they make money by increasing engagement. It’s not just about having the right to speak, it’s that these horrible people and their lies and hate get amplified causing more harm and legitimacy
It is far more complex than public square so you should be able to say anything.
That’s not how public squares work anyway. Yeah you have the right to speak but you don’t have the right to be immune from consequences.
Lastly these social media platforms aren’t a public square; they’re quite literally private squares that allow people in so they can vacuum every goddamn crumb of data to sell.
Valid points. I just don't care or give those platforms any real thought, or take them seriously at all. Maybe it's having been so desensitized to online opinions from the early days of of internet chat rooms or something.
With that said, I'm still no fan in general, of speech censorship. I'm not right or left either. And I'll take my down votes in stride as consequences of being able to share an opinion here.
This is the best summary I could come up with:
Social media platforms should fight online grooming by not suggesting children as "friends" by default, the communications watchdog says.
This first draft code of practice published by Ofcom in its role enforcing the Online Safety Act covers activity such as child sexual abuse material (CSAM), grooming and fraud.
The largest platforms are expected to change default settings so children aren't added to suggested friends lists, something that can be exploited by groomers.
They should also ensure children's location information cannot be revealed in their profile or posts and prevent them receiving messages from people not in their contacts list.
The method is already widely used by social media and search engines, according to Professor Alan Woodward of Surrey University.
Asked if Ofcom had the resources it needed, Dame Melanie admitted it was a "really big job" but added "we're absolutely up for the task.
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Some years back, I briefly dated someone who liked being on one of the chat-roulette type of apps. She got on via her laptop and my wifi and started chatting with a teen girl. I told her this was problematic for me, an adult male, happening on my internet. I told her she couldn't use the service anymore at my place.
She couldn't understand why I was paranoid about it. Separately, she also thought I was ranting about a conspiracy theory when I told her about the Snowden leaks, so I guess that's no surprise. We lasted only a week.
Accounts under 18 shouldn’t be able to befriend accounts over 18, and vice versa. Once you turn 18, you lose all your kiddy friends like some kind of Logan’s Run
I get what you're saying but how do you implement that? When I was 17 I was dating a girl who had just turned 19. Facebook wasn't a thing then but should I not have been able to be her MySpace friend?
One idea is that you could follow Romeo-Juliet laws. Programmatically, it's not difficult to add such a condition to some presumed friend-finding algorithm. Forgive any formatting problems below...
if user.age < 16:
do findFriendsBetweenAges(0, 18)
else if user.age >= 16 and user.age < 18:
do findFriendsBetweenAges(user.age - 2, user.age + 2)
else:
do findFriendsBetweenAges(18, 99)
The problem isn't the implementation, it's the concept in the first place. If you're spinning up a new Lawful Good social media site, you can make it do whatever you want. The problem is how many different states have different laws about how minors can or cannot enter relationships with people of different ages. Then once you stop considering different states, now consider different countries. The internet is accessible to anyone, no matter their age, no matter their location. Writing a website that can handle every possible situation is not impossible, but may be prohibitively expensive.
And of course, I didn't even talk about people lying about their age on their accounts! How does a website even verify that? To what degree are they liable? You want to upload an ID to make an account?
100 year olds are fucked.
You choose your age and you can’t update it. And then it literally won’t let you add them or talk to them. Easypeasy.
That would've blocked that guy and her girlfriend from contacting each other
So if I was 17 I couldn't be Facebook friends with my 19 year old cousin? Or my grandma? It would be helpful if social media sites would actually let a custodial parent with a validated user profile set up a Facebook or whatever account for their children etc. it's a pipe dream because of laws in varying countries, and child predators. But it would be nice.
Yes. Correct. But you have a good idea, that “Kid” account can have their over 18-year-old friends managed exclusively by the parent account. The birthdate on that kid account cannot change, and when they turn 18. The account is automatically no longer managed by the parent account.
This solves for all of those situations. Kids can add kids at will, only the parent can add adults, when the kid becomes 18 they now control their account.
Sound good?
It does sound good. It's not a bad idea, but have you considered certain problematic situations that may get worse when you introduce a feature like this? For instance, an abusive parent could use such a "parent-child account" to control their victim's online activity, prevent them from accessing contraception or abortion services, restrict access to LGBT material and communities, etc. This leads to one of two things: a victim unable to navigate the internet on their own (in conjunction with other restrictive and abusive practices levied by the adult), or the victim creating their own hidden account without that oversight, (needing to lie about their age to make that happen, in order to access resources they may need).
At the end of the day, we're still talking about technological solutions to human problems, and it's just the wrong tool for the job. Maybe "wrong" is too harsh, but regardless, it's not ideal.
I’ve got nothing for that situation. What’s your solution? We can’t very well ask people to verify their identity. Or… I mean… maybe this is a totally different type of paid service that is TOTALLY tied to your real self?
Everything just points to dismantling social networking, which also means forums, bulletin boards, and every other method of communicating with people.
I don't have a solution, I'm not that clever lol. Though I also think dismantling social networking is an overreaction, like humans understand object permanence, we know we can talk to people when they're not in the same room as us. The internet, social media, are just technological extensions of that ability. I'm not pointing out flaws in good ideas because I want to sink them, I'm pointing them out because someone may yet have a solution to that downstream problem, which would strengthen the idea even further.
I mean here's an idea to combat abusive relationships, one that's not reliant on any technology: make social media platforms mandatory reporters. I'm sure there's flaws in this idea too, but it may be somewhere to start if we're trying to tackle the issue of minors being harassed or abused on the internet.
Mandated reporters may include paid or unpaid people who have assumed full or intermittent responsibility for the care of a child, dependent adult, or elder.
You mean like… a parent or guardian? Hehehe. All this comes back to holding the parent or legal guardian legally responsible for bad things that happen to a child when those things are within their control.
I’m 100% for giving the parents of the kid in this article a misdemeanor neglect charge. They literally have one job: put forth a reasonable amount of effort to make sure nothing bad happens to the kid. And I’m pretty sure ongoing sex pic trading is something that isn’t hard to catch if you lock the phone down even a little bit.