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Posted a personal ad on Cragslist; ended up married.
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Seriously? What year!?
Literally like 3 months or so before Craigslist removed the personal ads section entirely.
I started some kind of anime themed browser game one day with the intent of wanting to see what kind of people would play such weeb trash.
Turns out the kind of people to play that were loyal friends to stay in touch with for over a decade and my future wife, too!
I joined a random Deep Rock Galactic lobby once. Usually I host them so it was odd for me join one idk why I even did that. Ended up becoming friends with one of the people in there and they're one of the best most caring people I know. We talk almost every day now
Slept with a drinking Buddy from university. We have three adorable kids now.
Triplets from a one-night stand is crazy unlucky
Oh, I got a good one. I started leaving earlier and driving slower. It’s way safer and I get great mileage. It’s also more relaxing to not be so worried about making good time.
I don't drive yet so I don't really get why mileage is important. Is it because you're getting money back for fuel or is it just so you feel justified in paying to keep a car? Or is it more healthy for a car to get more driving in?
You've already paid for the gas that's in your tank, best you can do is get the most miles out of it. Long term habits that increase overall average MPG also reduce wear and make parts last longer. Biggest thing is not speeding up when you see a red light ahead.
Ever since I started thinking this way, I started finally seeing all the other cars scurrying past me to get to the same red light that we all stopped at. It compounds the calming effect to see validation through others demonstrating the futility of what I no longer choose to do.
edit: To be clear, I'm not saying I totally drag ass and block traffic. I'm just talking about smoothing out my acceleration curves a bit and the occasional person who zips around everyone else, only to hit a stoplight with the rest of us. I'm not that old yet.
If you accelate hard, drive fast, etc, you get lower gas mileage.
So if you drive 1000 miles per month, and you're getting 25 miles per gallon, then at $4/gallon you're paying $160 for gas a month. If you ease up and can average like 32mpg, you'll only spend $125. Better results may be possible.
Ahhhh I accelerate very quickly because it’s fun, and I brake very slowly because I like not wearing my brake pads down. So I really only accelerate hard if there’s a ton of space in front of me and good side-visibility so I don’t have to risk sudden breaking (obv not only for my brakes, but so I don’t hurt anything!)
But I am soooo accelerating fast at every safe opportunity because it just feels awesome lawl. Then again, in a good month, I’m going 100-200 miles or less (partner and I both gremlins) so the fuel expenditure is maybe 10 bucks a month. Not even that high.
joined mastodon back in 2017
it made me the person i am today, in every way
it was a critical moment in my gender identity journey and finding the place definitely steered me in the right direction
over the years i've escaped my abusive family and came to seattle thanks to fedi, met my best friend and joyfriend both through fedi, and formed a strong sense of community on the servers i host there
i was even in a book about fedi thanks to the work i've done!!!
i owe everything good in my life presently to the fediverse 🥹
About 15 years ago I decided not to be in a hurry when I’m driving, and also to not get frustrated with any other drivers. I just figured I’m gonna be spending too much time of my life in a car I might as well not be getting upset about it. For aggressive drivers I make up a story about how they have explosive diarrhea or something else urgent to attend to. It has made a profound and permanent improvement to my life. Would recommend to a friend.
I'm an Uber driver currently and this approach is vital for sanity/happiness/tips. I drive borderline grandma-style now and have gotten more than one compliment for the smooth trip, etc.
I did this too. Amazing how you still end up arriving at almost the same time as when you drove like a maniac hey?
I think it’s made me more flexible with time in general. But yeah stoplights and traffic matter more than how you drive. It’s futile to think you can go any faster, just enjoy the ride.
Left school in Boston. Got a job in Rhode Island. Nine months in and I got bored. Started looking at jobs on Craigslist. Didn't find anything local. Started scrolling down the cities in the right column. Made it alphabetically down to Seattle. Never been.
Got the job, moved.
Lived here for 15 years. Bought a house, met my wife. Found a place where I feel like I always belonged.
My cat decided to live at a neighbor's 3 doors down. One day I thought "I'll invite her to the barbecue party". Six years later, we're married and have a 2 year old boy (and five more cats).
That is delightful. I hope you occassionally call that cat, "wingman",
That cat knew what it was doing.
Did a sleep study. I was diagnosed with sleep apnea about a month ago because of it and got a machine. Now even if I have a short sleep, I feel more rested that I ever did sleeping a full 8 or even 9 hours.
damn, does it really make that much of a difference? how does it feel now with the machine?
my doctor and i suspect i have sleep apnea. I'll lose up to like 2 hours of sleep per night from micro-awakenings (so out of 8 hours "slept" ill get only 6 hours of actual sleep), but ive been putting off a proper sleep study for a few months now. ive been starting to wonder how it feels to actually be rested for once
For me it did. After doing the sleep study I found out I have a moderate case, around 18 awakenings per hour. After using the machine it's down to one an hour.
The day I got the machine I was pretty tired so I decided to take a nap. Not unusual for me and normally when I nap it lasts about an hour. I put the mask on and slept for four hours immediately and my partner at the time said that she couldn't even wake me up. I couldn't remember having such an amazing sleep before.
Started taking migraine meds. Instead of a three-day incapacitating pounder, I get an occasional throbbing headache - not even on the scale of a migraine.
What do you take for the headache? Advil?
I had a 26-month long migraine... What med? I tried four different triptans, indomethacin, gabapentin, qulipta, Botox... (So much Botox!)
Getting a computer, back when that was not a thing (early 80s). Changed so many things that wouldn't have happened without it.
Nice! Me too!
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I got hacked on Facebook (2018), stopped using Instagram (2019), quit Reddit (2023) & Xitter (2025).
Now I have only books (lots of audiobooks), Google Keep (own thoughts and pics), Lemmy (random thoughts), and Bluesky (microblog).
My input and output are much healthier, the people I interact with (when actually people) are nicer, and I generally don't feel doomed.
Well, yes, I realize the world is fucked, fucked up, and fucking crazy. I've reduced by orders of magnitude how toxic it is to my headspace because I'm cutting out the worst of the dreck and engaging with more objectively real information. I'm not in screaming echo chambers populated in the millions. I'm happy if I get 10 responses to a post. Updoots are incidental.
Its like leaving L.A. to settle down in Schitt's Creek.
Started putting powdered fiber in my morning coffee and now I have fantastic poops. I also bought a bidet which is nice too.
I also do fiber every morning, but I don't know if I'd ruin my coffee with it. I mix it up in a tiny glass with water and basically shoot it so I can enjoy the taste of everything else
This person's butt is living a life of luxury
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I was bored as hell, sitting in a hotel room with literally nothingbto do for three days (waiting to get my passport back from visa processing), so I looked up the phone number of someone I used to know before we moved to opposite ends of the country years ago. I ended up getting an invite to a discord, and we now have two nights per week set aside for gaming together. Not just him, but the others on the discord too, so I'm not as socially isolated anymore.
And when there's no gaming going on, just hanging out in VoIP is still nice. I might be baking stuff in blender or perl, while someone else is painting minifigs or planning a D&D campaign. It's not easy having a social life when I'm a family man with four kids, living in the middle of nowhere with no shared interests with anyone nearby. This is my remedy.
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https://leisureguy.ca/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/rcaf_xbx_5bx_exercise_plans_text.pdf
15 minute a day exercise program.
Started this one last year, highly recommend.
One piece of advice though: Do take an occasional day or two off, especially if you notice it’s continuously taxing or hurts.
The body sometimes needs a few days to actually heal and recover before being able to climb to the next step
When I rolled my character on that WoW server, I didn't expect to move so far from home and spend the rest of my life with someone I'd meet online.
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