the place to post trans joy!
selfies, other stuff, whateversies really. if it gives you gender euphoria or brings you joy or anything like that it can go here!
needless to say, bigots will be yeeted on sight
Gaffs are incredible and is the reason i can even wear 80% of my clothes! Highly recommend Looking good!! ❤️
Edit: ooo also not to get too private, and i dont know the climate in your area, but also highly recommend body powder. It helps trust. Its not a cure, but it definitely helps 😂
I could not agree with this more, powder absolutely saved me 🤣
I tried tucking with shuddersduct tape when I was younger. That put me off things for so long just from association. (tried with uncklockable tuck kit which uses proper body adhesives and breathable cloth, it's just taking some figuring out how to do so comfortably and I've only broken it out a couple times)
I have a rather tight one I use for now, just something cheap from amaz*n, but I'm planning on buying some proper concealing panties from an Etsy (leolines) store soon.
It's great being able to wear leggings and skirts now, and I cannot wait for a properly sized, tailored pair to come! They're more expensive, but worth it from everyone I've heard from.
I'm on the heavier side, so a little extra isn't uncommon, but I still don't like seeing it, and having the panties to keep the girls in line has been so wonderful.
You rock that fit, btw!
Aye chiming in here to offer an alternative to those expensive tuck kits, all they are made of is a certain kind of tape, called kinesiology tape. Its like athletic tape, and its about the ONLY tape that should be used for tucking. Theres a couple others, but i really recommend trying kinesiology.
The thing is, once you know the name of the tape, you can get 3 big ass wiiiide rolls of the stuff online for lile 15 bucks. And if you use gaffs as well, thats like a year or mores supply there.
Also accckkk duct tape you poor thing 😭
In my defence I was still new to everything and it was waaaaaaay before I learned to accept myself so I just went with what I had on hand instead of buying something.
I'm glad you mentioned the kt tape, it totally slipped my mind!
I actually bought some, but didn't think things through with the width. Since I don't exactly like poking around down there, I may have underestimated how wide it needed to be even as a gr*wer, and am just using strips overlapped for now.
I've been looking around the interwebs for cheap wide rolls (but recognized brands, I don't trust cheap unknown adhesives for skin contact, ecpeically on sensitive skin) but they still seem a little expensive. I just haven't found the right place!
Also I've not tucked with the kt tape for extended periods, although it is a much smoother profile that I adore, I have yet to find a way to tuck that I can sit stand and walk around comfortably all day. It would be really nice today since I am wearing leggings and we are going to a karaoke place tonight. I don't plan on getting up in front of people, but I guess the best way to say it is I have more confidence in myself if I feel like nobody would notice.
Dont defend yourself girl! No need, its tough out here. Its a lot for anybody, and i dont fault anyone for anything they try to do to feel like themselves.
So ive been tucking basically daily for months now 8-12 hrs, and while im not you so i cant speak to whats going to def work for you, i can offer lots of advice. Info about it is scattered everywhere unfortunately.
So if your comfortable with it, shoot me a DM! I can try to quickly type out some big things that helped the most.
I just dont wanna post it all here its somewhat graphic and deals with the thing alot of peeps here probly would prefer not think about. Up to you!
Edit: this offer is not exclusive to Courtney. If anyone needs help, with this or something else, feel free to HMU. Id rather you gorgeous girls be informed and not hurting yourselves! This offer is valid anytime anywhere, indefinitely ❤️
I'll shoot you a DM but right now we are out at a karaoke bar so it might be some between responses!
As much as it sucks to talk about, more open discussions about such thingd would be great, but that feels like something for a separate community. It's definitely something many would rather not discuss.
Hmmm can posts be pinned on lemmy? Cause that would be great, i could host a google doc or two, and the links can be in the pinned post. Idk if we can even do that tho
That would be great!
Hmm maybe ill hit up the mods about it at some point. Hell ive already had to bug Ada once why not again?
Edit: oops seems Ada isnt a mod here, will be a fresh interaction!
Edit edit: god i cant get my thoughts together, but now that im thinking about it; if a help thread were to be a thing it would probly be better over in MtF. Since its alot of MtF specific advice, its totally different for FtM
It took me until I read this comment that I understood what this was about.
Though I did hear about people using duct tape. My trans-mom specifically cautioned and recommended me to absolutely avoid it. I can only imagine the discomfort it might've brought x.x
I see E also moved your bulge behind you like mine did lmao.
:)
I know this has nothing to do with your post, but I love your shoes!
