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i have no random erections

BUT I HATE THIS AT ALL

i hate the pp which didnt athropy at all for a year on hrt

i hate "sexual function"

i hate the fucking penis and balls (which also doesnt athropy much)

i hate m@sturbation i hate i hate i hate

why sometimes i dont want m@sturbate but body wants (this happens even at zero T and high E maybe high E?)

i feeel supper dysphoric by next day after that

and prolactin spikes after this for a DAY(up to 600 mMe, 300 at normal days)

also is possible to get some penile athropy somehow but would be better if 70-80% athropy

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[–] erin@quokk.au 1 points 58 minutes ago (1 children)

FUNNY FUNNY FUNNY or how russian laws never work,
offical website of plastic surgeron in Ekaterinburg,
which have Feminizing & Masculinizing surgeries which says THEY ARE FOR TRANS PPL ALSO
and he still doing BA and FFS INSIDE RUSSIA without gender marker change
Matveev a petersburg ffs surgeron also not cencor at all his trans FFS work
so is only SRS illegal in russia? also prices are democratic too, maybe i should get FFS some day

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[–] erin@quokk.au 1 points 44 minutes ago

how to get rid of face dysphoria: dont compare to cis girls at my age, they fucking DOLLS, mostly with TON of makeup, older women look normal but sometimes with TON of lip filler, i fucking hate doll industry in russia, in every house in my SMALL city at first floor there beauty salon

[–] Nissa@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Have you considered a chastity cage? It would would keep you from having an erection and diminish the overall size of the bulge. I'm getting one to look/feel more feminine in my panties and skirts. This is what I'm getting:

https://lockthecock.com/products/pink-plastic-cock-cage-1

I don't like that it says sissy on it so I plan on filing that off. Don't know how normal this is but it sounds like it might be a good option for you.

The feminine chastity lemmy group is like 90% porn but there are some post about chastity progress and advice. It's pretty inactive but you might get lucky:

https://lemmynsfw.com/c/sissychastity

I generally only masturbate as a form of bodily maintenance, it's a good stress reliever and helps boost your immune system. It might help you to think of it this way, disconnect the sexual nature of the act.

I hope any of this helps. I don't like to hear you are in so much pain, and want nothing more than for you to feel good about you no matter what. Deep breaths and remember, it's a beautiful day as long as you want it to be!

♡♡♡Nissa♡♡♡

[–] erin@quokk.au 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

idk for me it only for a moment then one day my state maybe okay by next day my head is trash

i suspect is prolactin flustrating(confirmed by three labs when a day before was horny)

i understand that is natural process that should be exist and IT MUCH MUCH better than on T and low libido but heh dysphoria

my castrated cat also still maintaing him sexual function......., so it more about psychology not hormones, funny that him pp also didnt athropy for a years without testosterone

i want compression underwear to tuck better

[–] Nissa@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

Well at least you have an idea of what the problem is and hopefully it gets better. I should have my cage in the next week or so and if you are curious feel free to reach out. I'd be more than willing to share my experience. Not matter what you be you girly!

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Do you take T-blockers? If not, get those, they help a lot.

[–] erin@quokk.au 3 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

no, i would taking cypro but Teva stopped manufacturing it and androcur under sanctions(how the fuck other bayer meds exist but it disappered after war)

OUR!!, OUR RUSSIAN!!!!)))) Pharmasyntesis making cypro but is get out of stock super fast(100℅ is only OUR RUSSIANS girls buy them) even if lucky can get cypro injections

idk about bicalutamide is available casodex, teva, and OOOUUUR generics

spiro, idk i dont like it

[–] Entertainmeonly@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I much much prefer cypro but spiro at lower does has worked great for me. I found at 100mg the side effects are very minimal and it gets my t down to proper level. The side effects of spiro can be brutal though.

[–] erin@quokk.au 2 points 3 hours ago

maybe should try

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 6 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

I have heard that it's essentially a dice roll whether you loose erections or not. But there are drugs that will help just don't go taking the addictive ones.

Personally I enjoy giving my partner pleasure and she specifically likes my penis. So I'm trying to avoid ed. One of the main reasons I opted for monotherapy.

[–] erin@quokk.au 3 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

i take sertraline but it useless should i ask my psych to change to that definitly get ER?

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 4 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I mean if that's your goal. But if you're planning on getting a penile inversion vaginoplasty at some point, you should be aware that it's dependent on having that tissue to work with. But if it's giving you significant dysphoria, you could for example take a blocker and then a small quantity of sildenafil before bed so you dont witness the erections. That's just if you wanted piv. I'm not sure of the requirements for other operations.

[–] erin@quokk.au 1 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

don't planning

  1. scary
  2. scary
  3. pain
  4. where get good surgeron
  5. where get momey
  6. not that much dysphoria more about function and size

if not it i definitly would get zero depth vulvoplasty (im ace) or nullification(better)

realistic is get orchie and less is penectomy

hmmmm how costs nullo? if its cheap it possible to make it ..... especially in thailand like in russian propagandist TV(its easiter much to get in thai and costs also than somewhere in EU) or turkey, serbia is also VERY easy to travel here

[–] Shirow@lemmy.zip 3 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

I'm glad, I don't feel dysphoria about it (well it happened, but didn't last).

The only thing I wouldn't like would be if the other person would focus on it.

I don't really know yet.