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[–] mgenehoffman@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 hour ago
[–] Ryanmiller70@lemmy.zip 2 points 2 hours ago

I didn't feel valued before AI and I certainly don't feel that way after.

[–] Luminous5481@anarchist.nexus 3 points 8 hours ago

My sense of my value as a human being isn't dependent on societal conditions or the opinions of others. The value of a human is intrinsic and uncontestable. AI has nothing to do with it whatsoever.

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 3 points 8 hours ago

I am excess cast off from a system that exists to extract profit. my value has already been extracted

[–] GrantUsEyes@lemmy.zip 11 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

I'm staunchly anti gen ai. Yesterday, while I was 12 hours into a terribly paid illustration work, I had the sad realization that this really could have been over, and better than I could ever do in 5 minutes with a couple of fucking ai prompts. I nearly broke down crying. I guess I 'm just not seeing value in myself anymore. Maybe I'm just sad and stupid today. Idk ... Sigh.

[–] DougPiranha42@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I don’t understand. If your work can be done quickly and well with a tool (AI), why don’t you use that tool and be done with your work quickly? Why does your heart break?

[–] ThunderQueen@lemmy.world 1 points 56 minutes ago

Im not op, but personally because AI is built on theft. As a creative i cant justify stealing to make my job easier. I know others are doing it but "if i dont steal it, someone else will" is bonkers reasoning

[–] Skyrmir@lemmy.world 5 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I haven't felt valued since 1981.

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 4 points 10 hours ago (2 children)
[–] Skyrmir@lemmy.world 3 points 9 hours ago

Take a look at most economic charts on the value of labor.

[–] Mohamed@lemmy.ca 3 points 10 hours ago

My guess is birthday?

[–] CorrectAlias@piefed.blahaj.zone 6 points 11 hours ago

I only feel valued by my friends and family. My job doesn't make me feel valued, nor does society. Without my family, I'd struggle to find reasons to go on.

[–] turtlesareneat@piefed.ca 5 points 12 hours ago

I am working to build queer community in my Southern red state. It's hard, and everyone wants more from me than I can deliver. Trying to help a volunteer write a grant proposal. Trying to keep my shit together. Trying to move a thousand small boulders up a thousand small hills.

I do feel valued when I see my son, and he comes running up to me, and gives me a huge hug, which will happen tonight.

But I am also terribly lonely, and it's the kind where plenty of people are around me, but I am still lonely, because I am not able to be open and authentic to them. They want a leader . Being vulnerable has caused problems with that.

Every once in a while I can buy a bag of weed and then, for a while, none of it matters and I can just roll the boulders all day.

[–] lennybird@lemmy.world 1 points 8 hours ago

From one human to another, yes I feel valued within my family. Beyond that? Not so much.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 5 points 12 hours ago

absolutely not. I have been out of work for close to two years. I feel unvalued. I feel like my education and experience is unvalued. I feel my society is saying. You should not contribute. We don't want it. I feel its saying we do everything in a super automated low effort way but you should distinguish yourself but doing a bunch of manual things to make up for anything our automated systems does not do properly which is kinda everything. You should work very hard to prove your work should be compensated.

No. I don't even feel human anymore.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 46 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Professionally? No

As a family member or friend? Yes

As a member of society? Barely

What's the context of your question?

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 8 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

The point of asking a somewhat general question is that you can answer and interpret it how you like and experience responses you wouldn't expect.

Which is what I got from you. By asking one question.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 3 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (1 children)

The mention of AI as an introduction suggests you may have a specific context in mind. If the question is so general, you don't need to give irrelevant information. Asking "do you feel valued?" is enough, and the absence of context becomes obvious.

[–] macaw_dean_settle@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

Then you answered incorrectly. Maybe you should have focused your response on that rather than ranting about OP post.

[–] Cocodapuf@lemmy.world 15 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

Valued by my friends and family? Yes, very much so!

Value by society? No, not so much, but it's mutual.

[–] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 11 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

No.

I can't find sustainable work. I don't have a romantic partner. I'm old and now facing bleak years left on Earth.

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 4 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (1 children)

Literally watching a presentation right now where they quoted “Use AI intentionally, not as the only answer”

On the other hand my human knowledge is invalidated because my kpis focus more on how frequently I use ai than on what I do

In my real life, also mostly no. My kids are in college, so they mostly need their bills paid and I rarely see them in person

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 2 points 13 hours ago

Wow. Paying your kids' bills in college is so great if you can manage.

[–] UncleArthur@lemmy.world 19 points 20 hours ago

As a retired person: no, apart from by other retired people in the village, because we help each other out with our different skill-sets.

We still have a few friends but they are scattered; we meet mostly at funerals.

Politicians think we're too expensive (healthcare, pensions, etc.) although they're careful not to be too nasty, as apparently we vote more than other demographics. The fascists think we might vote for them (not a chance).

The young are busy with their own lives as they should be and so we are mostly seen as an inconvenience or, at best, a future inheritance. I'm fine with this: they've got it tough and we help where we can.

The AI crowd know we're too old for that shit (we remember all the bubbles). We don't buy much stuff either, so the capitalists and advertisers aren't happy with us. The pub likes us but wishes we'd visit more often. The fund managers are going off us as our pension funds dwindle. I think the lady in the corner shop has a good opinion of us, although she thinks I buy too much beer.

[–] underscores@lemmy.zip 2 points 12 hours ago

Idk i don't think feeling "valued" is what it's about. If you mean by that, what price tag my employer puts on me, and how much money they're willing to pay me, well idk.

Is life really about being valued? By who? And who are they valued by, in turn? Is it all a big circle jerk? Where does value come from?

[–] disregardable@lemmy.zip 6 points 17 hours ago (2 children)

I feel like the most worthless person in the world, generally and almost all of the time. Consequence of not getting along well with others plus not being hardworking enough to achieve anything.

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 4 points 17 hours ago

And yet .. you are clearly intelligent and effective at communication.

You're here though

You reached my brain

That amounted to a thing, in milliseconds I've reflected speculated emphasized and replied

If that seems worthless it's the eye of the beholder not the sentiment that's invalid

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 2 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

Yeah I do. My girlfriend really appreciates me and we have a calm life. Thats all I need really.

But if you mean valued by corporations, I guess not. A job is just a job, and I only work if I have to. I have worked for 25 years though and collected money.

[–] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 3 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I'd say yes. I worked hard to be "that person" that people like and can trust and they know I'm knowledgeable in a lot of subjects. They can call me to ask questions anytime. They borrow my cars and tools. They dont take advantage of me though. Actually I wish they'd ask for help more often because I have a lot of things and skills to offer.

Mainly I just always wanted to be likeable. I don't enjoy being mean.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 1 points 13 hours ago

Being actually mean is stressful.

[–] Chippys_mittens@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago

Very much so. Both at home and work.

[–] HuudaHarkiten@piefed.social 7 points 18 hours ago (4 children)

Not at all. I'm pretty sure, if I died now, it would take a few months for anyone to notice anything.

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 7 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I can't promise to miss you viscerally but I am pretty sure the rest of the universe would.

[–] HuudaHarkiten@piefed.social 6 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I don't see how lol.

I mean, I haven't had any contact with anybody in 4 months now. Other than the checkout person in the local shop. And I'm sure they wouldn't care if I stopped going there.

Anyway, this is not a "woe is me" thing, I'm completely fine with this. I much prefer to be left alone lol.

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 6 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

And yet, you responded to this. What's going on with you? Why do you think you are not valued? I value you.

[–] HuudaHarkiten@piefed.social 5 points 18 hours ago (4 children)

Yeah, you value me because I answered your question. The question was "do you feel valued" and no, I don't feel valued because I answered your question.

I don't feel valued because I bring no value to anyone in my life. Internet strangers asking questions do not count into that lol

[–] skulblaka@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 hours ago

I don't feel valued because I bring no value to anyone in my life. Internet strangers asking questions do not count into that lol

Well, sure it does. That's the reason we're all here, isn't it? Maybe not for you in particular, but for the Lemmy community. Internet strangers asking questions that you then answer and spark discussion is kind of THE value that any of us bring to this place. People asking questions and having discussions and sharing their own perspectives and life experiences is like, 80% of the whole internet. It's what brought us into the global awareness that we have today.

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[–] Quilotoa@lemmy.ca 5 points 17 hours ago

For sure. Mostly from friends and family, but also in the things I do and the projects I accomplish. It's a wonderful life.

[–] Casterial@lemmy.world 9 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (2 children)

Yes, outside of social media. I love my job, my friends, family and just try to enjoy my life.

But, then I use social media like Facebook or Instagram and the algorithm is really hardcore pushing the "AI is taking over engineering is dead!!" narrative. As an engineer that makes me feel terrible/not valued, even though I know it's not true.

I basically just stopped using social media outside of this and reddit.

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[–] Mac@mander.xyz 4 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

No

I feel like a mote of dust waiting to be vacuumed.

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 4 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

If you were indeed a mote of dust when you got vacuumed what would happen? Fast forward to the end of time. Would it be any different than what anyone else on this planet is going to experience?

[–] insomniac_lemon@lemmy.cafe 4 points 17 hours ago

For me the result makes no difference, but it's more that there's no living and there's very little to do about it other than escapism (so, still nothing).

Them Bones by Alice in Chains comes to mind.

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