I felt the same as op till one person changed it slightly but I still don't have that pull. It's more for curiosity or pleasing with anyone else. They are more fwb than bf and that works with being nd. They treat you like a bf without the label or ties. Sex still gives me panic attacks but the fwb arrangement helps a bit

Try explaining how this works to a full sexual on a dating app. You’d think you had shot their animal companion with the given reaction.

I managed to explain this to family members who took it upon themselves to ‘educate’ me on dating.

only one family member got it cuz they are the same. Meanwhile the others gave me odd looks and stares and continued to attempt to lecture me how dating works. Like I get it. You gonna just bang whatever moves cuz ‘nature’. Maybe widen your scope a bit that others are not like you. But also maybe we need to talk about how consent works.

There might be a more accurate sublabel for your exact position, but so long as the label is serving well enough in it's purpose as a communication tool and it isn't getting in your way in other ways, then there's no reason to fret about it.

I was gonna just say "yeah, that's textbook demisexual" but at the end I see you realized that already.

Not sure why you feel possibly invalid when it sounds like (based on this post alone) that you are the actual dictionary example.

I'm still kinda figuring it out, but I'm thinking I'm double demi for now (not sure if there's another word for it).

For me I am far from completely nonsexual (basically allos' only version of defining "asexual"), but it would only be important at all in a solid relationship (if I could even get that being demiro).

I just don't feel an urge to go out and "get some", but if someone I felt familiar and safe with just landed in my lap naked, then something has a decent chance of happening.

I consider that valid asexuality. It might be kinda "dictionary"-like too, but you don't see a lot mentioned of people having the green and purple stripe (demiro/demisexual). Or at least I don't.

I mean, I'm a pet to a very sweet Master, who is ace, who is dating a boyfriend who is also ace. I don't think I've ever heard anyone else say they have an asexual master/mistress/dominant, yet here we are. We play super rarely, but I still get off thinking about what he can do, what I've told him is 'safe', so when we are together he could just pin me down... he just usually doesn't take the opportunity. I'm also insatiable, but I'm also demi, so I need to know someone first (decent conversation, personal details, chatting at length..), or they are involved somehow with us, in order to start to be attracted to them ('pet, this is my friend I was telling you about...' for example) before I start to think about banging them. If/once I hit that point though, the train ain't stopping.

Labels can be useful for establishing a baseline, but you don't need to confine yourself to a rigid 'standard'. And just because you don't feel like you conform to what is expected, doesn't mean you are doing anything wrong or aren't 'valid'. Nah, anyone who says stuff like that isn't worth your time.

Yes.

-- Frost