Most every community has some assholes, or at least people that rub each other the wrong way. There's a lot to be said for clicking off shitty responses and not picking up the hate.
this post was submitted on 06 Apr 2026
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I have you tagged as "will block you when you've become cooked". You're my personal barometer for when I've gone too far off the rails or when I'm becoming too much of a redditor again
It depends on the server. But the nice thing is, you can pack up, walk away and move to another instance.
You are not tied to your first choice. And that is better than reddit. Go where you want to be.
It doesn't depend on your server. since lemmy is federated, you're gonna see the same content and people no matter what server you're on (subject to maybe defederation and things like that). There's still a general Lemmy "community" that spans across every instance.
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The Lemmy user base id wager has a higher percentage of folks who are less socialized. Be that for a multitude of reasons.
depends on what instance you use and what comunitys/instances u block.
The only anoying user cluster i came about here was this iranian bot farm cluster that basically cryes "muh Zionism" at everything and everyone, but blocking the .ml instance helped a lot ignoring those
Also blocking every politics related comunity is a good step to keep your sanity
Honestly I agree. In a way, lemmy has even more in the way of edgy teenage hot takes on certain issues.
I joined because federation keeps it from being corpo controlled. Also a little bit is a lot in a lot of things nowadays. Part of it I think is its still a general place. Like when I went on reddit it was where the mmo communities I was playing hung out. I only came for that. So yeah people were great. Go to general communities though and it got way worse.
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The difference is that you can curate the people you associate with. Find an instance whose values represent your own, or run your own, and you can avoid the people who you find the worst. You can't do this in reddit as anyone can join and you have no chance to prevent yourself from interacting with chuds.
People remain people, but in my experience it's much better for discussion simply because there are far less of them.
Haven’t been there meaningfully in years, but when I was there regularly if I logged in and saw I had a bunch of new comments I’d have a mini panic attack. Did I say something clever or something stupid and get eviscerated?
I rarely get the number of comments here that I got there, but when I do get them they’re almost never toxic like the ones I got at reddit were, even when they are critical or disagreeing.
…I do still get a mini panic attack when I see I have a bunch of unread comments though. It’s less intense though as Lemmy seems to be slowly curing me of that reaction.
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My experience has been that the more people there are, the more difficult it is to be "seen" in a conversation, the shittier everyone starts behaving. So Lemmy is better off if for no other reason than it is a much smaller userbase. The nice thing about Federation that I could see happening is if the whole gets big enough, a few instances could cordon themselves off into a smaller subset and recreate this small-userbase-experience if it came to that.
I like it here. You must go to some weird instances.
It was asklemmy@lemmy.ml
big mistake
blocking lemmy.ml will make your experience a lot less hostile.
the majority of crazy people on lemmy come from there and a few other extremist instances.
Zamn! I was unaware!!
This is just the same oft repeated toxic nonsense. .ml is no worse than any of the other subs. There has been a fairly steady rachet campaign since I joined to either get leftwing instances banned or encourageing folks to block them.
People going into a Marxist-Leninist instance trolling with long debunked US-hegemon propaganda are not going to give an honest account of the place.
On a wider point, there are probably a number of topics that are triggering for some folks in ways that catch people off guard. For instance people both-sidesing issues that if you only follow main stream media might seem a reasonable and popular position but the actual history of the issue can go back many decades and be obscenely unjust. Folks that have been paying attention or, worse, have been personally effected, may have a hair trigger on that issue. It's very easy for bad faith actors to tone police folks like that. Especially when a majority of people are uninformed on the issue.
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It's just people. The more of them you get in one place, the more shitheads crop up.
Reading comprehension seems to have dropped significantly in the last few years. Not sure if it's site specific or just the pandemic remote learning/AI essay generation joining the Internet at large...
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I left Reddit because of Reddit, personally. I expect better if this community, it you may be interested night.
Also, I do wonder what protections Lemmy provides against bots. How do we know the people were taking to are actually people?
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I see much more toxic behavior here than on reddit. Explicit calls for political murders, and when I criticize them (naively believing these to be open conversations about political or democratic strategies) I get banned from communities.
Neither is the "better option." I will continue using both. I'm not allergic to "toxic" behavior.
Sure. I regularly get social media vibes as well. Everyone needs to subscribe to one of two sides. Simple truths are way better than long and nuanced texts...
We're doing better with bot activity and some Reddit-isms like commenting "This." underneath another comment. But we're not too far from the vibe on Reddit.
Not sure if roatsing people for their opinions is bad?! I mean this is the internet after all. And if you don't like backlash, don't publish your opinion on a discussion platform.
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