Unpopular Opinion

I’m doing my best to class this joint up! I’m polite as fuck and I’m bringing an immaculate aura to the conversation

I'm agreeing more with this every day. Just yesterday some guy made fun of a genuine and reasonable concern I had then made of me again sandwiching in an "apology", and when I told them it still seemed they were making light of it, they flipped the fuck out and told me I would die alone among other completely unnecessary and inappropriate insults.

I mean, I get overreacting sometimes, but it kinda feels like some days half the people you interact with are either actively shit humans or are having the worst day of their lives. I wish you could feel at least safe enough to challenge a viewpoint without some dickhead coming for your jugular. It's pretty pathetic and I've gone through several rounds of wondering if I want to be here or not. I've definitely had to block a lot of people in order to stay.

I have been called a Nazi and zionist for literally no reason. Once I responded to a comment from someone saying Nazis aren't human to say "I hate the things they believe and do, and I think they should be punished harshly for their crimes, but they are still indeed human". You would've thought I said "Nazis just have an opinion and do nothing wrong," which of course I was not even slightly hinting at or thinking. I was told I was a Nazi sympathizer who should kill himself. Then the zionist accusations will come at the drop of a hat. I literally think Israel is evil yet if I say something as innocuous as "trump is hurting Gaza even more than any Democrat" that makes me a "sHiTlIb zIoNiSt". I'm probably in the left-most 15% in the US. And yeah I know that's not saying much globally but how about we understand that people live in a context and you cannot scream them into being on the exact same page as your own personal politics? People can be so self righteous it's painful to think about. It's really taxing to my mental health when I think "this space where I relate to people more than anywhere else on the Internet is also full of people who will wish death or suffering on me if I mention one thing they don't like."

The Lemmy userbase is human, which is more than I can say of Reddit's.

depends on what instance you use and what comunitys/instances u block.

The only anoying user cluster i came about here was this iranian bot farm cluster that basically cryes "muh Zionism" at everything and everyone, but blocking the .ml instance helped a lot ignoring those

Also blocking every politics related comunity is a good step to keep your sanity

Lemmy is still social media that's full of anonymous posters with no consequences to their posts so of course discourse is going to be absolute shit with trolls and disingenuous people vying for imaginary points and wearing that negative points as a badge of honor.

That said, with a smaller user base, while there are still complete contrarian, disingenuous users, I do find that the discussion on average are at least better than reddit and the one key to better conversations and debates I found after moving from reddit is I'm much, much more judicious about using that block user button and block communities button.

I accidentally posted a link to some right wing borderline racist article which sounded sensible on first skim reading it. Commentators noted this. I apologized for not reading it carefully or noticing the other associated articles and the other Lemmy users were understanding. Just my experience but I think a nicer atmosphere prevails.

meh, I've seen some shit here, but overall I'm happy with the communities on Lemmy. it's been too long since I've been on Reddit for me to remember.

There is way more "I'm 14 and very edgy and very badass" vibe here.

I don't know why one would expect Lemmy to be different when it's entire userbase consists of ex-redditors.

I don't think there's much difference between platforms. Everyone is performing to either get pats on the back or to stirr up something. The moment everyone around you seems nice is when you've entered the echo chamber.

Lemmy.ml admins and mods should have long convinced of that.

I dont know. Not that Lemmy users are necessarily great all the time, but Reddit has decayed to the point that its barely better than a generic Facebook feed.

People remain people, but in my experience it's much better for discussion simply because there are far less of them.

I joined because federation keeps it from being corpo controlled. Also a little bit is a lot in a lot of things nowadays. Part of it I think is its still a general place. Like when I went on reddit it was where the mmo communities I was playing hung out. I only came for that. So yeah people were great. Go to general communities though and it got way worse.