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The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.

Support Hotlines:

The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!! (lemmy.world)

submitted 5 days ago by Nissa@lemmy.world to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Thank you all for the support yesterday and the day before! All the love, the understanding, the support, the encouragement, and most of all the stories reeeeeaaaaallllyyyy helped me. I spent a good chunk of my day yesterday playing starfield and looking at trans/egg memes, and I think yall maybe right. I still am not sure who I am but I can say with a bit more confidence

Hi, I'm Nissa!

I talked with my wife last night, told her I thought I was trans and let her read my post and all of your comments. I sat there scared and crying while she read. She gave me a bit hug and told me she loved me no matter what. She said even if it turns out she married a woman, she will stay by my side and support me with anything and everything thing my future might hold. I showed her a brallete and panties set I thought was really cute and she bought it for me.

Right now the only thing I know for sure my future holds is talking to my therapist and loesing 30lbs, but for my health not because I'm trans.

When I woke up this morning my first clear headed though was "ugh I don't want to get up". My second clear headed thought was "I'm Nissa, and thats okay." and to thank you for being here, listening to me, and helping me. It really means the world to me.

I occasionally whisper in my head, 'I'm Nissa, and that's okay' and it makes me smile. Thank you again from the bottom of my heart, today is a bright new day and I have a bright future ahead of me!

Love Nissa

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[–] Shirow@lemmy.zip 10 points 4 days ago

Awesome 🥹 Happy for you Nissa ☺️

[–] brookedSmile@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 4 days ago

Thats amazing Nissa! Im so happy to hear about your wife and her support! Its so great youll have someone to be a support for you, my partner has been my strongest ally though everything thick and thin, and im glad it sounds like youll have that. Noone should have to go through everything alone!

I teared up reading this followup, which surprised me because im so far detached from my emotional side its been a struggle. I repressed it because toxicity and all that but ive been trying lol. So thank you!

Tell your wife Brooke says hi! And im so excited for you and your journey, i hope you stick around 😊

[–] emotional_soup_88@programming.dev 9 points 5 days ago

Thank you for sharing this! I was following your post yesterday. This community restores my faith in humanity. <3

[–] pangea@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 5 days ago

this is amazing! love to hear it and enjoy yourself on your path forward :D

[–] BlameTheAntifa@lemmy.world 7 points 4 days ago

This was the kind of hopeful, joyful news I needed today! My partner and I are rooting for you, Nissa. Know that you are also loved, accepted, and supported by these internet strangers!

[–] Anarki_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 days ago

Hell yeah

[–] Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.org 7 points 5 days ago

I'm so happy for you!! :)

[–] AzuraTheSpellkissed@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 5 days ago

Thank you for your follow up! It's so cheerful 🥰

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 4 days ago

Thanks for this update. I'm so happy to hear about your wife's reaction. My partner has been an incredible rock for me and is making the process joyful even when the outside world is harsh. You got this Nissa! I hope you stick around and keep posting.