I'm poly, both.
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Can I get a goth gf that fixes my mental health? I know I'm asking for an exception here, but it's been a really shit year and I could use a win.
I'd take the goth girlfriend who can fix my car, because I am a goth girlfriend who can fix your electronics and your clothes, and we would be a good power couple
But what about your mental health?
If your mental health is in a good state then the rest of the stuff like car problems are way easier to deal with.
Just one question...is the anime girl like a real life version of an anime girl, or just, ya know, a 2d hand-drawn girl?
I dont even own a fucking car so this is easy
Actually, both of them can fix mental health with the right approach. So, the goth girl is more universal.
I'll take the Goth GF, she's 3D
Anime GF. Car maintenance is affordable compared to mental health (also, don't really "need" a car tbh)
~~No you don't! You need a stable housing situation and a, like a group of like-minded individuals that you, you know, talk about stuff you're passionate about with.~~ SHIIIT I replied to the wrong comment.
My project car disagrees.
Krieger!
Neither. I want one to break my spine and chuck me into a wood chipper.
I have both of those. I don't particularly care if I'm being honest, I look apon the world and wish to rend society like it's the flesh of Angles, Saxons, and Jutes. There is nothing that can be done without the complete collapse of the US that would convince me to otherwise have even the mildest bit of interest in my own survival. Even then it'd countering material conditions at best, the psychological effects of most likely having CPTSD and that bastards blood in my veins would be more than enough to counter even that.
I don't want love and community. I want an inglorious death and to be forgotten by the world immediately.
Sounds like you need to want better Mental Health
Fun fact this is my good mental health. Trauma and autism don't mix particularly well, back when I was like 10 I was actively homicidal now I'm just passively homicidal.
that's new 😳
The requirements for Valhalla are relatively loose and if I'm joining a bunch of folks who died via whats effectively suicide I want to make sure my story is somewhat unique.
I have neither a car, nor mental health
I don't have a car but prefer goth girls... Most difficult choice of my life
I don't have a car and my mental health is unfixable.
I don't have mental health, only mental sickness
Maybe the goth girl can steal you a car
Nah that's a punk
Goth for sure. I can drive to the doctors.
Any relationship where one partner is fixing the mental health of the other seems dubious, even with magical thinking.
Definitely Goth Gf. Mental health is overvalued.
I can still run with a broken mental. My car wont run if its broken. Hell, it wont even break with the preventative maintenance my gf will do.
i dont have a car >v<
Sooo…. Goth girl, then??
yesyes i like real life grlz <3
I like real life grillz too, would be cool if we yuri'd
Anime. I already like/want to tinker with my car so I'll just become the goth GF.
Step one: Turn into goth girlfriend.
Step two: Wait for them to choose wisely.
(I can fix your (early 90s) car)
Hmm I don't have a car, and my mental health is more or less fine I think.
I like the boots, but I think the nekomimi still beat them. I'm inclined to pick the left one. Do I need to learn Japanese or is she dubbed?
Well I got a car and I already wear a lot of black, so this one's easy. Also I like my women to look my age
I don't understand anime, I don't think I would understand an anime girlfriend
The car is way cheaper to fix.
Agreed, I probably spent 2-3 cars worth of money therapy over the years. At this point I'll keep a cactus in my ass if it meant being mentally healthy.
How about the exact opposite? Ruin my already weak mental health, damage my car.
But can cook I guess that's the third option.
I mean, first off, I don't have a car. Second, I'm the anime girlfriend here. And third, my mental health is beyond fixing. So really, I don't really have much of a choice, although I am still quite satisfied with the proposition.
That's a tough one because I don't have a car but neither do I have mental health, so...
I can already fix my car, a goth girlfriend
'i can fix her'
"her" as in "the car"
My car needs a new show absorber.
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