Honestly, almost never? And when I have received unsolicited attention, it has always been suuuuper mild - like, a guy cat calling across the street, but it has never escalated to more than that, and those are extremely rare occurences for me. Like, maybe once a year. This is one of those things that I don't really identify with other women on. I do believe this happens to other women, I am not trying to discount other women's experiences, but I have never had even one of occurrence of sexual harrassment in my life, let alone on a daily or weekly basis. I have always wondered why. Not that I am lamenting this, it just seems odd that something that seems to be such a pervasive problem for women everywhere is such a non-issue for me. Maybe I am not conventionally attractive enough to draw out this behavior from men? I am over 6' tall and while not fat or anything, I definitely look strong/sturdy and capable of defending myself. And I've been told I have rbf, too. So maybe guys just decide I don't look like the type to fuck with? I am also pretty severely introverted and spend very little time in public spaces, so maybe I just am not around people enough to even have this happen to me.. Idk 🤷♀️
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I similarly haven’t received a lot of unsolicited attention in recent years, though it was much more common when I was in my 20s and living in a bigger city.
I chalk it up to my resting bitch face and “get shit done” demeanor I adopt when out in the world now. Literally adopting on air of I don’t have time for this shit. I’m rather short and decently attractive, but maybe my age is starting to show enough to slow down advances.
Similarly not discounting others experiences, especially OP. That sounds awful.
Yeah, it definitely seems like it's my smaller stature friends who get harassed the most often. I think the type of men who do it are doing it as a power trip, so they go after women who they perceive as weaker than them.
I knew it happened but I never realized how frequent it is until I transitioned. I don't go outside that often but I've had it happen a few times.
When I was 5 months on e, I was helping my disabled aunt bring boxes into her apartment and I had just brought in the last box and was leaving the building. When I went to open the door I discovered that there was semen on the backside of the handle and I got it all over my hand. There was this one guy I kept seeing every time I was going in and out and he would always just stare at me so I figure it was him.
Then another time I was in the Aldi parking lot and this old man comes up to me and asks if he could pay me to have sex with him. I just quickly got in my car and got the hell out of there.
The other instances of sexual harassment I've experienced were unsolicited dick pics. I do carry a screech alarm on me now but I haven't had to use it yet.
Yup, nothing made me more lesbian than just how men are, and it can be so subtle - a comment about looks, a backhanded compliment, not listening, etc.
And it just wears you down when it's all day every day.
I carry on my person two knives in two different locations at all times. I don't use them for the typical low-grade harassment, but there's enough of that low-grade harassment in my daily life that it makes me think I should be ready for the high grade stuff.
As I've aged the harassment has gone down, but even at 60 it still occasionally happens (because I look like I'm in my 40s according to most people). And the knives are still there.
I'm pretty sure I was sexually harassed twice as much before I was an adult than I do now. It doesn't happen to me too often now but Ive still learned to keep my guard up. I've also learned to to not be shy and absolutely make a fuss in public rather than hide or run now. It works!
I'm old enough that it doesn't really happen to me anymore. One of the silver linings I guess :\
Same same, though I'm still getting a lot of people staring at my tits
silver-hair lining huehuehue
Oof, I don't leave my gaff unarmed anymore. Does this answer your question? 🤔