So... still just alone in a room?
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I prefer wondering around at night in the middle of nowhere chasing a feint ghostly figure and the sound of laughter of a woman in the distance.
adora- WHERE-
oh wait, totallynotjessica ur here---
totallynotjessica- WHERE? aha!! u are here!
how do u do? ~ ~ ~
(i can't just - ask peeps out, can i?)
supposedly you can, but don't ask me for advice
but like - its all online, it all feels fake
its all just hehe *<action>* and thats it.
its.... its..... roleplaying. its roleplaying.
im roleplaying as maria [she/her] online, someone who wants to do more with totallynotjessica, but is still unsure how to-- deal with that.
its all fake! nothing i put in a comment is entirely fabricated, but it might be!
its all half-promises what what u say is what u mean, and that what u mean is what u want.
its a chain of insecurity.
anyway, wanna play verloren maybe some time again?
re: roleplaying... there's like this disturbing play that I saw at the theater, titled The Nether, which describes roleplaying in a world where VR is the new seat of government and ppl are spending less and less time IRL. There's this one person roleplaying as a cute lil girl. Beyond that I'd be spoiling the plot, suggest you watch the play.
I'd argue that face-to-face dating is also a form of roleplaying. People often want to only show their brightest side at the first dates, so they try, for example, to not react too negatively to things they don't like, or to not talk about their problems, or to pretend that they aren't that desperate to find someone (in some cases). And if putting up a bit of a social facade isn't a form of roleplaying, I don't know what is.
It's not like the problem of the "chain of insecurity", as you put it, disappears when meeting IRL either. People can still definitively say things they don't mean and mean things they don't want. That doesn't just go away. And perhaps this has to do with how dating itself works. I mean, when you're dating, doesn't that mean that you're trusting the other person to be true about their intentions, and to respect you if you decide to open up about something personal? That's probably why so many people advise to take it slow when starting to date. The two people dating most likely don't know each other very well yet in the beginning, and they need to build their trust on each other, which takes time.
There are lots of good reasons to not like online dating, but I don't think that the relationship being more fake than when dating IRL is one of them.
(P.S. I've never really dated myself, I'm just grabbing stuff I've heard out there and trying to throw it at a wall to see what sticks. But now that I think about it, I'd say most of what I said somewhat applies to making friends too, so I think I'm not just making things up.)
That's always been my main concern. It's so hard to truly connect online, especially with little hope of meeting in person. There would always be a wall we can't break through, and I don't think that'd be fair to the other person.
Anyhow, I'd be so down for Veloren sometime
pfffff "sometime"?
we talk - within 24 hours.
I'll need to install it and remember my account name
if only it were quick and easy to install veloren >v<
(this is gnomes "software" thingy where - its pretty easy to find and install stuff <3 )
i really hope we get to!!
idk it sounds like she wants to ask you for a date, not advice tbh.
no you're probably right, and I'd probably say yes on the condition that I finally get the pancake video
Pancake vide- Nope, don't wanna know. No offense intended but you and violet were the two main people that drove my "Allo people scare me" feeling on here. So I'm just gonna quit while I'm ahead.
We're talking about a video of her literally making pancakes from scratch. There are a lot of horny things that go on around here, but this isn't one of them
That sounds nice, but I still know better than to test my luck with powers that are beyond me and you're definitely one of those.