isn't stoicism just bottling up your feelings?
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Not at all. That's just how the manosphere corrupted it. Stoicism often aims to reframe situations that make certain feelings arise (which is how it's utilized in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), but also, if some feelings arise, it also teaches acceptance of them, without letting them control your behavior. Stocism teaches feelings are natural and inevitable (e.g., grief, anger), but our reactions to them are within our control. You can still be angry, but that doesn't have to lead to unwise behavior. The goal isn’t to avoid the first but to shape the second. You CAN actually just feel your feelings, or express them in healthy ways when expression is called for.
Seneca: "The wise man is not immune to emotions, but he is not overwhelmed by them. He feels them, but he does not follow them. He acknowledges their presence, but he does not let them dictate his actions."
That said, I'm not a Stoic myself but I see the parallels with Buddhism and certain branches of Hinduism. There's the general theme of radical acceptance of reality as it is, and having wisdom around picking your battles.