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we are plural (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) by kivihiili@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

figured we'd let y'all know since we're a little active around here, plus it sorta fits the theme at least a little. uh if you are more curious see here. but we like just came to this realization fyi

honestly it does not seem so life changing. our personality will likely not change drastically hehe. this was mostly a realization amongst us, but nonetheless we'll definitely make use of "we". note we still may use "i" to accomplish specific things; our conclusions thus far have been uh COMPLICATED and in short its nowhere near as simple as "multiple people in the head".

now for the main part as to why we post this here: we feel though it has already given us a lot of insight on what gender identity transition is like, even with having figured ourselves out as a system very not long ago. it is again complicated, but the main takeaway we came up with was it can take a certain, very persistent train of thought to come to the realization of either being trans or plural. of course this is merely our view, and not always accurate, but we have known others who have realized their trans-ness through elaborate "what-if" scenarios too! in addition, there was also the simpler realization that using "we" just felt right, giving a similar feeling as when we were referred to as a daughter or girl pre-transition.

it may be the scientificness amongst us talking, but we want to take this as an opportunity to learn more (and possibly view in a different light) the experiences of those realizing their true gender identity(ies). we believe this will also help us figure out what we are, so do ask away, and we may or may not be able to answer :D

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[–] Estiar@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 days ago

It can be a whole can of worms and a bit of a pain. I've got a couple of friends who are plural, one of which is my girlfriend. Good luck! But congrats on your self-discovery and remember to love yourself, all of it!

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 5 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I'm happy you've come to this realization, it must feel nice to understand a bit more about yourselves in this way. This is absolutely a plural positive community. I hope you all feel welcome here. :)

[–] poke@sh.itjust.works 6 points 5 days ago

I wish you the best, ladies!

[–] Hexarei@beehaw.org 4 points 5 days ago

Welcome, all of you. I think.