Yay, equality?

I mean, I'd say this is the opposite of ironic, it is extremely expected and logically follows from how the conservative brain/worldview works.

Basically it just boils down to 'being horny is a sin, sin is an evil, supernatural force or state of being, that acts with will, or comes from deliberate, intentional agency... thus anything that makes me horny, I must dominate, control, defeat, as an external enemy, and also deny that it makes me feel horny, to avoid looking like I have fallen (in) to sin.'

When you institutionalize the idea of a fundamental, carnal, human desire as supernaturally evil, everything relating to how you interact with or experience that desire becomes a shameful perversion, and then you have to hide that perversion by one means or another, and those means are often conquest, conquest involves 'othering' the enemy.

For all their talk of personal responsibility, their entire worldview is designed, with many layers of artificial constructs, to shield them from critical self-reflection, to channel them away from actually understanding themselves.

How can you possibly be responsible for yourself, if you do not even understand yourself, why you do the things you do?

To them, what is most important is the performance of conformity to a hierarchichal group identity role.

That's their 'gender'.

Not self-expression.

This ties into a bigger issue where almost nothing related to sexuality can ever be healthy or normal to many conservatives.

Sex to these conservatives is inherently deviant and filthy. Making conscious life decisions related to sexuality or sexual identity will never be just a life decision. It will be equivalent to actively engaging in sexual acts.

Being trans to them is actively paedophilic because it exposes children to the concept of sexuality and gender. Sex ed will be paedophilic to them because it does the same. Each person's actions are not the sole thing that defines them, but also their position in society as dictated by "what it has always been". Men have always led households by marrying women and having kids, therefore men that don't are a threat.

Conservatism is quite black or white when it comes to things like identity or introspection. It is an ideology that very frequently wages war on self questioning and exploration in exchange for compliance and conformism. It's why many conservatives hate universities, scientists and partially why they hate immigrants. The entire ideology grows by appealing to people who do not want to be intellectually challenged. It's especially attractive to those that don't want to understand other ways of thinking.

Conservatism as an ideology always exploits the greatest potential weakness of the left wing: naivety, and presents itself as the "responsible" or "reasonable" solution to a reckless and harmful left wing. They frame things like empathy and humanitarianism as weaknesses rather than virtues.

It's why most of the conservative rhetoric revolves around "being taken advantage of" or "being scammed by" this or that group. They love stories about immigrants exploiting the system, cheating or stealing because it proves their worldview that what's foreign and unknown is out to get them. It is an ideology driven by fear.

And the biggest problem is that, unlike progressivism (which also has its ideological vices and weaknesses), conservatism never seeks to help the weak or empower the vulnerable. Instead it seeks to maintain the hierarchy and keep people in their place. In the US that translates to keeping immigrants weak, keeping black people down, keeping women in the kitchen, keeping white men ahead, keeping the US as an imperial power, and keeping its allies subservient.

They are like REALLY good with computers too. The last one also did this cute hiss when a Tesla would drive past.

Their hyper-conservative, hyper-religious cultural programming has them willing to do anything to alleviate the cognitive dissonance caused by is contrast with their natural inclinations. Because toxicly masculine patriarchy runs their world, they have no idea how to process their emotions and so they can out. They feel a deep rooted need to adhere to their socia pressuresl and psychological programming, and the result is their contradicting activities, and venomous denial of their taboo activities and thoughts.

I don't have a solution, other than to stay the fuck away from these places.

Completely rational question if you, like me, also willingly assume rational thought from any member of the general public.

I watch a lot of true crime and you would not believe how many people commit a heinous crime and immediately start building the case against themselves googling shit. The American public is functionally brain damaged.

Deviation from social expectations can be attractive as can novelty. Fetishization of a group is often associated with the group being perceived as exotic and possibly even taboo. And there are a lot of people who when they feel shame about their desires lash out against those they desire. The sort of guy who feels the need to tell everyone he's not into fat chicks? Yeah he's getting rejected by them in secret.

Your example is someone you personally hate because Gary fucking sucks. But if there were a group of Garys who were just a bit different that you were always told not to interact with because they're bad despite the fact that they all seem perfectly nice if a bit odd. Well a certain portion of your community would find themselves torn between the excitement of the exotic (hell you don't see a Gary every day, and you usually have to go to a certain part of town to see one) and the expectations of not interacting with them, and this would lead to shame and anger, because to an unexamined and immature person these Garys are seducing them, tempting them away from what they know to be the rightful separation of good normal people and Garys. This is even worse if anyone could turn out to have always been a Gary. Maybe some of those people are afraid they might be a Gary but are afraid to even think about it enough to discount it. So they may start calling to ensure there's no chance of them accidentally running into a Gary and making sure nobody becomes a Gary hoping that that will keep them safe and maybe even punish the Garys who did this to them.

Most people are more complex than black-and-white, most of my co-workers are freenemies.

Enemies to lovers is such a common trope too.

Anything that is taboo is attractive.

Easiest way to make kids not interested in something is for their parents to do it. Easiest way to get them interested is for their parents to forbid them from it.

Pot consumption among teens is plummeting, now that it's legalized and teens see it as something that their lame parents like doing, rather than something cool and illegal.

Honestly, I think it goes deeper than that, I think that many guys that go for trans porn actually are very into it, probably because it's such a "taboo" subject for them.

It's similar to whenever there is a Republican or conservative convention somewhere, immediately it becomes a Grindr hotspot.

There are boat loads of gay / trans people in those extremist communities, because of course there are, and while publicly they will bash anything LGBT, privately they get off on it

See also that mega extremist church pastor that would constantly bash the gays and then got caught snorting coke from a gay prostitute

Edit:to add to this: I think that most trans porn made is not primarily made for trans people, but for men. Similarly to how most gangbang porn also isn't for girls, it's for men. Sure, trans people and girls can watch it, enjoy it, everyone is free to do whatever as long as they don't hurt anyone or thing, as far as I am concerned, but the main audience is just plain men.

They don't even hide it, the Manosphere paradoxaly loves femboys.

Yeah 14 hours of researchin, i really gotta know what to look out for. Yeah and those noises i was frying some chicken, nothing goes better than cock with researchin.