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These are way better than the one liners women send me on bumble. 90% of them are 'where do you want to travel and would you take me?' type crap.
I never got any matches or messages on bumble. I got a lot of dates on hinge and tinder, where I like to think my quality messages made me stand out from the baseline of slop
People on dating apps are single for a reason.
Why are you even still on any dating apps? All you do is complain how awful it is, the other 10% don't seem to be making it worth your while either or you'd not be on those apps.
Because it's the only way to meet women who are single with any regularity and you can sort out incompatibilities easily.
IRL doesn't work. There are no single women I want to date in my life. I mostly meet women who want to cheat on their spouses with me, or otherwise incompatible, which I am not interested in.
Kinda just seems dating doesn't work m8. Genuinely unsure how people found decent partners, and all I can say is cherish what you've got because somehow this society fucked up irrecoverably.
I found my bf on a discord minecraft server ╭( ๐_๐)╮
He teached me some programming basics and apart from that we started to naturally spend more time together so the context is less worse than the first sentence.
Did you see that ludicrous display last night?
The thing about Arsenal is, they always try to walk it in!
Smarter girls ask the boy if he thinks he could take on an animal (cat, snake, gorilla, horse) on a 1v1 fight and how it'd go
good way to assess intelligence, too. You know the guy who says he could take a gorilla is a fucking idiot
What if my strategy is to befriend the gorilla and trick him into a life long friendship filled with mutual benefit? Thats sort of like taking a gorilla.
If you're involved in a friendship with benefits with a hairy ape, you're probably not what she's looking for. Good on you for taking him, though.
And then the conversation came to a dead end and it wasn't until 10 years later that he realized she might have been interested in him
What do women like to talk about?
In my experience, women talk more about life and men talk more about interests.
Same. I want to talk about interests and activities, they want to talk about how awful their life is. And we both end up resenting each other.
I was on a date last week and kept asking her what she wanted to do, where she wanted to go, what plans she had for the future, and all she wanted to do was talk was her ex, her family, and her co-workers at her job. Then at the end of the date she kept telling me how great I was and I was confused, because she had expressed zero interest in me the entire evening and asked me virtually nothing about myself. It was just a vent/therapy session for her and she got what she wanted out of it.
How long do you talk to potential dates before going on the date?
I ask because I usually like to (when I was dating) text/call for 6 weeks before going on an inperson date. Weeded out a lot of bad matches this way..
Six weeks seems excessive, are you sure you haven't just weeded out the people that have just a little less patience than you? Also some people are really good at hiding stuff and drop the real bombs after months or even years.
Yes. Some people are really good at hiding stuff, and then making you to be the villain when they drop it on you and you want to break up. I have had four LTRs, and three of them ended because of lies that no longer held up when living together came up.
Six weeks is unrealistic to the point of self sabotage.
I found the best sequence is like
- opener question
- they give a good response
- follow up
- they give a good response
- maybe repeat once more if there's an obvious follow up
- clear any deal breakers (eg: if you have a kid)
- ask them out
If they don't give good responses, bail.
You're going to get a lot more information meeting in person. Going for drinks or coffee or whatever is a couple hours and few bucks.
I work in a corpo, I hate text/call communication as it's what I do daily. For me it's: an opener, followup or three, then ask them out.
I ask people out after a few messages. I don't have time to waste talking to people for 6 weeks, and frankly they ghost me after a few messages because they also don't want to message back and forth.
The incompatibility isn't in the messaging, it's in the physical face to face date. Just because someone looks cute in their pictures doesn't mean it will translate to any real world attraction. Hence, get to the date as soon as possible and don't build somebody up via messaging. I'm looking for truth, not some fantasy chat bot.
Everyone is positive and wonderful when they message you. It's only person to person, when they feel comfortable, they open up and show you who they really are. Just like most of my exes, were great, until they decided they no longer had to 'make an effort' with me and told me truth about themselves that ended the relationship.
Heck, this woman I'm talking about above, said she likes kids and pets and wanted kids and pets... then on the date, she said the exact opposite. In messaging, she loved her dog, and dogs are great. In person, it was "i only got this dog because my ex likes dogs and I don't really like it but I'm stuck with it until it dies." I encounter that a lot too. A lot of people lie because they want other people to like them and they give the 'popular' answer. But face to face, that is much harder to do than it is text messages. In person it's easy to have a drink or two, and let people talk until they show you what they really feel and think deep down.
I'm looking for something and someone real. I'm never going to get that from texting people or pursuing casual relationships. Only way to get it is legit conversation one on one an getting them to open up. I don't want to interact with someone for weeks or months with them lying to me about how they like kids and dogs when I can get it done in a few days and I can move on to the next person who maybe actually does like kids and dogs and isn't saying they do like them because they want to bone me.
I met my husband on plenty of fish in 2019. I found the method helpful. Of course, there were multiple times it didnt work out before I met him, and I hear what youre saying. It makes sense. Idk. Sorry its been a rough go. I feel bad.
my teenage nephews have the same problem as I do. it's wild. probably because their dates are watching the same nonsense as mine on social media and are CONVINCED that all the horrid advice on there is true, when it's completely destructive. my 17 year old nephew got dumped for not taking his 17 year old girlfriend on a $500 dinner date... and i have literally had the same thing happen to me, more than once. there is some 'advice' out there that claims if a guy doesn't take you on a $500 dinner date, then he isn't serious about you or he's worthless. I've never ever in my life ever even been on such an expensive date, even with long term girlfriends. in 2019 women i would date were happy with $50 dinner dates...
My wife says: "people, places and things". But I'm pretty sure she is just quoting April Ludgate.
They came to the americas and somehow magically managed to not genocide all the people. Clearly superior to the other europeans or simply not yet infected by the capitalist mind virus.
I get my history through manga, strictly manga, so Vinland Saga has taught me that you're wrong and the Vikings would have done so had they not been so embroiled in their own world.
I'm kidding about getting my history through manga. I don't think Vikings would have behaved any differently from the other white people who came to the Americas, though. Just like Native Americans would have absolutely destroyed the white immigrants if they had equivalent firepower before their arrival.
We like to paint these groups as better because our current circumstances are shit, but the reality is they're just more shadows on the wall.
I guess it depends on if we are talking pre christianity vikings or post. Because pre in particular are pretty good at integration. Pretty much to the point they are subsumed. Post on the other hand? Probably more genocide.
All relatively speaking of course.
https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/little-known-role-slavery-viking-society-180975597/
They had a chattel slave economy and practiced human sacrifice. They didn't genocide the Skraelings because the Skraelings got them first.... Probably because they were being Viking dicks.
I don't really care to find the study but we actually do know the Viking invasion of Scotland resulted in a genocide of the Picts that were living in the Hebrides.
There's argument about whether the Vikings are entirely responsible for the destruction of larger Pictish culture but the proof is pretty undeniable that it happened in the Hebrides.
Tl;Dr Kill Vikings on sight, little tip if you ever figure out time travel
They might be chill if they're not actively viking though.
Literally every culture ever before like 1500, give me a break lol
1: "Clearly superior to the other europeans or simply not yet infected by the capitalist mind virus."
(Literally a Germanic supremacist statement from OP there btw)
2: You don't know what you're talking about.
I am asexual but if anyone messages "I wish they'd teach us more about socialism" it's instant love.
I remember that book, in the sense it was given to me. I remember nothing inside it lol.